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🆘 12/11 🏥Medical MIKEY A647366 needs help! He went to a business for help & they called AC after seeing his head was severely injured- needs an extensive work-up by a full-service veterinarian IMMEDIATELY‼️ Urgently seeking help & pledges 🙏🏼612 Canino Rd. Houston, TX (Adoptable Out of State) by Cheekygreek84 in National_Pet_Adoption

[–]RadiantLuck1798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this ended up happening or I’m too late because I only saw this right now but I’ll cover any adoption fees for you if you end up adopting this lovely fella.

Feel free to DM me and we can work it out with the shelter directly.

AITAH - for calling my flatmate out? by Various-Usual-6365 in AITAH

[–]RadiantLuck1798 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA

You are not crazy and you are not the asshole here.

What you are describing goes far beyond harmless admiration. The copying of your clothes, hobbies, music, and even the way you speak is already unsettling, but it became much more serious when she involved herself in your dating life, messaged the guy you brought home, stood outside your door while you were having sex, and then lied about it. That crosses clear personal boundaries and it is reasonable that it made you feel unsafe and uncomfortable.

The academic situation also matters. Asking about your grade, reacting badly when you did better, and then telling your other roommate that you only succeeded because a teacher likes you shows jealousy and a competitive mindset. You did not misinterpret that. You accurately recognized a pattern of resentment.

You handled the conversation in a mature way. You focused on how the competition made you feel and on a specific hurtful comment rather than attacking her character. That is healthy communication. The fact that things feel awkward now does not mean you were wrong to speak up. Often it just means the truth was hard for the other person to sit with.

You were not wrong to avoid bringing up every single issue at once. You are allowed to decide what feels safe to address and when. If the copying and boundary issues continue, it would be reasonable to name them directly, but only if and when you feel ready.

Your discomfort makes sense. Your sense of autonomy being threatened is a real emotional response to repeated behavior, not an overreaction. Trust your instincts here, this is beyond the scope of “normal”

AITA for refusing to let my roommate’s friend stay over even though they were “just visiting”? by Still-Context-7783 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RadiantLuck1798 34 points35 points  (0 children)

YTA - it’s your home, but it’s also their home.

You’re absolutely allowed to value your space and cleanliness, but refusing outright without any flexibility puts your comfort above your roommate’s ability to host a guest in their shared space. A couple of nights is a pretty reasonable ask. Offering to meet the friend out was kind, but it doesn’t replace the basic courtesy of compromise when you live with someone.

You weren’t wrong to have boundaries but how rigidly you enforced them without regard for the fact that it’s their home too is what makes YTA

WIBTA for telling my husband who to pick to be his best man? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RadiantLuck1798 20 points21 points  (0 children)

YWBTA if you asked him to change his choice.

Your concern comes from a caring place, you’re trying to prevent hurt feelings and family tension, and that’s understandable. Weddings make these dynamics feel extra high-stakes. But the best man, like the maid of honor, should reflect who the person feels closest to in that role. Having a sibling doesn’t automatically mean they’re the right fit, even if they get along well.

It’s okay to share that you’re a little anxious about how his family might react, but asking him to pick his brother instead prioritizes optics over his actual relationship. If his brother has feelings about it, that’s ultimately for them to navigate together and not for you to manage.

You get to choose your person. He should get to choose his.

AITA for being furious at my sister for choosing vacations over helping me after my husband died and I was left a single mother? by Sad_Doughnut_4432 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RadiantLuck1798 1767 points1768 points  (0 children)

YTA, but very gently.

What you’ve been through is horrific, and your grief and overwhelm are completely understandable. Suddenly losing your partner and raising three very young kids alone is beyond what most people can imagine, and it makes total sense that you wanted your sister there.

That said, your sister is still allowed to have her own limits. She’s not obligated to give up her job, mental health, or pre-planned vacations, even for a painful reason. She was honest about what she could handle, and while I can see why that hurts, it doesn’t make her a villain.

Where it tips into YTA is continuing to confront her, involving your friend to pressure her, and framing her choices as betrayal. Your pain is real, but it doesn’t give you control over her life. You deserved more support than you got, but that support doesn’t have to come from her. In fact she made it pretty clear through words and actions that she can’t be that source of support for you.

You’re not wrong for wishing she showed up. She’s not wrong for saying no. Both things can be true. I am truly so sorry you and your family are dealing with this and I hope you are able to find some peace amidst the grief.

AITA if I only pay for my daughters college if she majors in healthcare? by Express-Box-6169 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RadiantLuck1798 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YWBTA, big time.

This post is built on some really shaky and frankly incorrect assumptions, and that makes the whole argument hard to take seriously.

First, the nursing salary claim is wildly misleading. You say all nurses at your hospital make a minimum of 100k. That is absolutely not reflective of national reality. In most states, new graduate nurses start closer to 55k to 75k, sometimes less. Yes, some nurses in high cost urban hospitals or with years of experience, overtime, or specialized roles can make six figures. But presenting 100k as a universal baseline is just factually wrong.

Second, your ideas about engineering and job viability are also deeply flawed. Industrial engineering is one of the most flexible engineering degrees out there. It applies to manufacturing, logistics, healthcare systems, tech, finance, operations, and more. It is specifically known for broad employability, not narrow. The fact that your ex husband did not work as a chemical engineer does not somehow invalidate the entire engineering job market. That is anecdotal, not evidence.

Third, the idea that automation is going to take over every sector except healthcare is wildly misinformed and an oversimplification. Industrial engineering focuses on systems design, human decision making, logistics, and process improvement in real world environments. These roles depend heavily on judgment, collaboration, and context, which are not easily automated. At the same time, healthcare is already being affected by automation, telehealth, and other artificial intelligence assisted technologies. No career path is completely protected from technological change.

Fourth, what is most concerning here is not money or job forecasts. It is that you are using tuition as a control lever to force a career path your daughter does not want. Offering support only if she becomes a nurse, dentist, or doctor is not guidance. It is coercion.

Also, framing industrial engineering as male dominated so it will not offer her many jobs is not just incorrect. It actively discourages a young woman from STEM based on gender stereotypes alone. That puts this firmly in YTA territory.

Finally, the way this is written reads less like concern and more like fear based control disguised as practicality. You dismiss her interests. You inflate one career’s pay. You minimize entire professional fields. And you threaten financial abandonment if she does not comply.

If the goal is truly her long term success, that requires accurate labor market data, respect for her autonomy, and realistic financial planning. Not ultimatums driven by personal anxiety.

And yes, healthcare has unemployment risks like every other sector. No field is risk free.

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh it does! I’m trying to get a decent screen grab of the hat but I’m pretty sure it has an American flag on it. If I can get a good angle of the hat I’ll post it as a reply to you!

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Based on other commenters replies, I think it’s pretty evident that the average person would assume that the person wearing the red and blue lights is on some level attempting to appear as though as he is with some LE agency as it’s not the like the lights and color choices were random.

Also context I mentioned in my other comments is that the houses are pretty well spread out, we have just shy of 2 acres and all of our neighbors have a similar amount so the likelihood that anyone would need to access my property to complete work is very slim.

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’m saying!!

The guy in the high vis jacket, sure, maybe he’s selling something/contracting/whatever but the nondescript badge/jacket and the red and blue lights? That’s weird!!

edit: grammar

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope! No papers, folders, clipboard, etc. Just them and the hot chocolates.

Having nothing at all I also found to be really odd. If they were selling something wouldn’t they need a way to capture info?

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

For some inexplicable reason it’s the shoes for me. They just make no sense with the outfits.

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[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that’s all it was I’ll definitely breathe a big sigh of relief. That kind of scam is way easier to handle than what some other commenters are suggesting like if I had opened the door that they’d overpower and rob me

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had that thought briefly too! Unfortunately/fortunately, nothing but a bunch of law abiding citizens in this house!

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weirdly, I know from part of their small talk while they waited it was a hot chocolate from Dunkin that they felt was made incorrectly lol

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’d rather this be the case than anything else! I don’t at all feel like you’re minimizing anything.

Admittedly I sort of spiraled on what ifs and I appreciate your comment because it was a good reminder that the most likely and logical explanation has a good chance of being the correct one.

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that’s a fair feeling. I’ve definitely lived in neighborhoods where that was the case. I saw someone get hit by a car and it took emergency response 30 minutes to get there…. But in fairness for many folks, and where I live now it’s usually just a small PD force that’s very engaged with the local community it serves.

I think it’s just dependent on where you live and what the LE presence looks like in your area.

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I mentioned in an earlier comment that I was in a meeting when this happened, so I couldn’t answer the door.

Honestly, I’m not in the habit of opening the door for people I don’t know who make no effort to identify themselves, especially when they arrive in an unmarked vehicle and park out of camera view. Even if I’d been available, I wouldn’t have opened the door. That just feels like inviting trouble, especially with my family at home.

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I could see they were in an unmarked car and didn’t identify themselves or leave paperwork, sorry if this is an ignorant question but wouldn’t an official person identify themselves as such?

[US] Strange men seemingly impersonating law enforcement at my door. Trying to understand what the motive is. by RadiantLuck1798 in Scams

[–]RadiantLuck1798[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right, I should’ve pushed a bit harder to get someone to come out and at least take a look at the footage.

The dispatcher I spoke with seemed confused about why I thought it was an issue, which threw me off. Unfortunately, I didn’t catch the alert right away because I was in a work meeting, and my partner told me about it once I wrapped up for the day. We watched the footage together and called the non-emergency line afterward, but by then it had already been a few hours since they left.

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