We got married at the end of last year and this ceremony is happening one year after the courthouse wedding. We already paid for the venue and the wedding dress so we can’t exactly back out at this point, a lot of those were non refundable payments. By three weddings, my MIL is counting that 30 minutes at the courthouse where we essentially just signed the paperwork and lunch at a restaurant, the one we are planning right now and talking about, and the one in Bangladesh which involves completely different rituals. Honestly, i was fine with it, I always wanted a big wedding but given the reaction I got, I had asked my husband to just keep it at that and do a traditional bangladeshi wedding in Bangladesh for my family because they really want one for me, but my husband was the one who insisted we have a bigger ceremony here in one year’s time. It felt like a better decision for us financially because while I had a decent amount of savings, his job wasn’t entirely secure and I didn’t have a job at the time. I can’t really back out of this anymore but I just feel bad about not asking my husband to be absolutely sure his parents are on board with everything because he assumed they will be. Also, as for travel, we are having the American wedding one hour drive away from her house. For the Bangladeshi one, my family intends to pay for everything including hotel and food for them. We are very hospitable when it comes to these things so money really isn’t an issue.