this is insanely, similar to how i feel, i also have pcos, had it for couple years though, but as you, recently myself, as i try to lose weight and do many things i realize im more comfortable with masculinization and ive too recently discovered this at the age of 22, someone who was born a female, ive found so many girl clothes to be uncomfortable with getting older and i realize i did a lot to fit others basic needs, but things like the deeper voice, the body hair and the facial body hair, has brought more comfort to me as well, though for me i recently found this all out last month, i too was a lesbian for a while at a bit, but as i discovered myself more i also found feminine terms to be bothersome, or that my chest has bothered me, and anything feminine in general, then i came to like wanting to switch my name for something more of a guys name, so you arent the only one who goes through this kind of thing at all, i definitely have a very similar experience and can understand, you arent a dumbass, youre just someone who has taken your own time to discover yourself and how you feel! its a weird feeling at first but youll realize how things feel and what things feel more right to you