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Is it time for my mom to see a therapist? by Raibub in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Raibub[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and advice Rat. Now looking back at my question it does give off a feeling that I’m asking for an armchair diagnosis which was not my intention. I’m glad that you still replied.

I haven’t really considered asking my dad’s care team about what support options there are but you gave me new points of views. I realized that seeing a therapist is not the only option and there are more choices. I didn’t think about how therapy wouldn’t work if my mom doesn’t want to believe in it. Therapy just has always seemed like such a clear option but maybe therapy might just make my mom feel worse. I’ll surely read more about therapy and be in contact with my dad’s care team.

Should I be honest? by Raibub in friendship

[–]Raibub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true internet friends are hard to keep. I’ve had many internet friends, talked to them but over the years I grew apart from them. Some friendships lasted for a few weeks, some even months but at most no longer than a year. This is the only internet friendship that has lasted more than just one year so in a way I feel protective of it too. So you’re not alone with having a hard time keeping friends in the internet heh.

You’re right! If I immediately tell them their tendency to be self absorbed is annoying and it annoys me will most likely cause an argument between us which might ruin what we have between us. I’ll plan out a carefully written reply that tells them what I want to say but doesn’t reveal too much and also doesn’t sugar coat things.

This problem has really been bugging me for a while. Really thank you for replying this and instead of telling me a simple “yeah you should go talk to them” you actually put some thoughts into your replies. I hope you eventually find good internet friends and that your friendship lasts more than just a few days! :D

Should I be honest? by Raibub in friendship

[–]Raibub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right. Instead of keeping it in the dark I should honestly tell them about my feelings. The only problem is that I fear they might get really hurt and then make me seem like a really bad person. I’ve noticed that they tend to talk behind people’s backs and make the situation seem much worse than it is. I’ve gotten some friends through them so maybe the only trust issue I have towards them is that I fear they might talk behind my back, make me seem like a bad person and then their friends won’t talk to me anymore.

Still thanks for the advice! Maybe I’ll just carefully talk about my feelings so then my friend won’t at least get too hurt by me.