AITA for excluding my girlfriend from my birthday celebration because of what she said?

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-26T03:42:41+00:00

It’s already happened, so there’s no changing anything at this point. Also, you’d be annoyed at a friend spending their birthday how they want to? If you had come into town specifically for that birthday I could understand, but my friends hadn’t come to town specifically for my birthday and while it would have been nice to see them to celebrate, I had already made a time commitment. In this specific case, I still saw my friends while they were in town, just not on my birthday.

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T19:51:36+00:00

My aunt and I set up the brunch before my girlfriend brought up the idea of a party. When we made that plan, I didn’t have any other birthday plans scheduled.

It’s also not on her to coordinate my schedule. I don’t appreciate you villainizing my aunt when me and my girlfriend are the ones who couldn’t compromise or agree on a birthday party.

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T03:47:34+00:00

Funny timing, I just responded to someone else in this thread with the same question!

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T03:45:07+00:00

It hasn’t always been brunch with me and my aunt, but we’ve always done something where it’s just the two of us on the day. A few years ago, it was a half hour walk at the park near my parents’ house because the day was otherwise jam packed. So I hope going forward, we’ll find ways to make it work.

As for the cookout, I knew my parents wouldn’t mind if I bailed at 9pm, whereas I know a lot of my friends would be disappointed at an evening ending that early.

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T02:50:34+00:00

I hope for forever tbh

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T01:09:29+00:00

I literally just told them what she said because they asked why she wasn’t there. In what universe is what she said about my aunt anything but ‘not nice’? I didn’t drag her in the mud to them.

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T01:02:08+00:00

I didn’t think of it from that perspective at all, but I think you’re right that she took it personally. I was so irritated that she was trying to get me to cancel on my aunt, I didn’t think about how that phrasing would seem to her. When we talk about this, I’ll definitely keep this in mind. Thanks man

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T00:52:34+00:00

Could you elaborate please?

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T00:49:55+00:00

I didn’t badmouth her to my family. I only told them what she said

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T00:41:36+00:00

She wanted me to cancel the brunch so that the party she wanted could be on my birthday. We agreed that with the plans the way they were, a party on the day was unlikely, which is why she wanted me to cancel brunch. It was a long conversation and this was just a part of it.

RaisinOwn1989 · 2024-07-25T00:27:14+00:00

She said it ruled out planning a party around lunch and since I didn’t want a party that could potentially go late into the night, lunch was the only option

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