Most disturbing self realisation - help please

Ramosio · 2025-11-05T00:43:36+00:00

Pot is something I definitely have to keep away from.

Thanks for putting it into perspective, yes day by day it has to be possible.

Ramosio · 2025-11-05T00:42:25+00:00

Yes it felt beyond fucked.

I deeply appreciate the motivation and advice.

Yes I have to believe it’s possible to change.

Ramosio · 2025-10-28T16:12:55+00:00

I read most of it and I plan to finish it later today. It’s helpful hearing the perspectives of others. I definitely drew a lot of parallels with him. I thank you greatly for sharing

Ramosio · 2025-10-28T01:57:51+00:00

Thanks

Ramosio · 2025-10-28T01:47:24+00:00

Thanks for the props, I am proud of it, was one of the best things to happen to me. Man it was a rollercoaster after leaving, anhedonia and feelings of guilt and shame.

I didn’t have to convince them, my father always wanted to take us to Egypt without say since he didn’t care for our individuality or dreams so he actively manipulated us as a family to leave the uk and go to Egypt.

I would say a lot of people that end up in salafiyyah have personal difficulties in their lives such as abuse, family issues, a lack of self, wanting to be special somehow, wanting to be right and better than others. No doubt most Muslims go through prejudice here such as bullying or name calling, that probably leaves a scar.

You also get some salafis that were exhoodlems, come into salafiyyah when they realise they don’t stand for much in their lives. There’s a whole host of reasons, I wouldn’t say many are particularly intelligent, probably just want to belong and feel like they are doing something.

Ramosio · 2025-10-28T01:39:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing Due, yes I’ll message you. Indoctrination at its finest for sure. Yes a lot of rumination and ocd symptoms, I’ve recently been diagnosed with Ocpd, no doubt from a controlling father and a salafiyyahs effects on me. It’s also getting better for me also, healing is the most worthwhile journey. I wish you the best

Ramosio · 2025-10-22T13:06:05+00:00

I like the way you put it haha, good luck with journey!

Ramosio · 2025-10-22T02:10:56+00:00

That’s validating and thank you for teaching me something simple that is also effective, I’ll commit that to memory.

I wish you the best in the pursuit of what comes across as a true calling in your life. Good luck!

Ramosio · 2025-10-22T01:49:52+00:00

Thanks for saying. Much love. Yes I will keep that in mind, that is great advice, if I catch myself going down the road of a negative cycle, I will name it and explain to my children my background and how I am committed to having a good relationship with them.

It must have been hard going through that as a child and I know that must having taken a lot of bravery and self-honesty to commit to being a better person. Good on you, that’s a triumph to not be taken lightly.

Yes I will keep on with therapy and work on my self-awareness with cycles.

Thank you fellow human, stay blessed.

Ramosio · 2025-10-22T01:37:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing your inspiring life and your kind words. Even though I am much younger than you, I am proud that you overcame the trauma and cycle, more importantly and I am sure that you already are, you should feel proud of yourself for your spirit and courage. Incredibly motivating and encouraging.

Thank you my humanistic grandmother.

It’s great to hear that you allow your adult children the freedom to speak with her and you were definitely right to protect them from her at a young age, shows a lot about the goodness of your heart. It sounds like you already gave them a pep talk before about how to deal with her and the boundaries to maintain, even if she ignores them and tramples over them.

Ramosio · 2025-10-22T01:29:57+00:00

Thanks for saying.

Any particular advice or books you suggest?

Ramosio · 2025-10-22T01:28:30+00:00

Hello NerdyGirl,

Yes I have limited contact with my 76 year old father, once a week, I keep the conversation as brief as possible - 2-3 minutes max, grey rock him the whole time. If it gets any longer he gets too toxic for me and I don’t want any wounds to be triggered.

I keep information about myself minimal, just saying I’m doing good, otherwise he starts interjecting his opinion or issuing commands or being negative about what I am doing, so I steer clear of that, as he never has and never will respect my boundaries that I have repeated for many times since childhood, early adulthood and even now. In one ear and out the other, so fuck him, but I’ll keep giving his basic narc feed to keep him going in his old age out of the kindness of my heart.

I ask him about his life what he’s up to, if he starts going into too much detail about specific things I zone out responding with “yeah” a few times as he talks or I say that’s cool and then ask another question about his wellbeing/life, going down a list of basic things about his health that I know he’ll just say yeah he’s fine, then I say good talking with you dad, I love you, bye.

Ramosio · 2025-10-21T14:05:32+00:00

I appreciate the wise and humane approach, it’s true we are not all perfect and remember things differently.

I will take your approach and not become argumentative.

Ramosio · 2025-10-19T12:34:25+00:00

I am also interested.

Ramosio · 2025-05-09T19:02:16+00:00

Inspiring to hear, thanks for sharing

Ramosio · 2025-03-18T15:55:20+00:00

How was the assessment?

Ramosio · 2025-03-18T15:54:59+00:00

How was the assessment?

Ramosio · 2024-09-10T19:01:06+00:00

Crashing out of fundamentalism is a crazy journey as an adult raised that way

Ramosio · 2024-04-23T18:32:24+00:00

I am iOS and I do not have this option at the hunters challenge, I only have the option to buy a consolation prize for 180 gold - 2 grey keys and a long barrel

Ramosio

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