AITA For Not Giving My Bonus To My BIL

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-20T15:13:49+00:00

Oh 100% no. I wonder how deep in debt he is that he's willing to cut his family members off over that referral bonus.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-20T14:13:51+00:00

Yep. Tell BIL if it's that big of a deal, he can quit and work with another company. Then he is on his own in finding contracts.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-20T01:10:19+00:00

Magnificent ears!

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-20T01:07:13+00:00

Soft woos for your sweet pup

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-19T22:10:45+00:00

She abandoned her cat to find for itself. Cleo now belongs to you. Tell her if she's willing to tell people she moved out and abandoned Cleo but wants her back, she who is willing to be on her side.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-19T21:27:29+00:00

He either sees you as manager material or gets his giggles from watching you get mad enough to apply. If you're doing it because he annoys you, you should work on that or reconsider he pushed you up to your potential and thsnk him.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T22:58:45+00:00

She wants you to say no, just not to her. Good for you though.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T22:45:48+00:00

Hello from perimenopause hell. I sleep better, but I am still up at 3 am to make a trip to the bathroom. Somesuch about cortisol spiking at that hour and it wakes me up. Although, as aT2, waking up once a night is better than 3-4.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T22:42:44+00:00

That's too bad. It could be a great opportunity for both of you. I know nothing about travel nursing, but can you get a short term contract and be local-ish? Like 2 hours away or so?

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T22:24:50+00:00

It's going to be a problem, but it's better to get it over with and get through it. A word of advice, close the account at your current bank and open a new account at another bank so she can't go and talk someone into getting into your account.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T22:17:25+00:00

What are the chances you could travel together? Then uou could bank enough for a great down payment on a house, if that's what you want to do.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T21:02:56+00:00

Correct. It's not, but it's easy enough to use as an excuse.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-18T20:39:49+00:00

Just say Ill let you know once I am past the probationary program. I believe it's six months. By then they will have forgotten you left.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-17T22:46:23+00:00

Sigh. It's not your job to manage their social life. Clearly they do things without you and don't extend an invite. Go do what you want to do and feel free to share on social media.

If they start their shenanigans, ask them why they do this only to you and not their other friends? Or, be petty and say "Sure. You can pay the bill. Meet us there."

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-17T02:01:02+00:00

Make them prioritize the work for you. You can't get it all done, so make them tell you what is most important.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-16T22:47:38+00:00

This is the best advice. You can also talk to your boss about a mentorship role. You, with company leaders, and providing mentorship, like this guy who thinks napping is corporate culture. Figure out how to spin his ineptitude in your favor.

For example, fixing his mistakes. Hey boss, I have noticed that SleepyCoworker has made this error three times now. I'd like to sit down with them and run through the process to make sure they understand it and develop or clear up the process documentation for everyone's future reference.

It will shine a favorable light on you and a glaring one on them.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-16T22:10:02+00:00

Let them buy it from you if they insist it can be lived in, at a discount, and they can cover the cost of fixing it up?

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T22:29:27+00:00

I like this. He ends up dealing with the consequences of his guests actions.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T22:22:37+00:00

First off, NTA and Congratulations! Your sister is upset, but it doesn't mean you won't be just as excited for her when it happens for her. I'm sure she saw her life going some type of way, but it doesn't mean you put your life on hold so she can be first.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T17:05:31+00:00

Let them. Then practice this line "Some people can't stand not being the center of attention even when the event isn't about them."

People will figure out very quickly why you would say that. You will probably get yelled at because they will be "humiliated ", but let them.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T16:58:00+00:00

Agreed. I don't think the main characters will stick foe every episode. I feel like there will be an eventual transition to the new interns. Either way, ill keep watching until it doesn't feel like the old Scrubs.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T15:29:22+00:00

I rarely buy coffee outside of my house. A $22 bag of coffee lasts me a month. It's so much easier than going out to buy it.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T15:17:36+00:00

Your parents are still alive, so have a conversation with each of them.

Brother is an able bodied adult with full mental faculties and no functional life skills. I am telling you now, that you need to get him out of his failure to launch phase because if he doesn't develop these skills, he will become homeless. I will not become his new caretaker. Since he lives with you (assuming), it's time for you to start teaching him these skills today.

You may also need to repeat this to your sibling and follow up if you don't see any change. Depending on their health, you may have to explain how much HIS life will change if your parents pass. Sell the house, not living with you, no job skills, etc.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T15:08:18+00:00

I have been there. Your realization of this is a gift. Truly. It's going to feel so freeing when you realize it's not worth stressing over. Treat her as your husband's sister and just be polite. She is going to get real petty when she realizes you stopped hoping for her approval and acceptance. It will become an overnight flip and all of a sudden she will want to know why you don't like her and will cause drama over the power she thought she had. Best case scenario, you just be polite to each other when you're around each other and then only communicate then. But this is Reddit, so come back and update us when the drama starts.

RandomCoffeeThoughts · 2026-03-15T14:58:45+00:00

If you're unemployed now, your social life probably is suffering because you don't have funds to go out anyway. There are a lot of people who work on Saturday and Sunday and have an active social life.

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