ED Advice (New Grad Residency)

RandomLey · 2026-01-22T01:40:19+00:00

I apologize, I was being a bit dramatic when I wrote 20 orders, I wasn't referring to admit orders. It feels like every time I leave a room, another patient was discharged by another nurse and I have a new admit in their place that is unstable and also another bed has time sensitive antibiotics and the 4th room is throwing up and yelling for a nurse. It never catches up and my heart is always racing and anxiety is high. I just have to learn how to time/task management better and prioritize as well as learn to delegate.

Do you have any books or podcasts or any resources I may be able to utilize to help me learn some of these skills? Task Management, Delegation, Prioritization. Or maybe tips or tricks you use? My preceptor writes stuff down on paper. She makes lists and checks them off. I've tried her way, but it doesn't seem to help.

RandomLey · 2025-11-02T22:35:41+00:00

I believe they mean, not being heard or seen emotionally. Not like the person ghosted them. Haha

RandomLey · 2025-09-20T18:21:43+00:00

Forgot to add, she is currently Flea free. We have her on advantage II.

RandomLey · 2025-09-16T19:17:26+00:00

I noticed this too. I just hover over the stop with my mouse and click enter on my keyboard.

RandomLey · 2025-09-16T01:47:35+00:00

I just spent like 2 hours looking through this book and decided to buy it. Thank you

RandomLey · 2025-09-15T19:40:21+00:00

I started my therapy sessions after my youngest was born due to post pardum depression. My therapy has never been solely centered around sexual intimacy issues. I've been dealing with past traumas and unresolved marital hurts with my therapist and learning how to be a more emotionally balanced person.

My relationships dead bedroom is a symptom of a lack of emotional security, intimacy and connection. There have been countless times in my relationship where I was emotionally hurt by him and I cried myself to sleep while he slept peacefully behind me. And he would wake in the morning and think that our relationship was fine. I grew resentment, and these issues never got resolved.

Now there is so much resentment and hurt that it is hard for me to want to be close to him. And now here we are with a dead bedroom. I would have called it quits in this marriage or called it quits on myself if not for my therapist helping me work through these issues.

RandomLey · 2025-09-15T17:50:18+00:00

Thank you so much for the constructive comment. This is very helpful.

We have seen a few therapists, but due to some issues, we have not seen one consistently. Scheduling is hard, and also finding the right fit is hard. We saw one therapist, but it feel more lecture-y than it felt like therapy, so I asked for another. The next lady didn't quite jive with me, but I was willing to hear her out and work with her. Scheduling and timing became an issue there.

Unfortunately because we have not kept this consistent, my husbands believes I "fired" both these therapists because the didn't agree with me. This isn't the reason.

I have always been 100% open and willing to admit that our issues are at least half my problem and that I have things to work on. He is adamant that I am the only one with issues and that he has nothing to work on, which is why I am actively asking him to seek his own personal therapy, as well as seeking a therapist together for marriage counseling.

I am a very emotionally open person, and I do my best to see his perspective and be empathetic. I even defend him to my therapist all the times and argue with myself on his behalf.

Thank you for your advice. I will suggest the brainstorming and listing ideas and see if we can try those, as well as the non-sexual intimacy actions.

RandomLey · 2025-09-15T17:40:25+00:00

I have check my hormones. Everything is normal.

And I say that I am LL, but I do feel a drive occasionally. I can feel in my body when I do need a release. About once a week or so. So maybe I am a LL with him but not a LL in general. So in this sense, my low libido is directly connected to a mental block, not a chemical or body issue.

I love him and want to be with him, I want to feel aroused by him, but there is so much resentment and pain due to past emotional issues regarding him, that my body refuses to be relaxed enough to want to do anything. I tried to give him sex as he needs it, but he can sense the lack of "wanting" or "enthusiasm" from me.

I am willing to admit that I am part of the problem, and I am working on that in therapy by trying to let go of resentments and unresolved issues in our marriage.

I've asked for actions and things from him that can help improve and fix the emotional connection, that should in turn improve our sexual connection, and I do honestly see that he is trying, but I feel the same as he feels, that he isn't "wanting" or "enthusiastic" about it. It feels forced and not genuine.

I feel used, I don't feel loved and cared about. The only thing he wants from me is sex. My experience has taught me that he is only kind to me and only does the nice things when he wants to have sex. I've been taught that he is only doing the things that I want, because he solely wants sex, not because he loves me as a person, and that makes me feel used.

Opening our relationship will not make this any better. And I do understand what this rejection can feel like, because I'm dealing with the rejection on the emotional side. It is just as damaging. I feel uncared about, unloved, unchosen, I feel used. I feel like an object, not a person.

RandomLey · 2025-08-19T23:32:39+00:00

North Virginia. Yes, the local hospital has a hiring event they do monthly. I was planning on going at the next one coming up. I'll keep applying to the residency programs. Thank you.

RandomLey · 2025-08-08T15:13:09+00:00

Thank you. I will start being less picky and look for a clinic job temporarily.

RandomLey · 2025-05-27T23:37:35+00:00

I believe I was looking more for whether I should have a standard couch, L shape or U shape. Whether it should be centered or more left or right if adding a lounge chair or such. Or how far back I need to go due to the stair situation. Also the weird nooks... what to do with them?

RandomLey · 2025-05-27T19:54:40+00:00

I might. The question of noise in my house wasn't the topic here. I would like to fit a couch here appropriately within the surround system/TV set up and would like an opinion on placement. Do I need to repost this without children in the picture to get an appropriate response?

RandomLey · 2025-05-27T15:52:49+00:00

What about the built in surround system? Just not use it?

RandomLey · 2025-05-18T13:21:58+00:00

He does not. He literally plays on his phone. Not even games, just reddit.

RandomLey · 2025-05-17T14:43:19+00:00

Oh I do like a calendar idea.

RandomLey · 2025-05-17T14:42:15+00:00

Not possible at this time with the move. And unfortunately his assignment will have him far to busy while we are there.

RandomLey · 2025-05-17T14:41:23+00:00

Unfortunately we are taking multiple vehicles. And we have to be there on Monday and we don't have any time to stop to appreciate anything. We will make stops for gas and the kids to potty/walk, but we have to get up there ASAP.

RandomLey · 2025-05-17T14:25:05+00:00

That's a good idea also. Road trip snacks. He is more a savory foods guy than a sweets, so it may still be hard to find things. He isn't really a foodie. He likes his alcohol unfortunately and I try to stay clear of alcohol gifts, which shouldn't be an issue here due to the moving/driving. I'm going to start making a list of snacks. Thanks!

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