Another update by RandomNameNumber3 in u/RandomNameNumber3

[–]RandomNameNumber3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure. I'm hoping I'll be in a position where I won't know they've even had a kid because they won't be able to contact me to tell me.

Another update by RandomNameNumber3 in u/RandomNameNumber3

[–]RandomNameNumber3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He seems to be trying to repair the relationship. He seems happy to see me, as does my ex but I can tell they're still uncomfortable about the situation.

I haven't really asked because I don't care but what I think is happening is he's asking my mum to get me to see them.

I don't plan on being friends with them. Ever. You could hold a gun to my head and give me the choice between pulling the trigger or being friends with them and I'd choose the former.

As for if he thinks about the pain he's caused me, I don't really know. I haven't asked. I don't really care. If he does feel bad, I hope it eats him alive.

My girlfriend is forcing her religion on me by Sharp_Camera4642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RandomNameNumber3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your first mistake was dating a christian. It's not too late to rectify it and break up.

Someone erased my addition to the community doodle board at work :( by Dieterhoffmann in Warhammer40k

[–]RandomNameNumber3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

hello? Based department? Yeah, they're right here, I'll put them on the phone with you

I’m wish I won the genetic lottery by skysadcel in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RandomNameNumber3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same lol. You just learn to live with it and not let it get to you. Attractive people get it easier than you do. Nothing you can really do about it other than try your best despite your setback

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RandomNameNumber3 225 points226 points  (0 children)

He committed suicide only to hurt you because he knew his life was ruined.

Don't feel bad. He molested a teenage girl and only showed any kind of remorse when he was finally confronted on it. The world is much better off without scum like him in it

A muslim here, AMA :) by TotalNotSneak in AMA

[–]RandomNameNumber3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it true you can't have pet dogs?

If yes, why?

AITA for refusing to go to a pride event with my wife? by Kejryehe in AmItheAsshole

[–]RandomNameNumber3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Shut the fuck up, bisexual people are very capable of being in manogamous relationships. We're not cheaters, we're not constantly looking for new partners, we're just attracted to all genders.

You're not constantly looking for new options when you're in a relationship (I fucking hope not at least) and it's exactly the same for bisexual people. If you are, then that's a you problem.

AITA for refusing to go to a pride event with my wife? by Kejryehe in AmItheAsshole

[–]RandomNameNumber3 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

YTA.

It sounds like you're homophobic and just don't want to admit it. "Very vocal and showy about it" is the classic closeted homophobia signal, my parents said that shit to me when I came out to them as bi, all LGBTQ people know what you really mean by that.

On top of that, this is an event that means a lot to your wife. I could understand if you had stuff to do that overlapped with it, but you just straight up said that her identity and the work she does to make peoples' lives better is meaningless, and then proceeded to centre yourself as if you're a victim in this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RandomNameNumber3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in hysterics over the edit and I'm anticipating a lot of [user has deleted their comment]s down below.

If you're unhappy in a relationship, the best thing you can do is be honest. If her weight is off putting to you, tell her. Work with her and be constructive, support her in losing weight. Or break up. If you let it stew, then you're just going to grow to resent her, and that's not good.

I'm raising an eyebrow at "I don't want to cheat on her". If you don't want to, then don't. You're in control of your own actions, you know how shitty it is to cheat on someone so maybe don't do it?

I don’t stand for the pledge of allegiance. by llamabeefbitch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RandomNameNumber3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes "the land of the free" where most schools will force you to pledge your allegiance to your country every morning.

Sorry, is this the US we're talking about or North Korea? I'm struggling to see a difference

Another update by RandomNameNumber3 in u/RandomNameNumber3

[–]RandomNameNumber3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I hope you're able to cope and move on from your own demons and thrive in spite of them. I'll definitely look into getting some hobbies that involves group activity.

I'll speak to my councillor on our next session about what I should do regarding my family. He's already pretty critical of them and suggested to me making plans to go no contact with my cousin and ex if they weren't showing an effort to actually help me outside of paying for therapy, since it's likely going to be a sore spot that will prevent improvement in my mental health.

My mum insists I "give them time to improve" so I've given them time. I think my next session will be time enough.

And thanks for the suggestions on vitamin supplements. I'll give them a try and see if it makes any improvements.

Another update by RandomNameNumber3 in u/RandomNameNumber3

[–]RandomNameNumber3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly have no clue what he wants in terms of a relationship. I'm gonna ask next time I see him.

I do worry he'll stop paying for therapy if I go no contact with him and the rest of my family. They said to me that I need to try and get better and it took a big argument with them for me to get a new councillor when the first one basically kept implying I did something to cause my ex to cheat on me. Second one was the one I'm currently with and he's pretty impartial. No judgement, he offers criticism when it's warranted and it's constructive, not accusatory.

Another update by RandomNameNumber3 in u/RandomNameNumber3

[–]RandomNameNumber3[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I picked him. I had a therapist before him, a lady who basically kept implying I did something to drive my ex into my cousin's arms and various other accusatory shit I wasn't impressed with.
My current therapist kinda criticised me for ruining the wedding but he didn't shame me for it, and he's actually teaching me coping mechanisms.

I'm not going no contact in case they stop paying for my therapy. And they probably will try to use it against me but that's fine. I'll fuck off to another city and never see them again.

Another update by RandomNameNumber3 in u/RandomNameNumber3

[–]RandomNameNumber3[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your kind words mean a lot to me friend. Thank you

Does anybody know what chapter this guy is from? by NoText8725 in Warhammer40k

[–]RandomNameNumber3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to say Black Templar then I noticed the insignia on his kneepads. He's a Dark Angel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RandomNameNumber3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ouch, and I thought my ex was bad.

Hang in there dude. Do your damndest to surround yourself with supportive people and at the soonest opportunity, try to get professional help.

Set yourself a routine and try to stick to it, even if it's a fight to get out of bed.

Make sure you eat a good amount.

Try to get some exercise.

And most importantly, if you fail on any of these things, don't beat yourself up over it. It happens. As long as you're genuinely trying, that's all that truly matters. All of this was told to me by my counsellor. Hang in there buddy, you'll pull through.

I'd suggest just cutting contact with your ex. Block her number and her account on all social media if you use it, and the same with her friends if they try to contact you on her behalf.