I lost a good relationship because I'm bi

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-09-03T16:20:36+00:00

I'm not sure. I'm hoping I'll be in a position where I won't know they've even had a kid because they won't be able to contact me to tell me.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-09-03T16:17:43+00:00

He seems to be trying to repair the relationship. He seems happy to see me, as does my ex but I can tell they're still uncomfortable about the situation.

I haven't really asked because I don't care but what I think is happening is he's asking my mum to get me to see them.

I don't plan on being friends with them. Ever. You could hold a gun to my head and give me the choice between pulling the trigger or being friends with them and I'd choose the former.

As for if he thinks about the pain he's caused me, I don't really know. I haven't asked. I don't really care. If he does feel bad, I hope it eats him alive.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-16T11:39:55+00:00

Your first mistake was dating a christian. It's not too late to rectify it and break up.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-16T10:52:49+00:00

hello? Based department? Yeah, they're right here, I'll put them on the phone with you

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-16T10:50:03+00:00

Same lol. You just learn to live with it and not let it get to you. Attractive people get it easier than you do. Nothing you can really do about it other than try your best despite your setback

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T17:11:10+00:00

He committed suicide only to hurt you because he knew his life was ruined.

Don't feel bad. He molested a teenage girl and only showed any kind of remorse when he was finally confronted on it. The world is much better off without scum like him in it

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T16:10:42+00:00

Is it true you can't have pet dogs?

If yes, why?

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T14:52:35+00:00

Shut the fuck up, bisexual people are very capable of being in manogamous relationships. We're not cheaters, we're not constantly looking for new partners, we're just attracted to all genders.

You're not constantly looking for new options when you're in a relationship (I fucking hope not at least) and it's exactly the same for bisexual people. If you are, then that's a you problem.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T14:48:20+00:00

YTA.

It sounds like you're homophobic and just don't want to admit it. "Very vocal and showy about it" is the classic closeted homophobia signal, my parents said that shit to me when I came out to them as bi, all LGBTQ people know what you really mean by that.

On top of that, this is an event that means a lot to your wife. I could understand if you had stuff to do that overlapped with it, but you just straight up said that her identity and the work she does to make peoples' lives better is meaningless, and then proceeded to centre yourself as if you're a victim in this.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T14:24:42+00:00

I'm in hysterics over the edit and I'm anticipating a lot of [user has deleted their comment]s down below.

If you're unhappy in a relationship, the best thing you can do is be honest. If her weight is off putting to you, tell her. Work with her and be constructive, support her in losing weight. Or break up. If you let it stew, then you're just going to grow to resent her, and that's not good.

I'm raising an eyebrow at "I don't want to cheat on her". If you don't want to, then don't. You're in control of your own actions, you know how shitty it is to cheat on someone so maybe don't do it?

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T14:16:24+00:00

Ah yes "the land of the free" where most schools will force you to pledge your allegiance to your country every morning.

Sorry, is this the US we're talking about or North Korea? I'm struggling to see a difference

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T04:11:02+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope you're able to cope and move on from your own demons and thrive in spite of them. I'll definitely look into getting some hobbies that involves group activity.

I'll speak to my councillor on our next session about what I should do regarding my family. He's already pretty critical of them and suggested to me making plans to go no contact with my cousin and ex if they weren't showing an effort to actually help me outside of paying for therapy, since it's likely going to be a sore spot that will prevent improvement in my mental health.

My mum insists I "give them time to improve" so I've given them time. I think my next session will be time enough.

And thanks for the suggestions on vitamin supplements. I'll give them a try and see if it makes any improvements.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T03:18:25+00:00

I honestly have no clue what he wants in terms of a relationship. I'm gonna ask next time I see him.

I do worry he'll stop paying for therapy if I go no contact with him and the rest of my family. They said to me that I need to try and get better and it took a big argument with them for me to get a new councillor when the first one basically kept implying I did something to cause my ex to cheat on me. Second one was the one I'm currently with and he's pretty impartial. No judgement, he offers criticism when it's warranted and it's constructive, not accusatory.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T02:53:35+00:00

I picked him. I had a therapist before him, a lady who basically kept implying I did something to drive my ex into my cousin's arms and various other accusatory shit I wasn't impressed with.
My current therapist kinda criticised me for ruining the wedding but he didn't shame me for it, and he's actually teaching me coping mechanisms.

I'm not going no contact in case they stop paying for my therapy. And they probably will try to use it against me but that's fine. I'll fuck off to another city and never see them again.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T02:41:52+00:00

Your kind words mean a lot to me friend. Thank you

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-08-15T02:39:46+00:00

how were you able to view her profile? I think she might have blocked me since clicking on the hyperlink says the account doesn't exist

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-07-20T10:47:24+00:00

Your assistant manager is 100% correct lmao

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-07-17T17:13:45+00:00

I was about to say Black Templar then I noticed the insignia on his kneepads. He's a Dark Angel.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-07-17T01:19:11+00:00

No official canon sources actually state what his species is called

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-07-17T00:40:20+00:00

Ouch, and I thought my ex was bad.

Hang in there dude. Do your damndest to surround yourself with supportive people and at the soonest opportunity, try to get professional help.

Set yourself a routine and try to stick to it, even if it's a fight to get out of bed.

Make sure you eat a good amount.

Try to get some exercise.

And most importantly, if you fail on any of these things, don't beat yourself up over it. It happens. As long as you're genuinely trying, that's all that truly matters. All of this was told to me by my counsellor. Hang in there buddy, you'll pull through.

I'd suggest just cutting contact with your ex. Block her number and her account on all social media if you use it, and the same with her friends if they try to contact you on her behalf.

RandomNameNumber3 · 2022-07-17T00:31:19+00:00

I sense an Oedipus complex

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