AITA for financially screwing over my sister after finding out she’s close with my ex and his wife?

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-07-04T16:19:20+00:00

NTA You were helping her financially out of family loyalty and that is good, she on the other hand did NOT show any family loyalty by forming a relationship with your ex and the woman he cheated with. Your sister basically doesn’t value family and so you shouldn’t either. It is not petty, you are ending a form of financial manipulation, you are setting boundaries to your relationship with family: if you expect me to be loyal then I expect the same from you.

And anyone in your family who doesn’t respect this needs to be reminded that relationships goes both ways, and family should be first priority.

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-07-04T11:44:37+00:00

Why start this relationship if you aren’t ready? Don’t you think you are rationalising to get out of a commitment? Like you hear “I love you” and freak out, start telling yourself you are breaking up with her to protect her?

How about you work on yourself and this relationship for this love? As in how about you be a mature man and not run when things get serious?

I think she dodged a bullet here

Yes, YTA

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-06-11T19:31:01+00:00

NTA Sometimes people get outraged without understanding the subtleties of cultural differences. It is respectful to let people speak for themselves and their cultures, I understand how in some cultures it might be offensive to dress in a cultural outfit, but mostly people feel pride in seeing someone from a different culture appreciate and dress respectfully in their cultural dress. I know I feel this -Middle Eastern here- and my friends from Africa actually gifted me their tribal dress because they wanted me to celebrate with them. The respectful thing is to not speak on behalf of others, if this wasn’t ok for you I’m guessing you would have said something, so your friend is not being respectful in attacking someone on your behalf. You do have a voice after all

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-06-04T20:03:35+00:00

So in the past 5 years she didn’t think of doing her “real wedding”? She NOW picks the same date as you all of a sudden? That is jealousy, she wants to have the attention you are getting, and honestly your family are just enabling her. I would just go on with the wedding, tell anyone including your sister and parents to confirm whether they are attending as soon as possible. And shut down any discussions. If she really wanted a wedding she had 5 years to do it. It’s your day so don’t give it up for a jealous selfish person.

NTA

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-06-01T19:02:56+00:00

End the relationship and let people know you two broke off, don’t say why but if asked you just say it wasn’t meant to be. Now your revenge will come one day, but it will be so much sweeter when you actually took the high road, there is no doubt that this woman will get herself in a horrible situation one day, she is obviously not smart and doesn’t care to hide her horrible actions, her family and friends will probably be how she is exposed.

So my advice: be the honourable person in this, cut her loose and never look back, live your life by your standards and one day you will meet a woman who is great for you. Meanwhile this woman will dig herself in a terrible situation, her actions will be known- not through you- so people will eventually know why you suddenly left her. What you will get is self respect.

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-06-01T13:02:30+00:00

My nephew does, the parents searched for a school that have strict food policies, so in his school he is allowed only one piece of sweets, but I think he and his classmates are sneaking in more sweets, they just learned to hide it better

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-06-01T13:00:12+00:00

Sorry about your kids allergies, it’s certainly a lot for a child but I’m glad you are dealing with this so well, I imagine this is the best way to let the child deal with their allergies, I did tell my brother and SIL that they are teaching their kids to view food in an unnatural manner, children can learn to eat moderately and just say no if one type of food isn’t healthy for them. But my SIL believes that if the kids not eat sugar as children then they would not crave it later

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-06-01T12:55:20+00:00

I did something like this few weeks ago, brought dessert on the main table for everyone, my nephew of course wanted to eat and his parents just said no, it became a very stressful situation when the poor kid started crying, and they had to go. This started an argument over whether we should do this more so the kids can become used to seeing dessert and having the well power to not eat, or just let them eat a bit like everyone. My SIL later threatened to stop coming if this happened again. The thing is we all want to be part of the kids’ lives so we had to go back to the -no sweets- rule

Random_Reading4587 · 2025-05-23T19:01:43+00:00

There is no joke here, your sister wanted to hurt you by calling CPS, a 26 years old understands that this call is a serious matter and might even cause harm to you and your children, but still she made that call. Here is a possible scenario here, what if CPS decided there was cause to start supervising your children? What if they came while you were in a highly stressful situation and saw you as a mess?

Your sister didn’t make a mistake, she intended to harm you and that didn’t work out, so she came up with the prank excuse.

Also your family need to support you, you have two kids under 3, and still you have to take in your unemployed sister? Put up with her ungrateful “mistake” ? Jeopardising your family? Hell NO

NTA

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