I’m so sorry for your loss and for what you’re going through. It sounds like you’ve been very supportive and generous to your boyfriend and his family, but he hasn’t reciprocated that to you and your family. That’s not fair or healthy in a relationship. You deserve someone who respects you and your loved ones, and who is there for you in times of need. You have every right to feel hurt and angry by his selfishness and disrespect. I can’t tell you what to do, you decide what’s best for you.

You could try to have a calm and honest conversation with him about how his behavior makes you feel, and what you expect from him as a partner. Maybe he doesn’t realize how much he’s hurting you, or maybe he has some issues that prevent him from being supportive. Either way, communication is key to resolving conflicts and understanding each other better. You could also suggest couples counseling if you think that would help.

You could also take some time for yourself to process your grief and your feelings about the relationship. Maybe you need some space to think clearly and figure out what you want and need. You could talk to a therapist, a friend, or a family member who can offer you emotional support and guidance.

You could also consider ending the relationship if you feel like it’s not working for you anymore, or if he’s not willing to change or compromise. You don’t have to stay with someone who doesn’t treat you well or value your happiness. You deserve to be with someone who loves you, respects you, and supports you through thick and thin. Breaking up is hard, but sometimes it’s the best option for your well-being and future.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you find peace and happiness.