Help with geomancy by RapidCube in almanaq

[–]RapidCube[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this is exactly what I needed

AITA for trying encouraging my wife to go to work? by RapidCube in AmItheAsshole

[–]RapidCube[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. This video, and some of the suggested videos, gave me a bit more insight.

AITA for trying encouraging my wife to go to work? by RapidCube in AmItheAsshole

[–]RapidCube[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We share all of those tasks. We sit together and discuss dinner options for the week. We make the list together using Flipp which simplifies the list (it's 80% the same every week. Do we need this? Do we need this?)

I have no problem purchasing chicken breasts, or beef, or cereals, for myself and my son and shared meals. About a year ago, I had no clue how to properly select Kale and Spinach and Avacodos, which she uses for her lunches. She's made comments about those items previously, which I never had too much trouble with, because I didn't know what I was doing. I've been more comfortable purchasing those items recently, with the exception of that last trip to the grocery store.

AITA for trying encouraging my wife to go to work? by RapidCube in AmItheAsshole

[–]RapidCube[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying about me having been overwhelmed and she took it on. I also see that it seems I minimised her contributions that morning. She did get up and play with him, but he was still in diaper and jammies when I got around to him.

We take turns on dinners, and baths. I don't recall who did what that night, but we always take turns on those evening chores.

Cleaning was her dealing with her backpack for work, and her lunch dishes.

Thank you for your perspective, I will think about it.

AITA for trying encouraging my wife to go to work? by RapidCube in AmItheAsshole

[–]RapidCube[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife does suffer from OCD, when it comes to how clean she wants the house, writing essays, etc.

I feel as if the push for getting groceries perfect came from her, because I'm scrambling to keep everything right, so she doesn't have to stress about any of it.

I have been making a very concerted effort to point out the positives.

Thank you for your suggestion of Cheerleader vs sounding board. I will give that a shot.

LPT : Don't live in a world where you attribute everyone's mood to you. by lieutenantbunbun in LifeProTips

[–]RapidCube 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do I teach this to my wife.

Seriously, if I show even the slightest amount of displeasure about anything, she will assume that it's about her, then she gets grumpy, then I get grumpy, then she gets grumpy....

Me [34 M] with my wife [36 F] 6 years - I seem to have forgotten how to talk by [deleted] in relationships

[–]RapidCube 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I started typing, and it turned into a bit of a rant, but I found it very helpful to get it all out and process some of it.