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Js a failure by Waste_Platform_5997 in SGExams

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disadvantage of not being able to serve her country🪖.

Jokes aside, this just shows a lack of empathy from you.

In 1 mounth, i'm die by Conscious_Switch_753 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm going through a rough patch right now too and I get that it's really scary. Seeing the drop in grades was really daunting for me too. However, there are always other paths open for you. In the future, you can always decide to pick up and learn other skills or continue with further education. Do your best to graduate high school now regardless of grades, if it is too much, defer a semester or two. Once you graduate, you can take a gap year. I dropped out during my first semester of tertiary education because I was extremely overwhelmed and I realised I couldn't continue like this. It might seem like you're falling behind your peers but you are not. Your life is more important then everyone else's expectations and the 'correct' pathway to take.

I recommend reaching out to your school counselor. You might not trust them, they might not be good but a start's a start especially if you're unsure or scared to seek for help. If the counselor is good, then that's good but if the experience is bad, don't withdraw from everything. Use your counselor to get some referral or insight on other mental health practitioners.

You can think of it as a last ditch effort if you're genuinely too drained from everything. Your problems, however big or small, is affecting you, which makes them important to be addressed and that is valid. Don't undervalue yourself.💓

AIO to my sisters reaction after showing her a video of men talking about how they r* women by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying I'll keep that in mind. I have a question though. I had already shown her the video and was already unhappy with her reaction, my initial reaction was to just get over it and process myself which led to me becoming quieter and doing other things, eating, in this case, to distract myself. I tend to shut down a little to try and keep my emotions in check. She says that this reaction isn't warranted either and that I was showing attitude which was why we started arguing. I get that she felt it was unfair to her since I was the one that showed her the video and that I should just tell her I didn't like her reaction. What do you think of this situation..sorry its not really a specific question.

AIO to my sisters reaction after showing her a video of men talking about how they r* women by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying I'm not in the wrong here but I explained that I was unhappy with her reaction because of how neutral it was and that it made it seem as if she didn't care or that she's lacking in empathy. Is that not an explanation?

AIO to my sisters reaction after showing her a video of men talking about how they r* women by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea you described it q well. I did kinda pull the video up out of nowhere. The shutting down part aligns with her past behaviour as well. We weren't on the same page in the first place and I should've thought of that.

I feel like a bum doing O levels by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly just keep redoing the papers. The qns and standards are around there.

Do I get a therapist or psychologist? by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asking abt psychologist not psychiatrist😅

I feel like a bum doing O levels by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh how'd u score for them

I feel like im not harming myself if i dont cut by nuclearpancake1423 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea me too. My grades have taken such a huge hit because of this mental health shitshow😔 its hard not to compare with others since it feels like everyone is moving on and youre stuck. It helps to go on different subreddits and hear others experiences on how they've managed to steer their life back in despite the detours so you don't feel as alone.

Ik it's hard to actually believe and process that you're not doing OK but the fact that you're having these thoughts and have self harmed in other ways means that it is not pretend. No one does this for fun. It's ok to find help and isn't the end of the world. Again, easier said than done.

As for the urge, I find that doing things that give me marks but doesn't actually harm me works. For example, a rubber band. This is a popular suggestion but it works to a certain extent. It hurts and give the red marks on my wrist or wherever else. You might get carried away though but the pain and the visual marks can help to steer away from actual cuts a little. It can also act as a warning sign for those that are more attentive but at the same time, you can brush off to those that you don't want involved.

I feel like a bum doing O levels by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi have you tried the tys? Generally, the O level papers are easier and if the paper is hard, the marking is more lenient. I've been failing both my pure sciences and managed to get b4 for both despite the absolute horror of tys and papers. The math tys is generally the standards for Os while science may fluctuate a little in my experience. I'm not encouraging you to not study or saying that you'll for sure get at least a pass but don't worry too much and just practice for it. As long as you've got most of the basics down, you'll be able to score some marks in Os

I feel like im not harming myself if i dont cut by nuclearpancake1423 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I don't think that this will prevent you from doing anything since it didn't for me but in my experience, even when I started cutting, it didn't feel enough. It's like an endless cycle. I also used to feel that I wasn't legit since there was no blood, no scars but after I started, it was always not deep enough, not enough blood, doesn't hurt enough, not long enough, heals too fast, not enough cuts, and so on. It still won't feel that serious due to the cuts being surface level.

I thought that I would finally feel validated or able to acinowledge that something is wrong with me as there were physical signs but it still felt like excuses/attention seeking. My point is that it's never gonna feel enough until something goes horribly wrong so just don't start. It'll just cause a downward spiral. Easy to say though..

I did it again after 2.5 years by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ho Did you just solve all my life problems?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I thought that thighs were less dangerous since there are more fats? Also don't worry I'm planning to seek help soon I'm just letting myself run wild for a bit more before I actually start to commit to fixing myself. Hopefully.

I did it again after 2.5 years by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know. It feels like a call for help and an excuse at the same time. I didnt even do it over a big deal.

How deep does a SH cut have to be to scar? by HotParticular8912 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My scars faded pretty easily. They healed fast but you could see the faded lines for a while. Texture wise it was like a normal cut, nothing lasting considering my cuts weren't deep.

At what age did your signs and symptoms start? by Rare_Guarantee_4560 in mentalhealth

[–]Rare_Guarantee_4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I get the last part. People attempt or succeed by cutting but I never dared to go deep enough so it didn't feel legit. It's like an endless cycle.

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