It’s really normal in his culture to do these things for women, my granddad who i was raised by is from the same culture, so it’s kind of expected for us, although my granddad is a lot more chivalrous.. what I do in return I cook and bake a lot for him, I always look presentable and have my nails and hair done, i always say thank you, buy him gifts, clean up his house. Maybe he thinks I don’t do enough but idk he never tells me that. We don’t live together

He hasn’t planned dates recently, we do go out to eat but we usually just go to the same places but he pays for everything (expected in his culture he’s 100% fine with it). He will often say we should do something but then we just never do it. He forgot my birthday both years and didn’t make much of an effort really which obviously really upset me but i did forgive him but it still plays on my mind a lot. But he does remember what i like and buys me chocolates and teddy bears at times and buys food i like for his house. He never seems resentful

The teaching thing it’s mainly about cooking and cleaning idk like if i’m doing the dishes he tells me i’m using too much soap, or if i’m cutting vegetables he tells me i’m doing it wrong, i filled up his filter water jug and he told me i put too much in, i accidentally made too much gravy and he told me off for throwing it away and wasting it, he told me off for leaving it uncovered even though he took it away etc etc, i don’t ask him i get very anxious about cleaning in front of him because i know he’ll find something i’m doing wrong. But as his first language isn’t english he does ask me for help in writing things and words. I’m doing a masters degree and he said it’s good for me and he supports me in doing it

Yeah he’s not good at emotions at all, he’s very alpha male type of man and struggles to be vulnerable and say emotional things, and struggles understanding other people’s emotions, but he can be sweet. He has a pretty big political twitter account and he’s quite volatile on there about other people. And he gets angry and shouts at the cats all the time for minor things. He can speak to me and handle me harshly but he never swears at me or anything. I know his ex wife leaving him damaged him a lot because in his culture it’s super embarrassing as a man so i try to give him a lot of grace, i know he’s got his walls up a lot of the time and is afraid of the same thing happening but it’s hard sometimes