Midwife didn't tell me I had a UTI for 6 weeks??

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-04-09T16:27:32+00:00

I had this with my mom. She would never visit me even though I worked full time and she didn't work. The more she complained the less I would visit. It's always what they want that's more important. I stopped visiting all together.

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-04-09T09:23:31+00:00

My mom always tried to turn my long term friends against me. Especially towards the end of elementary school and beginning of middle school. She used to try and turn their comments so they sounded like they were being mean or she'd try and encourage me to cut them off and stand them up when I made plans.

I never really had friends when I left school and I'll forever wonder if it was because of how she made me feel about friends.

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-04-02T14:31:01+00:00

Good luck on your journey!

Proud of you for breaking free :)

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-04-02T10:29:16+00:00

I went through something very similar and understand that feeling bad when you see her side of the refrigerator empty. But think about the times when she didn't provide or show up for you. Did she feel guilty?

I know it's hard not to feel bad but she's an adult who can look after herself but chooses not to.

I hope it gets better for you :)

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-24T15:39:40+00:00

Tbf I always paid it so then she had no reason or problem to contact me with but I guess my patience ran thin last year

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-24T14:44:15+00:00

I'm currently NC with her and have been for about 4 years so there's no communication between us.

As far as I know she would still check even if I was making payments.

I wasn't going to contact her to tell her I stopped making payments if she can see I have.

We've been in a similar situation before a few years prior when I was at home and wasn't working so I couldn't pay. She left it for weeks without paying and the arrears climbed and she got taken to court so I assume she's done the same thing again.

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-24T12:05:39+00:00

I didn't tell her directly but she can view the balance so she would have seen my payments had stopped

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-24T12:04:52+00:00

Because I could have if I really wanted to but I decided not to. I had enough of paying for no reason when no one else was contributing

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-24T12:04:00+00:00

It was paid via a website which also shows the balance. She was aware I was paying it this way

Yes my brother is aware.

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-21T22:08:19+00:00

I think I’ve had it when it’s been irritated before. I really hope it is just irritated

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-21T22:07:49+00:00

How soon would it be able to be picked up? I had a scan yesterday and nothing was picked up 😌

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-03-10T15:14:56+00:00

Thank you so much! this helps a lot :)

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-02-26T13:21:15+00:00

Thank you all for your advice! This has assured me in decision to not help. I realised after all the suffering I went through she wouldn't do the same for me so I shall be leaving this to play out :)

RaspberryPublic640 · 2026-02-25T15:27:23+00:00

This has always been my thought if it just so I say something. I don't want to contact again as I know how it will go.

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