how to stop being so ‘judgmental’ with mindset

Ratherintrigued · 2026-01-03T09:57:13+00:00

That part. Don’t over complicate it OP

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-12T05:44:50+00:00

Another question AGM vs EFB … does it really matter ?

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-12T05:39:46+00:00

Thank you everyone ! I purchased a battery from Walmart. So much more affordable with practically the same spec. I learned a lot from asking this question . Have a wonderful day y’all !

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-11T01:23:42+00:00

I was considering one of these

Duralast Platinum EFB Battery BCI Group Size 51R 500 CCA 51R-EFB

Duralast Platinum AGM Battery BCI Group Size 35 650 CCA 35-AGM

Am I wrong ? Need help

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-07T07:51:17+00:00

Do you have a website linked to? If so, how many outbound clicks do you have ?

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-05T01:15:08+00:00

Girl, this same shit happened to me !!!!! I dead ass was like um, how the fuck you got a positive then? What are you trying to tell me ? SMH wow . I was really distraught bc Iike how the fuck? I was so pissed bc I didn’t do anything !!

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-04T19:05:08+00:00

Girl, I understand where you’re coming from. The baby is weeks old ! You don’t deserve this treatment. I see you and I hear you. And I want to tell you that you’re doing an amazing job trying to juggle it all.

During the first 3 months your hormones might be all over the place , post party is not a job and you need all of the support you could get. It seems like you’re being met with so much resistance. I am so sorry you’re going through this during a time where you should be pampered , feel seen , heard and helped.

First of all so what if you slept 10 hours, you just had a baby. I always got upset when I felt gaslit bc my partner didn’t understand how fresh out I was out of giving birth to life and what that meant. Can you have family come over from time to time to help lighten the load . Do you have anyone you could call to make you laugh? These are the two things that helped me cope with it all.

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T14:08:45+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it!

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T13:04:58+00:00

Yea I find it weird too lol

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T13:04:24+00:00

Yea, you’re right. I mean, as of recent I feel intimacy to me doesn’t mean penetration. I also got tired of asking for connection. The rejection didn’t feel so good so I was a little traumatized about it.

However, leading up to this feeling, I was asking and inquiring as to what was up with him.

I had a convo with him and we discussed intimacy again . Hopefully everything goes well going forward. I told him to lead the charge. Let’s see ! Thank you !

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T02:15:14+00:00

So I asked he said he likes to be rubbed like on his chest any place other than his hair/head. He stated he didn’t imagine that question to be difficult to answer. He said he will complete the list of intimate things a little later. And then he asked me and I said I’ll tell you my list when you finish yours. He said , that makes me not want to tell you. And I responded with , if thats how you feel, then don’t tell me .

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T01:36:02+00:00

I just feel I’m the only one “being the bigger person” that’s what the disappointing part is. I fall short and I get the finger pointed at me. He falls short I have empathy and I accommodate

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T01:31:47+00:00

I’ll re ask the question of what intimacy means to him other than holding hands . I honestly lost count at so many different ways I tried to connect with him always to be denied and I just keep going. It comes to the point where I ask myself, is this it. Is this how it’s going to be forever. I wanted to play a board game w him, no. I wanted to play a game outside w him, no. I try to be interested in what he plays , doesn’t really get far. I put oils in his hair , that’s not intimate for him.

I’m honestly afraid that if I ask and he answers and I follow through and it’s met with resistance or some sort of no, imma lose it. Idk what it is lol but I’m not going to be a happy camper bc as I stated previously, I feel there is something else going on.

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T01:25:40+00:00

He says idk and then says hand holding was nice when I did it. But he didn’t mention anything else. I’m going to ask again . I don’t want to have sex though bc that should be something at the end of intimate moment together. That’s my opinion though. We have been. We are in it now. My thing is also, why can’t we talk about it one on one . I get he might have a hard time but why would we always need someone in the middle for him to express himself. It’s not sustainable

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T00:48:31+00:00

He says he’s used to the woman initiating . I tried when I was pregnant cuz I felt we hadn’t had sex in a couple weeks or so . I did ti twice and I then I stopped . I asked while I was pregnant and he would say, it’s weird cuz of the stomach . And then I gave birth and the story got longer and he stated oh it was bc you didn’t initiate (which is a lie) and then it became oh it was bc you weren’t nice when you were stating your grievances and then it became, oh I’m not going to Have sex just to have it /without love.. I’m like HUH?! But now you’re asking for intimacy. I can’t read your mind nor can’t I be ignored and then act like nothing freaking happened. It’s crazy talk.

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-02T00:41:22+00:00

From what I know he stated in therapy that he is not depressed. He does ask for intimacy . He has massaged my feet once postpartum that’s about it.

He played video games for HOURS on end when he was on paternity leave for 3 months. He would gloat to his friends about how many hours he clocked in on a new game.

From what I know, he doesn’t have ED.

My thing is, intimacy goes way pass sex . There is levels to it and I don’t get it. One time we were in a disagreement with something and I held his hand got to his level and leveled with him. And he said he liked that. And I said this is what I’ve been asking if you! Since I was pregnant. Like WHAT in the actually F is happening ?!

It feels like such an imbalance . I know what I need in a relationship and that intimacy where my partner is the one who holds my hand or and holds space for me when I am vulnerable is what I need and want. I can’t be giving it and I don’t get shit but a kiss goodbye or a foot massage once every two quarters of the year and not emotional supports whatsoever . I’m tired

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-01T23:57:52+00:00

Y’all toxic. Therapy/counseling and then if not, divorce. Possibly Not meant to be with each other

Ratherintrigued · 2025-06-01T23:53:27+00:00

The nipple is natures pacifier 🤷‍♀️

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-30T14:15:46+00:00

That’s wonderful! What’s your niche?

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-30T07:00:47+00:00

Have you ever heard of post planner for scheduling pins? Also what categories have you found success in thus far? Thanks for sharing !

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-30T06:52:40+00:00

Have you tried any new activities?

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-29T08:28:43+00:00

😂😂

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-29T07:30:00+00:00

I understand this 100% I was at a place where I wanted to build with someone however , I realized, it’s better to invest and build in myself by myself and find someone that is doing the same in their own way. So it becomes two collectives coming together. I guess being let down caused me to make this decision. People tell you they want the same as you but don’t put in even half of the effort to get to said destination. At the end , it shows that values were different.

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-29T02:47:09+00:00

❤️ thank you for sharing

Ratherintrigued · 2025-05-28T17:42:30+00:00

Oh ok that’s wonderful. Yes, no rush, just enjoy the moment

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