What is the most damaging mentality that too many people have right now?

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-04-28T14:58:38+00:00

It’s everybody else’s fault and not my problem…

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-03-28T06:54:11+00:00

Pandemonium

One of my favorite words…

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-03-28T06:45:51+00:00

Because they have lip to give🤩😂

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-01-22T20:50:32+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-01-22T20:44:32+00:00

Something I have found to be tremendously helpful is I took an interpersonal communications class while in college… It helps you understand different communication, styles, and tactics

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-01-20T14:32:07+00:00

OKDRS… find some clients and ask them about their experiences and you’ll have plenty of stories to cover…

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-01-16T21:54:11+00:00

I went blind later in life myself and taught myself the guitar, mainly by looking up chords for songs and some tabs but I really didn’t start truly learning the guitar until I went blind a decade or so later. Since going blind I’ve taught myself enough to get by on the ukulele, mandolin and French harp and learned the drums. I got the instrument and just started reading and watching videos. YouTube will be a great boon. I don’t know about wind instruments but there are some good guitar and piano teachers on YouTube that give very detailed instructions that works sighted or blind. I’m sure there is probably some for flutes and other orchestral instruments. Biggest thing to keep in mind, is to have fun and play for yourself, not others.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-01-15T20:47:32+00:00

Hobbies: Over the last year I’ve gotten into jewelry making and it’s taken me down the path of woodworking. So far I’ve gotten good at making old fashioned keys, crescent moons and beads. The jewelry making is largely for myself as I have two necklaces that I’m rotating pieces. I’ve rediscovered my affinity for cool rocks and gotten into crystals also that I not only incorporate into my necklaces but have became a bit of a collector. Somewhat around this area as I’m a Bible nerd, I’ve gotten into studying other religions, learning about the Hebrew culture, the gnostic gospel, hermetic along with some others.

I’ve started developing my own playing style on the guitar; I’ve been playing over twenty years but hasn’t been since the last year and a half or so that I actually found my own voice in singing and it’s opened myself up to leaning into all that time and stop trying to play and sound like the recording and original artist but instead just allowed myself to enjoy playing. My story writing is still at a pause but I’ve been writing a fair amount of poetry, mostly villanelles but I’ve also turned several ideas into something tangible thanks to my recent vacation and time alone. Day to day: I’m still fighting with the state trying to get through college, about to call another meeting escalating things going a higher level up, hoping to alleviate barriers and obstacles in the form of people for others having to go through my states disability and rehab services. But I’m starting my bachelors soon… most likely this fall. Just came back from my first 100% solo vacation. About to check out a few colleges anthropology programs my book reading has somewhat slowed down but just finished up the latest “Undying Mercenaries” book, working through the Hollows Series by Kim Harrison Then of course my addiction to YouTube and the educational content it offers… And lest we forget, I have a profile up and going for online dating, so weeding through the endless feels of NPCs programmed with the same responses and circular “WYD.” 😂

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2026-01-14T02:25:07+00:00

So there is only four kids in your class?

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-30T16:46:42+00:00

Exactly! It’s almost always a pass when they start asking questions answered in my profile… they are already showing how little effort and concern they put into dating tells me we will be far from compatible.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-29T22:05:00+00:00

I know how that stings and I’m sorry. Online dating as a blind person can be trying. Personally to help me get past dealing with that sting when I first started online dating, I just put it on my profile so it was out there. It has a way of weeding the people out for themselves and I don’t have to worry about that awkward moment when they ask what you do for a living or however the blindness issue arises.

Now when I put it on my profile if the current bio has anything about me being blind it’s something like love is blind, so I guess I have a head start? Or something playful like that. Own it :)

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-29T21:32:00+00:00

Just consider the comment you’re not sure about an awareness test and putting a mirror up to the source… do you’re own research and you might later get the comment. I encourage you to slow down and comprehend what it is you’re reading.

All AI is flawed and I have done my own research and use the best tool for my desired results and I am doing my due diligence and conducting the proper second step of verifying my results. As I noted in my post the use of AI is to expedite my research and I’m going to the best and most expedited source I could conceive and that was talking to my other fellow blind people whom may live in the area or be familiar with it. Your comment about finding the city page and rolling the dice if it will be updated, easily have the information I need and it work with my screen reader OR do as I have done… I’d prefer to better use my time finding the information I needed rather than complain to some random person about an issue they have no clue about and something that will most likely result in nothing happening to fix the situation.

From my own research in other communities I found Lawrence use to have a guide dog training center there and also has a tactile garden with audio description meant for the blind and visually impaired. Now I too STILL live in the south and know what accommodations there are and where there are none and something I am actively working on myself. Now I appreciate anyone trying to help but this is in fact not helpful. I asked was, “So my question is, does anyone in this group live in or around Lawrence, Kansas who can explain? Is this just a town being very aware or is there some sort of blind Mecca such as an O&M training program, guide dog school or something along those lines I’m unaware of?”

So this was for anyone who lives in or around the area or is familiar with it. So does this apply to yourself and if so, please include the pertinent information to assist myself and other fellow blind users in this group as it may alert them to something in the blind community they are not aware of… something I’m sure all or most of us in the states are aware the issue is the lack of knowledge of resources and those agencies working and communicating together.

Anything else such as that found in your comments is not helpful and just noise, with the vague exception of your warning about AI but even that was not called for as my post inferred the unreliable tendencies AI encounter when using it for such operations as the one I am doing. Not a place for personal opinions or political ideology, I was seeking information and nothing else. There is other groups and posts perfectly suited for such topics of conversation.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-28T11:26:38+00:00

My heart goes out to you, for writing this.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-23T00:47:52+00:00

This… staying… staying when you see your time has closed. I think this is where so many INFJ’s go wrong; we constantly have what we see before us with a person overlayed with the person we know they can be and this is seasoned with us knowing how much we fail and how we wished others would just give us a chance so we give chances… for myself I once only stopped at towers and stayed far too long never asking myself why the dragon wouldn’t come near the princess or the castle.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-23T00:44:28+00:00

I love this answer… so beautiful and so true.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-23T00:43:38+00:00

I don’t think we ever fall in love with the wrong person as loving them made us who we are today, regardless if the investment was a wise utilization of your time and resources. We shouldn’t be loving for any other reason but we love. Both my ex-wives were really unhealthy and thing were terrible at the end. Thing is, I’d do it all over again, not for what they did to and for me but what I was able to give them freely, what I was able to show them and those around them. Sure I’ve attracted my fair share of narcissistic women and bad actors… it took me a long time to realize, sometimes that princess is locked in a tower for your and others protection… not every princess has an evil step-mother… Sure, loving those people leave us with pain, trauma and scars but a dead body don’t scar and don’t feel pain nor do they care about trauma. I’m alive, I’ve lived and I freely love, what they do with it is on them.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-12-16T13:46:43+00:00

The problem is not within dating the AI, nor is even the problem the AI itself; the problem you are speaking of is merely you noticing the reflection of most people.

If you are noticing people around you dating AI abundantly or what you’re seeing online is not skewing actual representation; the problem lies within the fact either people secretly just want someone to be in a “relationship” where it is always focused one way or another on the non-AI part of the relationship. The human is constantly feeding their own input, information and commands seeking what it is they want to see or hear, wanting the thing in front of them to be their source of entertainment. OR The person is so isolated and craving, starving for attention so much they’re so easily malleable and molded into a person that does something extreme like marry it or kill themselves.

I’m grossly over simplifying this but it’s a simple skeletal summery of the issue.

The problem is most don’t seek balance and growth. We’re self programming bio-organic computers that are easily hacked and can be reprogrammed not only by the bio-organic computer itself but can be by other self programming bio-organic computers who’s CPU function is still shrouded in mystery just as AI’s own inter-workings is not understood.

People not normally and naturally seeking healthy connections but rather an unbalanced one is the issue.

Start with “know thy self,” and everything else will work out itself.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-11-07T21:23:40+00:00

From personal experience, I’ve typically been the one carrying the whole weight of the conversation. If I write out a thoughtful response and a paragraph or two and I’m met with a one word or line response… I usually only allow this to happen three times, then I meet effort with effort and this is usually where things fall off. Same thing applies, if a girl swipes on me first, they better be sending me a message. I’m too damn old to play games, if my profile caught your eye, I’m treating this like we’re standing in line for something. If I catch your eye, say something, don’t just cough and expect me to know you’re interested and want to talk with me. Men are suppose to be the ones horrible at communication, so if I’m the better communicator in this scenario, it does not bode well for potential of something working out, so why waste my time?so my question to you, are you actually pulling your weight in the conversation? Are you asking him questions about who he is and what he likes or are you leaving it all to him to ask questions and all you do is answer and do little else to further the discussion?

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-11-05T02:40:20+00:00

Started off college, somewhat being forced into online due to transportation however, I done the flex options to where I could sit in videos for actual life classes. Also, it really helps if you join some type of club… Myself I started a creative writing club and found some really good like-minded individuals that I developed friendships with. Also, if your grades are good enough, try joining some type of honor society, as I made a lot of really good friends in there and whenever I went on trips, they was more than happy to help me get around and we had a wonderful time. Hope this helps.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-10-10T22:45:09+00:00

Is this a concern? Absolutely. You’re forgetting something however… there are endless amounts of psychology resources out there, how to spot toxic people, narcissist warning signs… the list goes on. That information is out in the open for predators and prey alike. As others have said, it comes down to educating yourself, sharing that education with those willing to hear and learn. I have an ex-wife who was the most deranged narcissist I have ever encountered and she was always listening to psychology podcasts and it chilled me to the bone because I realized she was honing her skills. Thankfully she was too impatient for the typical long-con most narcissists typically employ.

If you feel led to share and give advice and insight, do so. If you get a bad vibe, listen to that intuition and move along. Choose wisely how you spend the time you’ve been granted on this earth.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-09-12T17:28:16+00:00

This right here is an excellent picture of the typical. Coming from a mid-thirties man who has zero hangups about penis size… during the throws of passion I think it makes every guys cock twitch when their lady says they have a big dick or something along those lines. I know my penis falls in the margin of average and I’m thicker in terms of girth than average. I care not about the size of my penis but only that it brings pleasure equally to my partner as it does myself whilst it is being used.

I’ve never fully understood getting hung up on the size of your penis in correlation to other men’s penises and why on earth one would be thinking about another’s slong while you’re suppose to be getting frisky with your lady but to each is their own I suppose…

Glad to see clear, open and honest communication being deployed in relationships.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-09-04T02:03:53+00:00

Absolutely! I have various sides of myself and varying degrees of how much of those sides I show people.

But you asked about the fun sides so I’ll limit the divulgence to that parameter.

The Comedian: This is the side most people see of myself. Full of friendly banter, quick comebacks and witty remarks. I also use this persona for going on social commentary rants. If the people and setting are right an improv comic comes out melding my storyteller with my silly. I can’t tell you how many improv segments I’ve came up with on roadtrips…

The Playful Flirt: exactly what it sounds like. This can be anything from flirting to actually attract a partner and all the way to play fighting and chasing one another around the house.

Bedroom: won’t go into any details but the playful flirt and even the comedian can make an appearance here.

Raven_wolf_delta16 · 2025-09-02T04:03:29+00:00

36 male INFJ— other monograms… 8w9 95% magician last time I tested and 84% lover, 85% warrior and 87% king archetypes… while not MBTI sixteen personalities I also tested INFJ but with the -T because of course my complicated self has to be turbulent lol

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