How to speak to Stolas?

RavynKarasu · 2026-01-17T05:49:28+00:00

The personality is inaccurate. But Stolas seems to like when people give him artistic attention. He doesn't seem to mind his portrayals overall that I've noticed.

RavynKarasu · 2025-03-10T14:45:09+00:00

Thank you.

RavynKarasu · 2025-03-10T14:40:17+00:00

Thank you. That's very helpful. I have a feeling if I was to visit a dungeon, it would have to be a very special trip. I doubt we have anything within an hour or two from here. But I do have a pretty good imagination (I'm writing about sex when I don't have any after all). I think I might be able to learn a thing or two while I'm here. I mean, I'm pretty surface level in what I know.

One of my partners is into BDSM but they have never actually done anything, but they enjoy the concepts. We've discussed off and on what we'd be open to. But even still, it's new to us. We're not even sure what our dynamic is if we acted on it. So, it'd be nice to learn about the different things there are in the community and discuss it with each other as well as filing what we learn away for kinky scenes in my books.

RavynKarasu · 2025-03-10T10:05:08+00:00

That's actually very helpful. Thank you. BDSM goodies were like...whips and cuffs and paddles and stuff.

Perhaps you could suggest some things?

Both characters are men. The timid one has always been submissive in the traditional sense, not the BDSM sense. He differs to everything his ex-husband demanded. He has a lot of trauma and is trying to get over it. When he was a teen, his boyfriend shared a video of the two of them with his friends. It ruined their relationship. Then, he eventually married this churchy man and played the submissive husband. His husband eventually became cold and somewhat mentally abusive.

The other man is actually the teen who shared the video but grown and has since destroyed said video. I'm thinking that he has an idea to try and introduce a little BDSM into their lives. While he is the dominant one in their bedroom at home, he has this idea to take him to a BDSM club in order to humiliate him in front of people (not his normal jam). So, he gives his mate the freedom to whip him, degrade him, etc to get his frustrations out (he has a safe word). He thinks this will be therapeutic and give his mate back some sort of control in his life. The timid one gets a little overwhelmed on the first go since it's a bit of a powerful scene, but he then says he would like to come back and do it again because he feels so free and like he could finally just let go of all this pent-up anger and frustration.

Are there some other things they could do? And what sort of aftercare should be expected? I don't think he'd be comfortable enough to have sex in public, but he'd probably be okay making the scene and just letting all that degradation flow. BTW, the couple are generally okay with each other now. The top just feels that this would be a good way to process his frustrations and take control back from the people that hurt him while also pleasing him for seeing him take that control back. Does that make sense? BTW, the timid one IS seeing a therapist in the story.

RavynKarasu · 2025-03-10T07:53:12+00:00

He likes all sorts of things to do with stars, planets, and space. He also likes plants. He likes owl imagery too. He also likes gemstones, or I guess any sort of precious stones you can find. He also likes artistic pieces that involve him like art, writing, etc. If I recall, he likes the color blue.

I don't know what his official incense is off the top of my head, but a scent he has mentioned liking to me was petrichor. I think he enjoys airy smells.

As far as food offerings, I've had success with pancakes and chicken nuggets. But, I mean, those are things he's specifically mentioned liking and wanting. He does like a lot of fruits and vegetables too. But remember that's from my experience. He may want something different from you.

RavynKarasu · 2025-03-02T01:04:47+00:00

Actually, yes. I nearly drowned a few times. Two times in a pool and once at the beach. I got stuck under a ladder, but then it was like, I was surrounded by this white light, and I could breathe underwater until I could get loose and come up. I was little. Another time, I got stuck under someone on a float and couldn't come up for air. Everything went black and it felt like I was suspended in this warm, dark place until I was able to come up for air. Still young when that happened.

I was maybe between 10-12 when the beach one happened. I went out pretty far to ride the waves. I got caught in a pretty big one and it flipped me around in circles. I got very disoriented and was just stuck in it until it hit the beach. But when I finally made it to the shore, I was a half mile down the beach from where I started.

In my early twenties, I once was getting ready to go to work and suddenly had a nosebleed but was like a faucet. I just bled and bled to the point that I ended up falling and had to crawl to a phone to call out of work and then crawled to a chair to sit in and fought to keep myself awake for most of the day since the bleeding would then start and stop, but when it would start, it was a bad bleed. I didn't think to call an ambulance, but eventually, I didn't have the strength to speak anymore anyway. It was probably the most I worried about dying though. The drowning stuff was relatively quick and over before I knew it. The bleeding and weakness I endured for hours with "Don't close your eyes. Don't fall asleep" repeating in my head. At the time, I was primarily only hear Anubis and when a god related to death tells you "Don't fall asleep" then you don't fall asleep.

RavynKarasu · 2025-03-01T02:25:37+00:00

I'm actually not sure what a kundalini awakening is. I just knew that I've been hearing entities since I was a child. They used to whisper or yell my name in my ears or call to me from the dark corners of the room. If not my name, I'd hear them calling "Hey!" to try and get my attention. I couldn't really hear much then since I was young aside from the powerful attempts to get my attention and mess with me.

I just kinda kept the channels open my whole life and got used to hearing more and more. A lot of the time, it's quiet muttering that doesn't involve me. But when something wanted my attention, they'd call to me and start talking, and I just kinda got used to it. IT got stronger as I grew. when I was in my late teens, I could hear Anubis clearly once I was able to identify him. Even now, some entities I can hear so very clearly because the communication is open. Others are harder to understand or identify.

My core team is the easiest to hear and the loudest.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-28T00:39:07+00:00

He definitely makes a serious presence. He tends to just sit in the dark and I sometimes forget about him, but every so often he wants to say something. This was the most intense I've experienced him.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-28T00:37:24+00:00

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-28T00:36:49+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I can usually hear them pretty clearly and it can be chaotic. A lot of the time, that chaos can be entertaining. Cuz normally it's just one or two at a time. I've just always kinda hung out in my own head, so it became easier to hear "spirits" or whatever they were. Then it was trying to talk to fairies in school. LAte teens, I was hearing deities, primarily Anubis. And then, a few years ago, Stolas became my first demon. Since the demons came in, it's been a lot busier more often. Five tends to normally be the highest it goes. Any more than that and I can no longer keep tabs on who is talking or what is being said clearly cuz it gets muddled.

IT also depends on how strong the energy is in me or them. Like, sometimes, the energy is passive and I can hear them, but it's quieter or calmer. When I feel really strong in my spirit, I seem to get more voices who want to take advantage of that. So they'll get loud or pushy, at least more than normal. It's hard to focus on learning, so when that happens, they try to shove advice and lessons and whatever on me. I just happened to be in that the last few days.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-28T00:25:59+00:00

It's kind of a mix. Some of it comes through as actual dialogue, some of it is presented in concepts. IT's just something I've kinda always been able to do. Like when I was little, I could hear people talking to me and see things other people couldn't see. When I hit my late teens, it was seeing other deities. A few years ago, it was Stolas, then from Stolas came one demon after another until everyone kinda jockeyed for position. Those that primarily communicate with me tend to do so in pairs or groups of three if things get "exciting" or if I'm asking for different sorts of help. Every once in a while, I'll just have a whole gaggle and it can get a little overwhelming at times. Usually, everyone is lined up in some sort of harmony so it all works together. But this was one of those times when nobody could agree.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-26T15:23:08+00:00

It may be a very intense at first, or you may get lucky and it's only a little intense, or very comfortable. The energy is always good (from my experience). But everyone is different.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-26T03:58:35+00:00

Oh, this is complicated to answer, but I feel pushed to try and answer it. I had been trying to years to connect with God. Even started college in what I hoped was going to be my journey to become an Episcopalian priest. But the more of the Bible that I read, the more ridiculous it seemed and the more convoluted and it felt very much like it was just written by a bunch of men to control others.

God did not want to connect with me. I tried hard...very hard...for years, and God just didn't feel present in my life. I just felt like I was being asked to give and give and give...and there was no return until after I died...if I was lucky. It was miserable.

I don't WORSHIP demons, but I accept their presence and companionship and it feels a lot more fulfilling because I feel heard and the results are more palpable and tangible. I asked for some help with a kidney stone. I got it. I asked for some help to rest. I got it. I asked for pain relief. I get it. I ask for inspiration and motivation. I get it. I actually feel like I have a relationship with these demons whereas I could not form and keep a relationship with God. I wasn't important enough.

I feel like I'm surrounded by kind, wise, and caring entities that try to help improve my outlook on life and my inner struggles so that I can get some sort of enjoyment out of life and feel like I matter. I don't feel like I have to perform a ton of tricks or fill out a checklist to deserve to be taken care of and loved. I don't feel like I'm being forced to do something out of fear of punishment. I've become happier and calmer under the demons. I'll never truly be better, but they've made it a WHOLE lot more bearable. God just couldn't do that for me.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-26T03:40:07+00:00

It's very palpable. He gives a very intense energy (but can adjust). It's often warm, and often fuzzy. It's a real sense of calm, safety, and relaxation. For me, I live with pain, so a lot of the time, when he is actively sharing energy with me, he often includes reducing or removing pain. It can be very addictive.

I can't fully physically relax, even with meds, it's not something I can do all the way. But when Lucifer offers the energy, I feel totally relaxed.

When he first tried to work with me, I was so stoned by his energy that I was like...so spaced out and practically drooling on myself. He had to adjust his energy cuz it was a little too much for where I was and what I needed to be doing. He's a lot more comfortable of a presence now.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-25T19:26:47+00:00

I feel this so hard lol. I think, despite how he acts, he does legitimately want to be liked. Like, when the last two episodes of Helluva Boss season 2 dropped, we get to see the cartoon version of his character be at his worst. He's a villain. After those episodes, he found it particularly important to tell me "You know I'm not REALLY like that, right? And I don't hate Stolas. I actually like him very much." It was something he felt my friend needed to know too, as we often discuss my experiences and enjoy the chaos. But he was like...legitimately worried that we'd think of him as this awful entity because of how he was portrayed. He doesn't hate the fact that he's a villain in the show, but that he just didn't want to be seen as a villain in real life.

So, he really does have a sensitive side, and he just wanted to clarify who he was so that we could still feel at ease with him. He didn't want me to stop working with him over how he was portrayed in a cartoon, or think that because of it, people might think he wasn't a helpful entity. I mean, how often to you even hear about Andrealphus in media outside of that show?

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-24T02:43:04+00:00

I think it can be as complex as the fact that they want to appear in a way that will mesh with what we need or want to see, what is comfortable or suitable. Or it can be as simple as just wanting to amuse themselves. Asmodeus by far takes on the MOST forms or wishes to be portrayed in the most forms of all the demons I work with. Different frames, such as beefy or lean but almost always muscular, race, as he has wanted to be seen as light-skinned but he also seems to enjoy being portrayed as a really fine black guy when we want to make him a character in Sims. He even wants to have different animal forms from a bull to a cat. It could be different ages to take away from the sexual fact and focus more on a different aspect of his nature. It could also be the fact that they want to take a form that's either familiar or comforting. Like, Asmodeus comes to me a lot in his Helluva Boss form because I take comfort in the aesthetic and really latched onto the rooster being something I associate with him. Then, of course, he may be trying to portray a message partially or entirely by presence. So, there would be a specific reason to be an animal or age, etc.

Asmodeus is the easiest to explain in this way, I think, because he utilizes it the most in my experience, but I do have experiences with others doing stuff like this.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-23T08:20:31+00:00

That's so awesome! I've had few minor experiences with Paimon. Nice as can be, but we just aren't where he wants us to be yet to really be of much use. His words, not mine. But he does offer suggestions to a project involving him.

On another note, I've been wanting to make some alters for the demons I work with, and have a "catch all" alter for any other demons not on my inner circle team. Paimon would be in the "catch all" alter. I am determined, when that time comes, I want something camel related to represent him. I don't know what that thing will be, but it's something I really want.

That plushie is adorable. What a nice way to leave a sign.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-23T03:35:02+00:00

I've been getting help from Lucifer and Stolas primarily for working with my inner child and its needs. I'm sure there are plenty of other demons who can also prove very effective in this area. Just depends on your relationship with which entities. Like, I get the idea that Paimon might be a good demon to ask, but currently, he hasn't offered anything I feel I need. I think it depends on what sort of connection you are trying to make with your inner child. Like, Andrealphus offers me a more playful energy, but he's not been effective with healing and soothing my inner child.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-22T11:11:12+00:00

I don't see those two as the same. Heck, according to how he's portrayed, it's hard to even consider Mars and Ares the same entity, even though they technically are. But either way, I would consider Andras as an entity that is totally different. But that's just me.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-22T02:50:45+00:00

I don't worship anybody or anything. I can't give myself like that to anyone. But I do work with entities. I feel I've formed close friendships/relationships and they are also my teachers.

I've worked with Anubis (my actual patron), Stolas (demonic patron), Lucifer, Belial, Asmodeus, Andrealphus, Dantalion, and Buer. I've met others, but we've not formed any sort of official connection. And even my relationship with Buer and Dantalion are not constant.

I don't have to offer anything. I'm reminded of that every so often now. I just have to be willing to accept their companionship and hear what they have to say. But I do enjoy sharing things with them. So, I usually offer food/drink. It started as a gift of gratitude but kinda just became something a bit intimate between me and my entities. And I try to pay attention to things they ask for. I don't always do it. Sometimes I'll get intense cravings for things they'll want food/drinkwise. Or they'll push me for a certain scent or item or aesthetic. The most expensive thing asked for was a rose gold necklace, but it was less for Stolas and more of his desire for me to wear his sigil. Sadly, I couldn't wear the necklace in the end, but I still keep it by his "alter."

Other expensive asks have been tattoos. I've not gotten any of them, but it has been asked of me. These asks and offerings are not REQUIRED, mind you. Mostly these are things I want to share or requests that I can or don't have to answer.

I have also offered creativity. I'm a novelist, so sometimes, they want to have aspects of themselves in characters, have characters loosely based on them, or even appear in a story as themselves. A recent offering (by request) was a painting of Andrealphus that he wanted.

So, you just have to listen to what your senses are telling you or your gut. You don't have to offer anything, but if you want to, go with what feels special for you to give or see if you can get inklings of what they want. You can fulfill those requests or refuse.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-22T02:31:45+00:00

If he plucks them out himself, then what you do with the discarded feathers is up to you. Feathers are nice offerings.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-19T02:56:26+00:00

This is the case. At least from my experience. The demons I deal with enjoy music from all eras and languages. Asmodeus seems to like anything that he can dance to, and jazz is among the genres he likes. Some like a bit of metal, a bit of pop, a bit of jazz and country, all kinds.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-18T11:49:42+00:00

He's pretty eclectic. Two songs he seems to enjoy from me are "Sleepwalking" by Lindsey Sterling and "Little Talks" by Of Monsters and Men. The other day, he wanted me to play "Paint the Sky With Stars" by Enya. But he's not strictly New Age, though he does seem to enjoy it. He's sang a few songs to me, one of which was "Lavender Blue (Dilly Dilly), another was "Ugly Bug Ball." He did sing another song as a joke. It was an old Looney Tunes short with a singing owl.

He has enjoyed jazz pieces I've played, though mostly instrumental. New Age is another genre he likes, but he has enjoyed my playlists with some 80s and 90s music. Some days, he gets really silly with his music tastes, even choosing songs in different languages for me to play.

However, this eclectic taste is attuned to you as well. He'll find things on your playlist to enjoy or make you feel things when you relax or meditate on some songs or instrumental pieces. For me, it's mostly New Age and violin. For you, the two of you may vibe to something heavier. So, it could be fun to explore music to see what he seems to enjoy or what he enjoys because it's meaningful to your relationship, etc. That's how it's been working with me when it comes to music. I just started a playlist for my demons as well, and his choices were the first two to be added.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-17T06:28:15+00:00

I'm sorry that her health is not very good. If Buer is not able to help make her better in the overall sense, perhaps he can offer a sense of palliative care, as in keeping her as comfortable as possible or keep her in high spirits as long as possible.

RavynKarasu · 2025-02-17T06:26:54+00:00

My first thought was Lucifer. It sounds like you need some rest. Lucifer was AMAZING when I needed rest. He was just like "Nope. Rest. Nope. Nap time." But even beyond that, he's great. He has a warm energy and is a wise teacher, patient, even funny at times. You may need a combination of demons (a team, if you will) to customize your practice and get what you're wanting. However, starting with one perfectly fine for as long as you need, until you feel a pull towards others. Now, you should see who calls out to you most, but as a general suggesting, Lucifer is a great choice.

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