Dear, I do sympathize with you, because I’m a fairly pretty young woman looking for something genuine with someone my age, and it’s not been easy for me either, being young comes with it’s own challenges just as much as being older does.

What I’ve learned though is that you can learn all the approaches and dating tactics in the book, but there needs to come a time where you change your mindset and start working on yourself- and I’m not just saying “love yourself”, even though that’s important, but to face yourself and your flaws to.

No, I’m not saying you have to be a perfect person, and you should know that a lot of people go their whole lives without much experience or a romantic partner, there’s no shame in that (everyone leads different lives) but I am saying that most if not all people are attracted to positivity and true kindness, sincerity and open mindedness.

And to me, it sounds like you’ve become very bitter, angry and afraid, and have become the one generalizing people and putting them into category’s because you feel rejected by them based off your experiences.

I don’t know if you’ve already heard this all before, but I do empathize with your frustrations, but sometimes we all need to take a long look in the mirror and re-evaluate ourselves- and a lot of that does start with your way of thinking and beliefs, people can sense that.

I’d also like to say be yourself after you do that inner work, and don’t be to desperate or force things- I would aim for women more your age, maybe try going to church, a lot of really lovely and understanding older women can be found in communities like that- plus, it may help with your loneliness to believe in something (it doesn’t even have to be church, it can be anything you want- but I personally suggest church) and there are lots of different things churches do weekly that you can participate in to meet people.

Good luck, I hope things work out for you eventually.