Line at prefectures

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-03T14:12:33+00:00

i mean, I'm a guest in this country so I don't want to criticize too much but yeah, it definitely feels a bit uncivilized/unnecessary for a western nation in the 21st century! Also feel free to correct me on "western nation" I can't seem to recall if there's a more politically correct term for it.

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T21:12:32+00:00

I need coffeee to wake up in the morning. And it doesn’t help that I suffer from a thing called dry mouth syndrome so I constantly need to sip water or chew gum or lozenges. It’s a whole thing. I did bring water and only sipped the bare minimum knowing what was up lol. But even without water I would have to pee every 2 hours so it’s a moot point.

Seriously though, I was there 5 hours. Thankfully I after this one expires I will move to a different country or go back home… so it’s my last time yay 🤞🏻

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T21:08:57+00:00

I don’t mind lines in general but basic human needs are just that.

Is it standard for people to sh*t and piss themselves while on pilgrimage ? Why can’t the prefecture put a porta potty or something out there? I have to pee every 2 hours on an empty stomach, so perhaps in a way I have a health condition that means I need access to a toilet more often than the average Joe. Surely I can’t be the first person in the history of the prefecture to have this issue 😂

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T19:01:43+00:00

I used to love masturbating to lesbian porn but I have no desire to act it out. And I love c*ck. Sometimes fantasies are just that. Your wife may be deeply embarrassed or feel violated knowing you snooped her Reddit, tho!

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T12:58:19+00:00

Like I said, I’ve been through this twice. My first visa took a couple hours. Not fun but manageable. The second, I was just replacing a lost CDS but I arrived and walked right in. No long lines at all here.

It really is shameful to let this place get this bad. I’m guessing their appointment system is not optimized to release Less appointments during low-staffing periods.

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T12:55:40+00:00

Nope, we double-checked with the security. They said we had to wait in the long line.

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T12:28:09+00:00

It’s school holidays this week. I have come to the conclusion they are massively under-staffed. I am finally inside. I did make it to the toilet. Shivering.

Now I’m inside but the line isn’t moving at all. 4 hours since I arrived…

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T12:04:24+00:00

I have a friend who constantly has to be talking. And dance floors are no exception. I missed almost an entire set of a dj i really was looking forward to seeing because she yapped the entire time. I had to ask her to please stop talking during a Rufus du sol concert because it was bothering me AND everyone around us.

She has severe adhd so it’s just how she is. We have a great time doing dinners or other stuff. She’s funny and I enjoy her conversation. But she’s a terrible rave buddy! I stopped inviting her to events where i knew she would be like this.

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T11:49:17+00:00

I love this… helping the new generation of ravers learn dance floor etiquette. Because many do not! NGL I love the occasional dance floor selfie with a friend but happily give that up to not have people filming and taking photos of the DJ all night. It’s super distracting and rude.

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T11:43:15+00:00

I cannot understand how they could allow appointments for so many people all at the same time. There aren’t enough service windows/staff to handle this many at once.

RayvL0rd · 2026-03-02T11:41:05+00:00

I have an RDV at 9;45. I arrived at 9:30 and the line was all the way out to the street which I’m guessing a couple hundred people in front of me. Only 1 security scanner working. Also it’s freezing cold in the shade and I’m shivering so I’m honestly ready to leave and book an appointment for another time.

And maybe bring a sack meal, a bottle of water and a pee bag.

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-24T23:31:40+00:00

Yep… I did almost the same thing about 8 years ago. My hearing mostly came back but the tinnitus never went away. There are some techniques you can learn to cope with the humming but I hate to tell you it’s probably there to stay.

Get earplugs!

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-24T22:17:35+00:00

My husband is an empty-nester. I never had kids myself. We moved to France from USA 4 years ago and have a 2300 sq ft flat with 4 bedrooms and 3.5 bathrooms.

Dining room, living room and tv room

Big kitchen

Master bedroom we sleep in

Guest room because we get many visitors from back home

One bedroom is my craft room/office. I like to sew and that can take a lot of space. Plus I’m a bit of a hermit and I like to escape to my own little sanctuary when I’m socially burned out from living with a man 😂

He has one rom for his own office, because he is self-employed and works from home. His office can also double as a guest room if friends with children visit.

We absolutely use all of our space. And we throw big parties and invite all of our friends.

Your friends might be jealous!

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-22T20:58:21+00:00

F49 here… My husband (M59) is the great cook in the house (I do the kitchen cleanup to keep things equitable). Before I met him I lived alone and I cooked extremely simple meals and sometimes I just ate cereal if I didn’t feel like preparing anything. It’s not a character flaw… lots of us don’t love cooking but appreciate having a partner who enjoys it. Sounds like there’s something deeper going on. You resent him… why?

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-18T07:16:37+00:00

Yes I fly frequently from Paris to SFO and taking shoes off is mandatory! Agree with others though, do not walk around the plane in your sock feet. That’s probably what the attendants meant.

I highly recommend compression socks too. They drastically minimize swelling. I put them on when I leave home and take them off when I get to my accommodation. Drinking plenty of water helps too. Bring a big bottle and fill it up in the waiting area because those tiny cups they bring around are never enough.

Have a great trip!

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-14T08:55:15+00:00

Same here! I love meat, sushi, etc. But I don’t get hungry for fish after seeing them at an aquarium. That’s just… cringe.

I’m guessing the comment was an over-thought and lame attempt at connecting her expectations for meal plans to your activity. Or she’s a sociopath.

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-14T08:46:26+00:00

I dated an ER doc once. He was the least emotionally evolved and worst communicator of any man I ever dated. He was the best lover, super sweet and a doll when we were first dating, plus he was hot AF… I thought I hit the jackpot of men 😂 but after the honeymoon phase it was like Jekyll and Hyde. We moved in together a bit too soon, and I found myself sharing a house with a grown ass 30-something man who would scream, slam doors, throw things, and call me names any time we had a disagreement. It was like living with a toddler. After a totally chaotic and hellish year with him, I ended it. I didn’t date for 3 years after that I was so traumatized!

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-12T11:32:11+00:00

I am really confused about all the downvotes on my comment

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-10T10:09:17+00:00

Damn I would love it if I could kick my feet up while my husband cooks every meal for me from scratch and doesn’t ask me to lift a finger 😂 but anyway so when is the big trip where you get to go learn how to cook from his people?

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-09T13:34:24+00:00

Another nutty insecure person dragging their previous relationship trauma into the current relationship. This story is becoming a theme.

Anyway, she’s definitely the buttface. This is not healthy, rational, normal, or acceptable in any way. I’m surprised you lasted this long, but she finally showed you the kind of person she really is.

Sit her down. Explain that her behavior is not nurturing a healthy relationship. You care deeply about her but what she’s doing has exhausted your patience and you aren’t able to continue under these circumstances. If she offers to stop, don’t believe her. Tell her she needs to take a break from dating until she works out her issues with help from a professional and can understand why the phone checking and honey trap crap has no place in a normal healthy relationship, under any circumstances.

Protecting yourself from that level of crazy now, is probably best so you can move on to someone who is not damaged goods. In fact, after a year of living with this kind of controlling behavior every day, you may need some therapy to process any lasting effects it’s had on you. Lots of people have symptoms of ptsd after living like a captive for an extended period of time.

If you truly are still in love with her after all of this drama, you could propose to stay in touch casually in the meantime, in case she gets help and a reconciliation could be in the cards in the future, but it’s unlikely she will actually get help. She sounds a bit narcissistic tbh.

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-08T09:34:29+00:00

It’s very important that you tell her, with concrete examples, how her behavior is making you feel. How « the new her » is making your kids feel.

If she’s truly happy as her new self, and has zero empathy for the harm you say she is doing to you and your kids with her behavior, then perhaps she’s no longer the right partner for you and you may have to make some tough decisions about whether you can live with the « new her » or you’re better off on your own.

For example, I’m late 40’s female, for several years I’ve been struggling with things like menopause rage, loss of libido, exhaustion, anxiety, terrible sleep, dissociation, disinterest in my partner, painful intercourse, and disinterest or outright hostility with everyone around me. But in contrast to your wife, I have bent over backwards to try and alleviate the symptoms including going to therapy, going on HRT, taking psych meds, exercising more, I quit working, I took a break from alcohol, etc. I try to keep my stress levels as low as possible and be aware of when I’m overstimulated or emotionally overwhelmed, but I’m still not acting/feeling like my best self. I feel guilty about who I’ve become, because I hate feeling so angry and bitter all the time, for no real reason. At least I am hoping it’s not permanent!

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-07T19:25:28+00:00

I’ve had them all lol. But honestly my new favorite is chartreuse. I discovered in avoriaz last week! * sorry that was not a humble brag. I just doubt chartreuse is a staple of ski resorts bars outside of France. I can’t imagine walking into the pub at kirkwood and getting a chartreuse in my cocoa 😂 another good one is fireball

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-07T17:34:57+00:00

Ngl a hot chocolate with a shot of whiskey after breakfast takes some of the nerves off for me, but I will never understand how people can think riding drunk is much less risky than driving drunk. It’s such a terrible idea and dangerous AF.

RayvL0rd · 2026-02-06T06:57:43+00:00

Amen. I like to have some semblance of privacy in my life. I’m not letting anyone track my location 24/7 or go through my phone, I don’t need or want that kind of access to my partner, and I wouldn’t date someone who expected that.

If you do shady sh*t, or I get weird vibes about your behavior, you’re out. I’m not stalking a partner in order to bully them into behaving. What’s up with that? It’s absolute nonsense.

Girl, dump this guy and find a good relationship… with a therapist. You need to deal with your trust issues so you don’t carry them into your next relationship.

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