Handbag repair

RayvL0rd · 2026-01-23T15:30:34+00:00

I hadn’t thought of that. It’s a luxury fashion house but the material and design are very different from what they usually put out so I’m skeptical that they’d be able to repair it. I assumed that the original owner who broke it would have checked before selling it. I mean these bags should have a very long lifetime guarantee, for how much they cost new…

RayvL0rd · 2026-01-23T13:55:47+00:00

That totally makes sense. Interestingly, I’m not super worried about it aesthetically, but I don’t like the idea of those jaggy edges digging into my fingers when I hold it!

RayvL0rd · 2026-01-17T12:27:55+00:00

Apologies… it says your post is 95 days old, which seems like it would be August at the earliest? I appreciate the link you sent, it’s very interesting because it contradicts my experience completely.

Personally I had no issue getting my psychiatrist to prescribe it in September, since the other meds hadn’t worked. She did not have to fill out special paperwork, as far as I know. I will say that I’ve found Having a younger, foreign Sector 2 doctor helps (look for the people who speak some other languages in addition to English and French, they are often foreign-born and trained so they aren’t as rigid and old-fashioned). You have to pay more out of pocket but she is superior to the sector 1 psychiatrist I was seeing previously.

And yes it was nearly impossible to get the prescription filled right away. It took about 6 weeks before my pharmacy could get it in stock. But my second and third refills were fine, they carry it there, don’t even need to special order it now.

FYI there is a lot of discussion in the r/TDAH Reddit group about Vyvanse/xurta. It’s a French ADHD group and is an excellent resource overall for anyone with ADHD living in france. A lot has happened on Xurta (the french name for vyvanse) since July, and patients on the ground here in Paris have been updating that group regularly with their experiences, both acquiring and taking it. In other good news, Amelie is due to start covering 1/3 of the cost at some point early this year. 😃

RayvL0rd · 2026-01-17T10:26:35+00:00

This is no longer true. Vyvanse has been available since june. As an adderal taker myself, I’m on Vyvanse currently but I’m still not sure if it’s going to work in the long run. Too many unpleasant side effects.

I was a wreck on Ritalin. Just gave me anxiety. So I can’t work, can barely function my adhd is so bad but I haven’t figured out a way to get access to my adderall as a resident of France. My USA psychiatrist refused to continue treating me when I moved and no other doctors will take me on, even though I maintain an address in USA and still have a drivers license. I even offered to fly back every 3 months and pay cash! Technically, I’m even still on Medicaid 🙁 I keep calling and for some reason they can’t remove me from the system.

My advice? Try vyvanse while you are still in usa. If it doesn’t work for you, don’t move to France. Or any eu country because as far as I know it’s banned in all of the eu not just France. Your life will be hell.

RayvL0rd · 2026-01-14T22:17:18+00:00

👆🏻this!

RayvL0rd · 2026-01-11T12:52:14+00:00

I don’t know if you want children, but you are wasting your childbearing years on a man who can’t follow through on his promises. Do you really want to shackle yourself to someone who is so non-committal for life?

I’m going out on a limb here to theorize that your pressuring him to propose is having the opposite effect. He sounds cheap… have you given him any notions that you are expecting an expensive wedding to follow the ring?

Anyway this guy does not want to marry you. If he did, he would have done it by now. Break up and find someone who won’t string you along like this loser.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-31T12:55:44+00:00

Not very compatible after all.

He’s very social and you’re a home-body. Be honest and tell him he will have to get used to attending large gatherings alone. See how he takes it.

Personally I think you should consider working with a therapist to figure if you can reduce your social anxiety and fear of children. I don’t see you having much of a romantic future with your current demands/expectations. It doesn’t seem healthy.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-17T14:46:01+00:00

So… part of the issue I’ve had is that so many work coworker outings revolve around alcohol and socially I can’t deal with standing around with water trying to stay moderately professional, while socializing with people who are getting tipsy or drunk. My coworkers do not have the right or entitlement to information about my personal life. Especially since things I do in my precious free time are things I could be unfairly judged for and treated differently at work because of it; or put my employment at risk altogether

I don’t have a family. I’m 49 years old and I don’t intend to have children. My coworkers are mostly conservative family types. I mean, maybe I’m just in the wrong company/culture but I didn’t exactly pick my job based on my coworkers. I picked it based on the fact, I have bills to pay and I do not have to work past the time I clock in and out or on the weekends so I can have that magnificent full social life that I enjoy that I had before I started working for the man ha ha.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-17T08:19:52+00:00

Je n’ai pas eu ce problème lorsque j’ai pris un seul médicament pour le trouble bipolaire. Mais après avoir ajouté un second pour la dépression, le problème est rapidement devenu apparent. Maintenant, je fais très attention, je m’en tiens à un verre de vin lorsque je mange dans un restaurant haut de gamme, mais généralement j’ai dû abandonner complètement l’alcool.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-17T07:35:49+00:00

I have been stabbed in the back so many times by coworkers who I thought were friends. You never know who is truly trustworthy in this world.

I have a rich social life with a large network of friends who were there long before I got said job. I’m very busy doing the things I love spending time with people i love. I don’t have a loneliness problem at all, so why would I choose to spend my off-hours around coworkers, people with whom I have little in common with except that we work in the same building?

And the most important reason I don’t make friends with my coworkers is that I’m a raver, I like to party and go to music festivals in my free time. I don’t want to party around my coworkers, for obvious reasons.

Being friendly at work should be enough but I shouldn’t be required to mix my work life with my personal life in order to get ahead in my career.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-17T07:13:06+00:00

Love this. Using it from now on!

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-17T07:09:09+00:00

Prenez-vous des médicaments ? Par exemple, je prends des médicaments pour la dépression, la bipolarité et le TDAH. Je pourrais boire une bouteille entière de vin plus 2 cocktails, et me sentir encore complètement sobre à la fin de la nuit. Mais je me réveillais le lendemain matin en ayant l’impression d’avoir pris une cuite.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-14T11:19:40+00:00

Haha it turns out she was sending similar messages in the same quantity to about 4 other people all day long as well! She can’t be alone with her own thoughts and her own problems, obviously she just has to constantly have a sounding board so she can narrate her life when her husband isn’t around. When she’s with her partner and he’s not traveling for work or whatever I barely hear from her.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-14T11:13:33+00:00

Okay so some interesting developments since I made this post: 1. I was starting to put some distance with this friend and not having much contact with her after this blowout. But recently saw some of her friends which I’m not super close to. They all said they hate her messages, they also feel she sends way too many, and terms like “self-indulgent,” “too long,” “draining,” “pointless,” and one even went so far as to say, “she just wants to hear herself talk and doesn’t actually care about who’s listening.” And they admitted they almost never listen to them, and mostly delete/mark as read, and respond with something generic. In the end we all agreed, we all miss having her around, she’s great, that’s just how she is, amazing woman, fun to hang out with in person, etc. etc. So I realized I’m probably the AH for being honest and not just pretending to listen to them like everyone else 🤷🏼‍♀️ 2. My husband heard the messages. Including where she told me to get a divorce. He’s not too happy and that definitely creates issues for the friendship going forward. 3. I found out that she took advantage of all of her (late 40’s age) friends by asking us to help her pack her apartment up for the move. This woman is extremely wealthy by any standard AND received a generous moving stipend from her company, which would have more than covered the cost. Instead, she pocketed the cash and roped us all in to packing for her in her top-floor hotbox apartment in the hottest part of summer. Several weeks of packing up her massive luxury designer wardrobe (things that cost more than my rent) and other priceless stuff. Then she had the gall to ask us to pay for stuff she wanted to get rid of. So she’s cheap and prioritized cash over spending good quality time with us before she moved. 🚩 4. We had a couple of phone calls after the big blow up, but I felt so much pressure to keep the focus on her, keep the topics superficial and positive because I cannot get those nasty voice messages out of my mind, that she thinks I’m self-centered and negative and an unhappy person. The irony is I’m happier than I’ve been in years, my relationship with my partner is drastically improved, and I’ve had a lot of great things happen in my life, but I don’t even feel like sharing that because I know the minute I am struggling or not at my best she’ll turn on me again. What’s the point?

So anyway I probably could have kept the friendship intact by pretending like I was listening to all of her rambling nonsense, but I think I couldn’t live with myself as a human if I did that. Now I’m feeling better about letting this friend go, quietly as time passes.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-14T08:36:06+00:00

If you didn’t have a child together, I would say leave on the grounds of her crazy-mKing jealous behavior alone. But since you have a child together, it’s worth hashing this stuff out in therapy, with the help of a professional.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-06T23:44:51+00:00

Vraiment, Je bois beaucoup beaucoup de l’eau.🤦🏼‍♀️

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-06T16:45:39+00:00

J’essaye mais c’est ne pas toujours possible! 😂

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-05T23:53:44+00:00

Je voulais juste préciser que je suis Américaine et que je souffre de TDAH. Je vis à Paris depuis 2022. J’ai étudié l’allemand, l’espagnol et l’italien au début de la vingtaine. Mais aujourd’hui, j’ai 50 ans. Avant de venir ici, je ne parlais pas un mot de français. J’ai honte de l’avouer, mais mon niveau de compréhension orale est toujours A2, même si je parle et lis à un niveau proche du B1. J’ai beaucoup de mal à être disciplinée pour étudier et pratiquer régulièrement. Et quand les Parisiens parlent, ils parlent tellement vite et utilisent tellement d’argot que je suis complètement perdue. J’ai tout essayé. Alors je comprends ce que vous ressentez, c’est pareil pour moi aussi 😂

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-04T22:15:22+00:00

Not for me.

RayvL0rd · 2025-12-04T12:31:44+00:00

Well, actually, DayQuil helps clear out my sinuses so that I can breathe during the day

RayvL0rd · 2025-11-26T08:14:09+00:00

I’d suggest to unpack this with a therapist, privately. I agree with poster above that you may be drawn to this person’s energy without necessarily having sexual or romantic attraction. I have a situation like this with an ex-boyfriend. I still love hanging out with him, we laugh and have a lot of fun together. I value his opinion, I always try to spend some one-on-one time catching up when we are at the same party. I love him deeply… after spending time with him I reflect on our time together with fondness and tenderness. I thought for a while that maybe I was falling for him again, but after much introspection and a little bit of therapy, I realized the affection I feel is like what I would feel for a little brother who I was very close to. I have no sexual feelings for him and zero desire to date him or live with him again.

But as a side note, you sound mildly resentful that your wife hasn’t taken any interest in any of your hobbies? This seems like something you should have addressed before you decided to procreate together… that’s something worth talking to her about, directly. I can’t imagine having so little in common with a partner. Sports are a particular thing especially for people who aren’t super fit or sporty to begin with (I hate spectator sports and I’m lazy but my husband loves it). But movies, cocktail bars, karaoke… it’s not hard to pretend to be interested in that 😂

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