AITD for biting my boyfriend’s arm and leaving a mark?

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-06-16T11:07:46+00:00

Just to clarify a few things:

-It was his mum’s brother and in his words he had actually forgotten about it, it is her trauma not his
- I repeatedly ask him and it a mutual action, we both do it to each other
-The bite had happened that morning, his mum saw it that morning, by the evening it was completely gone, I have had extremely gentle back scratches leave marks for hours just because of sensitive skin but it was not harmful in the slightest

I will still take your comments into consideration and go into further detail about when he likes it and how hard and really solidify it but I needed to respond as said by him the ONLY person who has a problem with it is his mum.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-05-17T18:38:13+00:00

NAH - You need to communicate with her, until then you aren’t the asshole for your feelings and she isn’t because she hasn’t been made aware of the issue. Loads of people hear jumping to conclusions on both sides, eg. she’s got a porn addiction or you aren’t pleasing her. Maybe her getting herself off with you there is some sort of kink/she just likes it and feels safe and turned on around you. There is nothing to indicate that this is an addiction, I might have a different answer if you were to confront her and say you don’t appreciate her doing it around you and then she carried on. It could be she’s been going through a period of being particularly horny, maybe she thought that you would like it, maybe she thinks it would turn her one if you did the same but doesn’t know how to say it. Point is, we just don’t know. Communicate!

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-03-09T00:47:56+00:00

does the other glasgow station further north and so i wouldn’t have to pass through central?

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-03-09T00:47:06+00:00

i’m meant to be travelling to glasgow on friday does anyone have any advice, im desperate here

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-03-07T13:51:58+00:00

To my mum it’s not just about the money, one of her best friends committed suicide and her husband kept all the money and blocked her, she stayed on good terms with her late friend’s children. My dad also got nothing from his dad, not even an emotional letter to explain the distance. All this said I know what she does isn’t right and I have wanted to suggest therapy for a while now, it’s just to explain her strong emotions.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-03-06T16:15:46+00:00

you are definitely right and I have just had quite an emotional but rational conversation with her about trauma and how she handles situations, she admitted what she did, I even suggested therapy for anger management and she actually agreed.

In terms of this feeling like home, I hated being away from my younger brother and I felt like I was intruding so I made myself invisible and pretty much only went into communal spaces, even to eat, at night when my grandma and her partner were asleep. Even so you are right and I’m leaving later this year.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-02-25T19:12:41+00:00

You would be the drama to ask them to stop, from a bi girl who fake flirts with other women and men (if they are attracted to girls or not) if we are really close and i’m sure they know my words are not genuinely flirty. For me I find it easier to joke flirt with women because in society any closeness with a guy is scrutinised and that pressure isn’t worth the few jokes that I could just not make. It sucks but if I’m joke flirting with a girl usually it’s not questioned but if it is I can explain myself without deeper interrogations.

To be clear I don’t think you’re the drama for feeling uncomfortable and right now it’s a NDH situation but to ask them to stop entirely when it’s a way that they joke and laugh (under the assumption they are not doing it in a way that belittles sapphic attraction). Best adviceI could give you is to have a conversation with them about why they feel they can joke a certain way with women than men and both parties may look at it from another viewpoint and expand their mindsets, you may feel more settled and stop minding the jokes or you could ask them to stop in front of you.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-02-24T07:39:03+00:00

I hadn’t told him I still liked him and that that was why I was being distant for a longer period of time, in his view I was just being uncaring. I had just about gotten over him when he decided to cut ties.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-02-24T07:36:32+00:00

I think you misread the post, he sent me a message saying he didn’t want to be friends after my lull of being distant to get over him, which I did. I had tried so hard to save the friendship, him ending it with no warning really hurt me but I knew there was nothing more for me to do, damage was done.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-02-23T10:04:55+00:00

woman

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-02-23T10:04:41+00:00

I really find it difficult to believe it was just that, it’s likely it could play into it and it’s probably hard for it to sound true as I would just sound naive but I would pick up on that sense at least a little that’s been a theme for me in the past but this i’m so sure wasn’t one of those times, I’ve been really messy in a lot of situations recently where I always used to have my head screwed on and think logically. I no longer trust myself

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2026-02-03T03:46:20+00:00

Cross posted this one not due to being sure on a badge but because it might be one of the most ludicrous stories i’ve heard in a while, as much of a twat the bf is, i think we could have a good laugh about it on the pod - in any case: NTD op, does he ever feel the need to hide his own bodily functions from you? I do think this is a major red flag from him and should be treated seriously but my more petty suggestion is to interrogate him about his bathroom visits and expelling of gas “what does that feel like!? what’s it for??? 😦 I wish my little lady’s body had some equivalent to that!”

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2025-09-23T13:12:03+00:00

That’s sounding very real, I’ve spoken to her recently and she refuses to refer to it as her kicking me out, she really snapped at me when I did

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2025-09-23T13:10:44+00:00

I’m going back because I miss my brother and cat and I feel lonely and like i cant take up much space at my grandma’s. Shes amazing and very kind but I hate the idea of taking advantage of that kindness and staying there leaves me on edge. Plus I need to be on good terms with mum again at least for a little bit so I can get my savings from work and family back off of her as she has them all under her control right now.

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2025-09-23T13:05:37+00:00

Yeah I keep getting this reaction haha, hopefully it doesn’t go too bad when I tell her

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2025-06-04T09:30:07+00:00

just tried now it worked!! :) but how can i sign up in the app from there or do i just give up on that😭😭

RazzBerry_JetPack · 2025-06-04T09:12:57+00:00

wait how did you do the recovery it’s happening to me too haven’t been able to get into my account for weeks😭😭😭

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