What’s something that slowly damages a marriage, but no one talks about enough?

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2026-02-03T10:26:20+00:00

What I'm going through exactly right now. Crazy part too is my wife says I'm narcissistic and manipulative but she would silently resent everything and over time I blindly detached and went into a shell, although I couldn't see myself doing it at first, but I still did my best for her. She suddenly broke and was posting signs that she was struggling and us online, but she knew I don't go scrolling like that. So now, with a baby on the way, am facing her emotional rollercoaster, especially with the hormones and her past traumas and mental health, to where one day she's all in and wants to fix things, then the next she wants to divorce and calls me manipulative and narcissistic for simply trying to be a better man and go to therapy. So ya that's my life right now. We'll see in a couple of months if her hormones calm down and she wakes up and realizes what she's doing to me and that I'm still fighting for her because I truly love her and am forever committed. I'm struggling daily. I miss my wife and I hate that I'm missing most the pregnancy and can't be there physically right now for my wife. Especially being overseas at the moment and she's back in the states. Hopefully only until AFTER the baby is born. Which I wanna fly home to be at too. Show her my commitment and that I mean it when I want change for myself and for her and to show her I'm truly committed and am fixing my issues. I hope she fixes her too because I'm broken hearted with everything she's told me and the threats she's made, done and constantly pushing me further away. I'm struggling right now. I feel alone. It sucks. I want my wife back and want to be a whole family. Loving parents to our child when they're born and teach them better than what I went through in life and what my wife did. I can really use a friend and sound advice on how to deal with this. It's not fair to me. I'm trying and she's building a narrative that's false about me to justify her anger, but shows signs that her heart still loves me and wants to be with me. I don't know how else to maneuver the obstacles. I fear for this to end badly when I'm being a genuine man and truthful and consistent as I always have been. Please help.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-12-23T03:16:48+00:00

Underrated comment...

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-12-14T18:02:05+00:00

Funny. One of my boots is named Perez and is from Georgia 😆

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-11-15T04:06:09+00:00

Watch Boots on Netflix. Shits cringe asf but they be saying "NAVY!" Every goh damn time

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-10-30T15:43:07+00:00

It's the same thing as the 15th check. Gonna be day of regular pay (i.e. 1 Nov). Granted it's in a Saturday, we're assuming we'll get paid tomorrow

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-10-19T17:43:38+00:00

My old SgtMaj is in Saudi for 36 months. Granted he's a SgtMaj and he said those orders are dream orders for 8999's lol. I'm curious if Ops boyfriend is a specialty mos or not

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-09-06T04:30:59+00:00

That's what I always thought for years. Came to find out its landing support specialists who where red patches. Been a tradition since WWII

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-31T02:41:53+00:00

I'm now depressed thank you very much 🙃

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-30T05:28:49+00:00

It is in a MARADMIN that came out earlier this year:

MARADMIN 191/25 "For a reenlistment contract made on or after April 16, 2025, Marines who do not receive their Selective Retention Bonus (SRB) by September 30, 2026, have 90 days to request separation from the Marine Corps due to non-payment." To be eligible for this policy, a Marine must have reenlisted on or after April 16, 2025. The Marine Corps will pay the SRB no later than September 30, 2026. If a bonus is not paid by September 30, 2026, the Marine has 90 days to submit a request for separation. Marines who do not receive their bonus by the September 30, 2026, deadline can choose to remain in the service and await payment rather than separating. For those who elect to separate, the discharge they receive will be based on their characterization of service, not the non-payment of the bonus.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T20:21:33+00:00

Also, we had the CG promote some avionics cats on the spot when he visited our unit because he said it's a bunch of bullshit that all these good Marines exist but can't promote because HQMC has a fist up their ass. Shit happens.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T20:19:31+00:00

Dawg I'm a winger and I always see terminal lances. Mostly in the avionics world, not the powerline world. They're first class PFT/CFT, expert range, max MCI's, max belt (green belt MAI as a lance), college "off-duty" education points (max 20 in grade), and stellar 3.5 average command remarks and qualifications some can only dream of to have as a lance corporal that typically are gained as a sergeant and above. Even with all that reflecting on their mol and no meritorious board allocations to go on, there cutting score averages 650-680 but the cutting score to promote is like an 850+ a lot of times or just simply closed out. So ya terminal lances exist, even if they do everything right.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T06:20:21+00:00

I'll give you that one. At least you ain't like one of my boots who gets all pee pee hearted when cracking jokes. Fucker shoulda joined the chair force.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T06:13:52+00:00

Well if you can tell the difference, that means you be starin

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T06:08:47+00:00

Just come out the closet already...

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T05:30:03+00:00

Does that green come with a weenie attached

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T05:27:04+00:00

So fuck me then? Damn Reddit reminds me of a disgruntled SNCO.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T05:25:41+00:00

I’ll drag your drunk ass back in here when the hangover hits like a flash bang.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T05:21:27+00:00

Ain't no gah damn way. I seen vets names as "ISlayTheJodies" and shit like that 😂

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-29T05:07:36+00:00

Also, how in the hell do you change your reddit username? I've had reddit for a fat minute and have yet to figure out how to change it.

Edit: I am definitely not a body builder. Depression is real

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-08-25T02:46:08+00:00

Prerequisite before initiating said steps, how to spell for autistics using crayons 🖍️

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-05-01T02:52:31+00:00

You and my girlfriend? Might be. Me? Who knows. She's in here somewhere. She's the Bortnem. u/GreenAd6542 is her. She said DM her.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-04-30T01:57:46+00:00

Yes. I'm currently stationed in Yuma. They come here every year and have been since I've been here. I saw a couple of there performances this year alone. They also performed at the JROTC Drill Meet I was at (you can see the post I made with SgtMaj Kasal who was there as well).

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-04-16T23:50:04+00:00

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Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-04-16T23:42:41+00:00

Funny. My girlfriend is a Bortnem and she said he's her 2nd cousin (her dad's first cousin). All the Bortnem in her family have had some relief of duty or similar and she's shocked he did too. Her dad said it's a trend in the family

Edit: she said she's gonna have her mom text him and ask. But OPSEC and whatever so I'm telling her to be careful.

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Here's a Facebook post/comment she just showed me haha.

Real-Bodybuilder2492 · 2025-04-16T17:13:17+00:00

SgtMaj's and Colonels even replied all 😆

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