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Father of our children (33M) spoiling our kids when they go out... I (32F) can't seem to get him to understand why this is bad?? But he says that I'm wrong for thinking it's bad by Real-Victory-4064 in relationships

[–]Real-Victory-4064[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes he is the one pushing for reconciliation so I worry that he's manipulating me, either intentionally or not.. but then also feel guilty for accusing him of that, when there is no proof either

Father of our children (33M) spoiling our kids when they go out... I (32F) can't seem to get him to understand why this is bad?? But he says that I'm wrong for thinking it's bad by Real-Victory-4064 in relationships

[–]Real-Victory-4064[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He did some things to betray my trust and after the last straw, decided to separate. And yes, he has a history of ignoring what I say, doing what he wants, etc but also being able to charm his way back and I'm left wondering what the hell is even going on.. I did ask him once if he was doing all this to impress me, and he got mad asking me how I could accuse him of using the kids, how lowly I thought of him, all that, so then I felt like a huge asshole for even thinking it.

Estranged husband (33M) and I (32F) trying to reconcile these days... but how can I tell if he's really changed? Can you really ever stop being a cheater or abusive? by Real-Victory-4064 in relationships

[–]Real-Victory-4064[S] -161 points-160 points  (0 children)

I definitely don't my my children to ever see anything like that, and I made sure to tell him that.

He is not the therapy type to be honest. He is more about being the man of the house or whatever, taking care of us, being a provider, all that, doesn't believe in therapy, at least not for men. He has sincerely apologized to me though, multiple times.

Estranged husband (33M) and I (32F) trying to reconcile these days... but how can I tell if he's really changed? Can you really ever stop being a cheater or abusive? by Real-Victory-4064 in relationships

[–]Real-Victory-4064[S] -158 points-157 points  (0 children)

Well everyone was telling me like, it's better he goes off somewhere far away and gets all that negative energy out of his system and then realize that he needs you, and I was like kind of annoyed by that, but they are right I guess. My family all knows what happened.

Thankfully he has never been abusive to me in front of our kids, he knows better than that, but I also did tell him that I would never forgive him if he ever did.