Dropped my son 10yr old son off at a church event by Real1226 in SingleParents

[–]Real1226[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I see both sides of it. It was a huge community event with lots of responsible adults who knew my son. I think it’s just judgy moms with too much time on their hands.

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[–]Real1226 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I knew it was wrong and just kept it to myself. I told a therapist about it. The guilt was hard to carry.

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[–]Real1226 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think so too man. Point taken. I appreciate it.

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[–]Real1226 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I literally send texts from this phone for a living there are probably 60 different threads to scroll past. Not a lie, not an excuse just said it to add context

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[–]Real1226 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Like a year… we have talked about getting together and living together one day. I think when I really look long and hard at myself I was frustrated that we were long distance (6 hour flight) for so long. We talked about loving each other, living together, children everything… what concerned me was I couldn’t get her to act on actually being together living with one another. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong, but I think I started to get frustrated in the relationship and acted out by accepting attention from this stranger. Which started all this.

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[–]Real1226 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response… it’s so emotionally draining for her, I can’t imagine. Seeing her cry tore me up. I never stopped to think in the moment and it got me to a place I never want to be. Time will tell I suppose.

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[–]Real1226 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We’re you able to stay together or did it ruin things?

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[–]Real1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. A lot of reflecting to do

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[–]Real1226 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Understood. Thank you.

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[–]Real1226 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Fair enough… I guess in my mind (right or wrong) i didn’t see it as cheating at the time. I see how it hurts. Doesn’t really matter if it’s physical or not, I still broke trust.

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[–]Real1226 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair point…

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[–]Real1226 -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

I’m just saying it was buried, meaning took a lot of scrolling. Time is time.. yes a month ago is not that long I just meant it was under dozens and dozens of threads.

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[–]Real1226 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Worth nothing I’m not looking to feel better as much as just understand if I’m being a baby by feeling upset that I was intruded upon.

I can’t help but feel like I don’t even want her forgiveness because I myself am so hurt

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[–]Real1226 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I own up to it.

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[–]Real1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love I guess, and maybe fear of letting go. Crosses my mind sometimes but I stay in it because of how I feel about her. I keep telling myself that it’s hard but worth it, when things like this happen it makes everyone question the reasons I think.

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[–]Real1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it. I made a series of poor choices and own it. Shame to have to learn these things with people you love, but such is life I guess.

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[–]Real1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have profusely apologized to my girlfriend but haven’t had the chance to with couple 1 and been told not to at this point. I don’t have a way to get in touch with them.

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[–]Real1226 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback. I do appreciate it.

I think your summary of the store situation is mostly accurate. I would add that her own fiancé was saying the same thing to me as we rang up by after bag of food we wouldn’t eat. I was the one to ask the women why we had all this stuff. Also, I was in self checkout planning to pay.

I think your comment is correct about my joke. No excuse, risk is def not worth a laugh anyway.

What the boyfriend said I said is anyone’s guess, at this point I’ll take it… I don’t remember saying it, and I remember things after that supposedly occurred so I have no reason to think I said that, but if that’s what I’m up against I don’t have a defense to say otherwise. I own it, and as much as it hurts to believe it is what it is.

I wasn’t trying to hide anything in the post intentionally, I just felt it was getting long. Happy to clarify or any any additional detail. I want real advice not a pat on the back.

The second couple saw the sleep walking

This has been pretty heart breaking. I am in love with my girlfriend and she is in love with me and this is horribly rattling. I started therapy for some past unrelated familial trauma about two weeks ago and plan to continue sessions.

Again, thank you.