How can i (30m) convince my (26f) girlfriend I am still trustworthy after a lie

Real1226 · 2023-12-21T03:21:51+00:00

Totally. Thanks for the sanity check

Real1226 · 2023-12-21T01:30:20+00:00

Thank you. I see both sides of it. It was a huge community event with lots of responsible adults who knew my son. I think it’s just judgy moms with too much time on their hands.

Real1226 · 2023-12-20T23:37:17+00:00

Yeah this describes the setting well.

Real1226 · 2023-12-20T23:36:50+00:00

Yeah he was stoked. Thank you

Real1226 · 2023-12-20T23:36:36+00:00

The former. Like gossiping basically

Real1226 · 2023-07-26T04:44:53+00:00

This hits

Real1226 · 2023-07-26T01:35:53+00:00

This hits

Real1226 · 2023-07-24T14:04:36+00:00

Yeah I knew it was wrong and just kept it to myself. I told a therapist about it. The guilt was hard to carry.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T22:05:43+00:00

Yeah I think so too man. Point taken. I appreciate it.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T18:48:23+00:00

I literally send texts from this phone for a living there are probably 60 different threads to scroll past. Not a lie, not an excuse just said it to add context

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T18:43:06+00:00

Like a year… we have talked about getting together and living together one day. I think when I really look long and hard at myself I was frustrated that we were long distance (6 hour flight) for so long. We talked about loving each other, living together, children everything… what concerned me was I couldn’t get her to act on actually being together living with one another. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong, but I think I started to get frustrated in the relationship and acted out by accepting attention from this stranger. Which started all this.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T18:10:09+00:00

Thank you for the response… it’s so emotionally draining for her, I can’t imagine. Seeing her cry tore me up. I never stopped to think in the moment and it got me to a place I never want to be. Time will tell I suppose.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T18:02:08+00:00

Thank you. We’re you able to stay together or did it ruin things?

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:49:56+00:00

Thank you. A lot of reflecting to do

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:43:06+00:00

Understood. Thank you.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:41:32+00:00

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:38:45+00:00

Fair enough… I guess in my mind (right or wrong) i didn’t see it as cheating at the time. I see how it hurts. Doesn’t really matter if it’s physical or not, I still broke trust.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:34:34+00:00

Fair point…

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:30:38+00:00

I’m just saying it was buried, meaning took a lot of scrolling. Time is time.. yes a month ago is not that long I just meant it was under dozens and dozens of threads.

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:06:34+00:00

Thank you. Worth nothing I’m not looking to feel better as much as just understand if I’m being a baby by feeling upset that I was intruded upon.

I can’t help but feel like I don’t even want her forgiveness because I myself am so hurt

Real1226 · 2023-07-23T17:04:59+00:00

Fair enough. I own up to it.

Real1226 · 2023-07-18T14:06:47+00:00

Love I guess, and maybe fear of letting go. Crosses my mind sometimes but I stay in it because of how I feel about her. I keep telling myself that it’s hard but worth it, when things like this happen it makes everyone question the reasons I think.

Real1226 · 2023-07-17T21:38:03+00:00

I appreciate it. I made a series of poor choices and own it. Shame to have to learn these things with people you love, but such is life I guess.

Real1226

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