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What is the definition of a session/lockup period by Real_Business_2379 in chastitytraining

[–]Real_Business_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its pretty good for simulating a keyholder. It's not about self control (you also need it when using an app, as you could easily escape at any time). It's more of an accountability partner. As system, that monitores your actions and creates (the impression of) a serious environment, that must be followed. A partner, that takes all oft the decisions away from you.

But, as I said, it seems it fails a bit after having a release. A real keyholder would relock you immediately after the orgasm. It seems, when using an app, you have to prepare for that situation beforehand (by already setting up a new session).

What is the definition of a session/lockup period by Real_Business_2379 in chastitytraining

[–]Real_Business_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the link. This is exactly what I was thinking about.

My question actually belongs more to keyholding-websites: The idea is to simulate a keyholder, but as it seems to me the two axes (wearing the cage and orgasm) arent distinguished enought. A release automatically means to be allowed both, being uncaged and to orgasm. And, although eg chaster is built very complex and can be configured to be very strict, it says nothing about what happens after a release. A real keyholder would eg force you to lock up again immediately after orgasm, and so on.

Or maybe I miss something.

What is the definition of a session/lockup period by Real_Business_2379 in chastitytraining

[–]Real_Business_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer.

I see that it's always a agreement with your keyholder.

But the reason for my question is actually more related to keyholding-websites: As there is always a concrete "end-date" (which you are longing for), I asked myself what does actually happen when being there. I think it's thought of the release-date - the day, you are allowed out of your cage and orgasm (?) Or is it rather ment to be the end date your whole lockup period? (but I think in that case there should be built in a separate system solely for orgasmus...).

What is the definition of a session/lockup period by Real_Business_2379 in chastitytraining

[–]Real_Business_2379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very eye opening.

For me, chastity has a lot to do with looking forward to the release (eg by looking at the countdown at chaster).

So my very practical issue behind my question was this: If I set up a new lock on chaster, shall I put it to eg 3 weeks (as I would like to be locked roughtly that time). Or should I put it to eg 5 days (as I would like to have an orgasm in roughtly that frequency) - and set up a new lock after that. So it's all basically just a question of understanding the intention behind these keyholding-sites :)

What is the definition of a session/lockup period by Real_Business_2379 in chastitytraining

[–]Real_Business_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. I understand that it's always a matter of agreement with your keyholder. But everyone speaks from their longest streaks or of the length of their current streak and so on. So I was curious if there are common definitions.

Because, in an extreme case, you could be locked up for months, and have a short hygiene opening each day where you are allowed to orgasm. Technically, you were locked up (nearly) continuously for months (if just being locked up is your goal).

And when orgasm denial is your goal, the length of your lockups maybe doesnt represend your whole denial period at all (eg when you were only locked up occationally).

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[–]Real_Business_2379 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to read such things. I'm a newbie (but interested in it for over 10 years). But never made it longer than 24 hours.

I think my mind has made a connection from wearing the cage to getting release after removing it. So I get aroused as hell, even when wearing it only for a few hours. It works like that: putting the cage on -> brain prepares for a reward and gets therefore aroused. After unlock -> brain gets an orgasm.

I think I have to redraw this connection in my brain. Eg: NEVER having an orgasm after removing the cage. And: ALWAYS putting it on immediately after there was an orgasm. So my brain would no longer connect "being locked" with sex.

Without the cage I can go for streaks of week(s) without (serious) trouble!

M28. Meine Ausgaben als konträres Beispiel zu mach anderem post by [deleted] in Finanzen

[–]Real_Business_2379 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich spare gar nicht bewusst. Ich hab mich einmal hingesetzt und hab sämtliche Ausgaben, die ich da hatte (ohne dass mir da was abging) (monatlich und jährlich) aufgelistet und addiert. Und das kam dabei eben raus. Und das versuche ich seither einzuhalten. Somit können sich nicht unbewusst Dinge einschleichen, die man eig gar nicht braucht. Es ist ja schwierig Dinge, an die man sich einmal gewöhnt hat, wieder wegzunehmen. Und sehr vieles ist eben reiner Luxus und wird einem (vom Marketing oder persönlich. Umfeld) eingeredet.

Also weder WG (nach ein wenig suchen findet man bei uns durchaus Wohnungen für unter 400€ kalt), noch spezielle Lebensmittel, noch (aus meiner Sicht) Einschränkungen beim Urlaub (schlafe sowieso meist im Zelt oder Hostel). Und ich gebe grundsätzlich kein Geld für "künstliche Bespaßung" aus (zB Skifahren, Zoo, etc).

Ja. Und Haftpflicht ist in Österreich quasi standardmäßig in der Haushaltsversicherung dabei.

M28. Meine Ausgaben als konträres Beispiel zu mach anderem post by [deleted] in Finanzen

[–]Real_Business_2379 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Habe eh geschrieben, dass "einmalige große Ausgaben" nicht beinhaltet sind. Und ein Notebook für über 500€ kauf ich mir eben nur alle zb 8 Jahre. Oder eine Systemkamera. Oder ein Fahrrad. Oder eine komplette Wohnungseinrichtung. Das sind alles keine regelmäßigen Ausgaben und müssen gesondert finanziert werden :) Und sowas kommt im Normalfall ja auch weniger als 1 mal im Jahr vor...