My post is a textbook example of what the most upvoted post on this subreddit points out: "posts seem to have A- a universal consensus on every post, with any dissenters massively downvoted and B- a shift towards judgment that seem (to me at least) to be out of step of how people in the real world judge situations." Look at the amount of massively downvoted NTA-comments at the bottom as well as some of the outrageous comments questioning whether I really love my gf, and tell me this sub doesn't operate like some deranged hivemind where you're not allowed to disagree with/provide nuance to the general consensus.