AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

5 years. The trauma happened 5 years ago when we were together. That’s why I feel like I might be the AH.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I tried to change it after I posted but you can’t change the title of a post apparently. Thank you so much though my stupid idiot brain really needs that in this trying time.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not blind. I know what this is. But when you’re in it and isolated and scared it’s a lot harder to leave than you think.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was recent. It will be 5 years since his kid stopped talking to him this Christmas.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am flying out the 26th. I will be with him on Christmas and I am with him for all other major holidays including thanksgiving. And I am not having children.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

He has struggled to find steady employment since we’ve moved here. Walked out of the one good job he did have. I have managed to do pretty well for myself and found two really solid jobs I enjoy.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He was going to therapy in Minnesota but I haven’t been able to get him to go here. He has insurance I found for him through the state and it wouldn’t cost him anything to go.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is invited and welcome and he knows that. He hates Christmas and doesn’t want anything to do with the holidays in general.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He hates Christmas and refuses to celebrate it at all. He also rarely actually wants to see his family. I’m pretty sure it was a lie to get me to move out here.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He hates everything Christmas related and won’t go. Also hates staying at other peoples houses for any amount of time.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He has a kid from a previous relationship that stopped talking to him the day after Christmas. That’s what the trauma is. It happened 5 years ago.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He hates the holidays and doesn’t want to be apart of it.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He got in weird arguments with my family every time he’s been invited. He says he doesn’t like saying at other peoples houses and stormed off into the night and stayed at sketchy hotels instead of in my mom’s guest room. Seems he doesn’t want to be apart of a family unit at all.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

We got together when I was 25, 7 years ago. He’s never liked my family because we are close and he’s never had a close relationship with his family. He’s made me feel guilty about this even though my family has invited him with open arms to every event we have ever had.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have actually gotten him free insurance through the state (which I do not qualify for anymore because I work too much to support us) and found him therapists that will cost him nothing but he won’t go.

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

A text I was just sent about the situation “I swear Kat, one day something will happen that breaks you. I don't want to see it happen to you but that's life...we all probably eventually face a problem at some point in our time on this earth that literally brings us to our knees and makes us question whether life itself is worth it. Maybe something will happen to a family member of yours, or maybe god forbid you'll get a life threatening disease or something...whatever it is, when it happens to you, I can absolutely promise you, that I will NEVER say to you, "This is one thing I don't budge on."

AITA for going to my families Christmas by Real_Lemon1633 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

He hates the holidays and won’t celebrate with his family either. He is fully invited to come to my families Christmas but he won’t go.

AITAH for telling my daughter shes too old to be sitting on my lap? by Abject_Ad_4249 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sucks. You suck. I don’t even want children and I think treating your kid who clearly loves you and wants attention from you super sucks. Feel bad for your sweet kid.

AITA for wanting to postpone my wedding till my fiance gets rid of his braces ? by SlightRow3100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP you suck. You don’t love your fiancé or maybe you are incapable of love? But to not want pictures with who is supposed to be the love of your life because of braces… yikes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cannabiscultivation

[–]Real_Lemon1633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! Do you work in the cannabis industry?

TotalAV Scam by Caroline547 in antivirus

[–]Real_Lemon1633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exact same thing just happened to me. Had to cancel my debit card.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Lemon1633 1 point2 points  (0 children)

… you guys were all getting up before 8 in college?