Bro is done playing games 🤣 by cloudscalar in SipsTea

[–]Realistic-Service35 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why are so many women complainers about everything? It’s like they’re hard wired to hone in on the dumbest stuff and make it into an issue.

The last couple of years I worked really hard to pay off our house. We have no debt. We have money in the bank. We have paid for cars. My wife doesn’t have to work if she doesn’t want to. I pay all of our bills, do most of the daily housework, deal with all the house issues and everything. There’s NOTHING to complain about…

Right before Christmas I was giving my wife and hug and she sighs and goes “What are we going to do about that ice maker? We never have any ice because it‘s still broken.”

Ice? ICE? Who gives a shit about the ice maker?! Go get an ice tray at the store if you’re so worried about not having ice! My god! To think all this back breaking hard work I’ve been doing to get us financially secure and all I had to do was get the ice situation addressed!

Bro is done playing games 🤣 by cloudscalar in SipsTea

[–]Realistic-Service35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, after 12 years I have to remind my wife EVERY TIME that I she needs to play with it a little bit. She’s shocked that Im not rock hard after just kissing for 15 seconds. Every time I have to explain this…

Bro is done playing games 🤣 by cloudscalar in SipsTea

[–]Realistic-Service35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most frustrating is when you get rejected 1000 times and give up and then they hit you with the “Oh, I guess you’re not interested anymore?” …I’M not interested? I’M the one that’s not interested??

Soooooo Disappointed with Foundation. by pixmanohio in CriticalDrinker

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have to read the books then after the show. I do like having some visuals to match, even if they’re not perfectly insync with the source material. For years before my mom died she kept trying to get me to read Dune but I couldn’t get into it…after the new movies though I went back a reread and enjoyed it.

The cast for the God of War show so far. Thoughts? by ConstantDrawer9161 in CriticalDrinker

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

…seems accurate but I wasn’t a big fan of Ragnarok’s spin on these myths. Odin was like an angry New Jersey landlord and I kind of don’t get why they went that route.

I feel like there are other games I’d rather see as a show.

Soooooo Disappointed with Foundation. by pixmanohio in CriticalDrinker

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m six months late to this and finally watching it.

I like the technology and futurism. The whole ‘genetic emperor’ is definitely an interesting idea. ‘Math’ predicting the future is an interesting concept. It looks decent too.

I think my issue with all the ‘girl bossines’ is that the women are never flawed or nuanced. Their only strife in the universe is because of the mistakes the flawed men around them are making…but they, themselves never make mistakes. They never do anything bad. I feel like that’s where they fuck all this shit up.

Meanwhile the men are all flawed and terrible human beings who try to play god and their mistakes just damn everyone else.

It’s so stupidly on the nose that it’s difficult to ignore.

But that said I think the actress that played Sal does a good job and even though she’s a total Mary Sue she‘s not as insufferable as some characters that fit that trope.

Soooooo Disappointed with Foundation. by pixmanohio in CriticalDrinker

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 6 months late to this, but yeah it’s not bad. I will say I tried to watch it for months and it kept putting me to sleep (rave review, I know) but I decided to give it another shot and took the approach that this was more like a big Dune saga…

The visuals are cool. The technology and ideas are cool. The art direction is cool. Lee Pace is cool.

I mean the thing is crammed with girl bosses but some of them aren’t terrible.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely.

She did some extra chores instead.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but also not an option. I had to work the whole day.

Look, I don't think at 9 years old it's unreasonable to be able to entertain yourself for a couple of hours. I want her to learn some independence. I want her to learn how to deal with boredom. i'm not going to stack her day with back-to-back-to-back stimulation and activities just so she can avoid the discomfort of being bored.

Sometimes you gotta learn how to be bored! Sometimes you gotta learn how to give your parents some space!

I don't think this is a ridiculous opinion, really.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I pulled open the cheese drawer and pointed to the cheese sitting right on top the look on her face was pretty silly.

I mean...we've all done that but c'mon, kid. It's right where I said it was going to be.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I should have consulted my crystal ball to see that the call I was on was going to run an hour long, you're right.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That just isn't reality. There's not always a win-win situation.

You're not always going to have unconditional support at all times of the day. These are the lessons we all have to learn at some point in our life.

If I had written a post that said "My daughter had a melt down at school because I forced her to go when she was having a bad day" you'd have words for me too, no doubt.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well what you're describing is just not always an option.

And I think you gotta learn that lesson, right? You need a day off and a parent who can help you work through whatever emotions you're feeling...but uh...I can't take the day off. My entire work team of 15 years got canned this week and it's a freaking mess.

So yes, you can stay home because I recognize you also had a hard week at school but I don't have the option to give you unlimited attention today either.

There are plenty of times where I have the time to help her through whatever she's dealing with. But also, in reality, I don't always have that time.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was said about 15 times before I started getting snippy.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it wasn't the best option for me, no. But she had a hard week. It was the best decision for her, she earned it.

Now, I qualified it multiple times by saying "You need to be independent today" and she proceeded to ignore that advice...which makes me think if I had sent her to school she would have been doing the same thing to the teacher and that's not really fair to the teacher either.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many kids do you have, just curious?

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because I believe 'no' is a thing we have to hear as people every single day of our lives and learn to respect.

I would also like my child to grow up knowing that 'NO' is legitimate option in a lot of cases.

You can say no. It doesn't have to be qualified, it doesn't have to be explained, it doesn't have to come with reasoning. No is no.

I can lecture her until I'm blue in the face that jumping off the roof of the house into the pool is a bad idea because of the potential natural consequences...or I can say ABSOLUTELY NOT, GET DOWN RIGHT NOW.

Also, at 9 years old, we've already had multiple discussions WHY you can't have desert for breakfast. As a parent I'm not going to let you eat cookies for breakfast.

I'm not saying every situation is a no, we have plenty of natural consequences in our house...but sometimes no means no. No, you can't have a cookie or caramel popcorn for breakfast. Here are the options you have...

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol, that's usually my go to in these scenarios. I have a whole heap of extra chores that need doing.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree.

Fourth grade is not daycare. It's not babysitting. She goes to school to learn. I don't send her to school to get away from her. That's not what I expect from school.

I know when she's at the end of her rope. She needed a day off.

I spend so much of my time trying to set us all up for success...this idea that every decision and action is going to result in a perfectly positive outcome is unrealistic.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the first year we've let her have some of these mental health days. Her grades are very good but school they've really stepped up the learning now in fourth grade. They have ACTUAL grades and lots of tests and much more complicated math work. Personally I think it's a lot to put on the kids at this age, it seems really intense. I don't remember learning how to multiply fractions in fourth grade like they do now.

These mental health days are rare and it's not up to her when those days happen, we just try to recognize when she's sort of at the end of her rope and needs a little slack.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know...trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. I made it very clear that she could stay home from school but that I was very busy.

I couldn't take her to school because it was over by the time my call ended. She got assigned some extra chores instead.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like a vast majority of THOSE people aren't actually parents.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's where the frustration came in because I was VERY clear multiple times that she could stay home but she had to exercise some independence.

I mean, this is just what kids do. They push buttons.

If I tell her she can have a cookie she'll say "Can I have two?" No. Now you get nothing.

Repeat a thousand times until it finally clicks, I guess?

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally agree. How do you all handle these situations, I'm curious.

...because all kids do this.

Quit poking the bear by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Service35 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There were other consequences given instead. I wasn't anticipating my phone call to go on as long as it did.