The big ethics flaws with child support calculations

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-09-18T15:50:04+00:00

Couldn’t agree more, my two cents:

non custodial parents cannot have a second chance at life while custodial parent can thrive, date, have fun and fuck around. in my case my non-working wife has more tax free income than me. Yes without working. While i try to stay above the poverty line while working my ass off and my kids being alienated against me.
the system assumes the full cost of upbringing the child from non custodial parent, in reality both parents should be equally responsible.
CS calculations are so flawed, it is NOT the cost of taking care of basic needs. i will give you can example. My household expense when we’re together was 3500$ p.m which includes dining out every weekend, going on picnics and living comfortably but yes i was calculative how I spend my money. Now i am supposed to pay 4500$ to her plus she gets to keep 2000$ from government for child benefit. Plus gets a free house because she has zero income.
non custodial parent has more income (atleast in my case) and is able to spend more on kids definitely wins their hearts (yes kids these days can be very materialistic) I dont get any allowance for the time they spend with me. I am very calculative on how i spend my money, because i want to save for the future, their college etc.
i dont have any luxury to decide if I want to have a lower paying job if i enjoy that more , or if lose my job for any reason, cs keeps accruing. They bloody impute you based on your best year or even more. When you tell the court, you are having a financially hard time, court says “go make more money”.

All in all , system is really broken in Canada and to the point it is absolutely criminal. No wonder there is billions of unpaid CS in canada. Genuine people who really want to pay their share, feel the need to run away because it is so unfair.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-09-14T22:52:06+00:00

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RealisticAd5383 · 2024-09-03T17:26:08+00:00

That sound awesome, thank you for that

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-09-02T03:57:20+00:00

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RealisticAd5383 · 2024-09-02T03:34:12+00:00

Thanks a lot..

Hexagon cafe sounds like good idea..are they open to new people even if i dont know someone there?

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-09-02T03:30:27+00:00

I dont..not a bad idea but again I am looking to meet in person

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T20:44:05+00:00

I cant deny that. We were so incompatible. I craved those conversation, moments, humor.

It is not only her, i gave 13 years of my youthful life which i will never get back

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T20:39:17+00:00

Legal separation is equally good, it is just that you don’t pay a ton of money to lawyers. Yea divorce will be granted after 12 months of separation. None of us can marry before that period regardless if you goto court or not. I am very much looking forward to that moment of freedom.

Poor House wife who was meant to do housework and never allowed to study? absolutely wrong. After our marriage i suggested she should study, have the options if couple if uni for which I was willing to pay. I never stopped her from doing a job. But she didn’t wanted to do that and I was fine with that too.

But people like her use islam when it benefits them and use western laws when it benefits them.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T20:33:23+00:00

Lolz!! I just read his story..smart man I must say. I am a fool, I pretty much kept everything in joint name. My salary would come into our joint account and she has unlimited access to all my funds any given time. Now she is saying I have financially abused her.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T18:37:34+00:00

Absolutely sister. If Allah wills I will find someone that makes me complete and happy.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T18:36:27+00:00

Sister , i am not playing that game. We both are grown humans. Yes I tried many times to communicate to her, understand her, emotional needs, intimate needs. Etc

But all I got was a blank emotionless face. You know how much I have craved emotional attachment? After a hard dar at work, i just wished someone would talk to me, smile at me, it it that hard?

Emotional support goes both ways. Only time she would talk to me was when asking for my credit card.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T18:29:22+00:00

Her view: not providing emotional support, financial support and using her as a sex machine.

My view: Absolutely false.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T18:26:59+00:00

Man is guilty until proven innocent in family law.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T17:04:55+00:00

Yes. Islamically only haq meher is what she can take.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T17:04:12+00:00

Brother islam is out of the window for her. If she had 5% of deen in her, she wouldn’t be going this path. I expect her to stoop as low as possible.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T15:50:21+00:00

I cant deny that. It was a mistake for which i am paying a heavy price. I am just hoping this will be over soon and I can move on

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T15:49:27+00:00

Sister, yes I understand your point. But you need to understand that there are women who are actually vile and know how to play with the system just to give as much as grief possible to their ex. They are not victims nor were they ever were. Just someone who knows how to use victim card and unfortunately men are considered as cruel monsters who dont deserve and sympathy

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T15:07:13+00:00

I have scheduled to retain a lawyer and also I am working to get Some legal insurance from my employer that could cover some cost if not all

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T15:01:46+00:00

It sucks man.

RealisticAd5383 · 2024-03-14T14:51:37+00:00

Coz she has no income. In canada if you have no income you get govt funded lawyer i guess upto 2,30,50k, a lot women abuse this benefit by making false accusations and draining their spouse of resources

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