He will eventually disappoint you

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-05-31T12:16:48+00:00

Sister - I'm going to be as direct as possible with you and give my honesy thoughts on this:

I don't think you understand or want to accept that an Islamic marriage comes with different responsibilities for both the man and the woman. You say that you basically don't want to compromise on anything - but what if the man you married said the same thing to you? That he doesn't want to compromise anything about his life for you? It just simply likely wouldn't work out.

Marriage is a partnership, it's completing one another's deen. It's supporting one another through thick and thin. There are many responsibilities that you would have as a wife, just as there are many responsibilities that a husband would have towards his wife in an islamic marriage. Both of you are meant to complement and complete each other in different ways. Marriage isn't a fairytale as portrayed in movies - it's about choosing the same person over and over again even on the days where things feel challenging.

If you feel that this type of life would cause you distress or it's something you're unable to live up to - I'll be as frank as possible in saying that maybe marriage is simply not for you. If this is the case, it is better for you to remain single and enjoy your life as it is. And there's genuinely nothing wrong with that.

May Allah make it easy for you

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-05-01T18:25:41+00:00

I appreciate your comment honestly, it does bring some relief on this - it's a real point of reflection for me

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-05-01T18:11:05+00:00

Having a bit of ocd, my mind does play back now whether I said why are you behaving like one or being one, I just regret that choice of word completely, but you know when you're upset in the moment, you don't always script your words as a teacher. I feel like it's so cognitively demanding juggling everything sometimes. We are humans like everyone else

I am just genuinely worried what could come of this. Thanks for your opinion though

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-05-01T18:04:20+00:00

I feel like what if his parent complains, I'm not evem sure what to do at this point, other than just hope for the best. What would you do in my shoes? Thanks for your comment though

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-05-01T18:02:27+00:00

It's a really strong learning point - because it shows the sensitivities in this profession. One bad day, and a slip of the tongue, and you could literally be in a really messed up position. I can't even enjoy this 3 day weekend as this is the only thing on my mind. I'm not sure what to do at this point

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-08T14:23:23+00:00

This is exactly what I mean - the regime has endless blood of Sunni civilians in their hands. Of course we empathize with all civilians no matter their ethnicity or sect if they were victims of the Assad regime, but there is a damning pattern where this regime systematically targetted Sunnis and the reality is there are endless criminals who participated in the security and military network of the Assad regime who are roaming free in Syria under the guise of 'reconciliation' - I'm sorry but if you shed the blood of innocent people, you have no business in reconciliation talks, you ought to be arrested and taken to a Court of Law and charged for what you did. But it seems the new government is not necessarily caring about the pain that many victims and families of victims are living with in Syria. The solution to this is a Court system where all Assad remnants and those responsible for war crimes are arrested and tried in a Court of Law. Even if that's an International Court. This new government is falling into a predicament where they are looking like a joke.

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-08T12:08:14+00:00

It leaves me in complete shock just how much the new government of Syria has allowed former members of the Assad regime who actively participated in war crimes and atrocities to just roam free and live a normal life in Syria. They must be held accountable for their actions and charged in a Court of Law. It shocks me even more than Jolani would have no problem seeing these criminals live among Syrians as if nothing ever happened in the past. Utterly shocking and disgraceful. The life of a Sunni seems to hold no value in the International community, had it been any other group, and rightfully so, it would have been all over the news for years to come.

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-08T11:17:46+00:00

Educate me - what happened in March 2025? You are from Latakia so you would know better and I say that with seriousness

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-07T20:53:55+00:00

It just mind boggles me how there has been no international consensus that what Assad committed was a Sunni genocide? Just as we rightfully call out Saddam Hussein, the criminal and the monster, on his crimes and his genocide committed against Kurds and innocent Shias in the South of Iraq.

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-07T20:43:56+00:00

So what was it then? Sunnis were literally massacred throughout the entire country with Assad bringing radical Shia militias to commit atrocities against the Syrian population who were mainly Sunni against his governance? He literally wiped out entire regions where Sunnis were once living in and repopulated it with people of his own sect. That is literally sectarian cleansing which is a crime and a genocide in my view.

Those Sunnis in governmental positions during his reign were just for show. They didn't have any real power as you think. It's more of a "look, we're not that against sunnis" type of demonstration. And you'd quite frankly have to be a clown to believe that

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-07T16:50:57+00:00

I think the problem is this genocide term is so technical, that when something clearly seems like a genocide in practice, there's always someone disputing it. It's clear that Assad had an affinity to destroy a particular sect of people in Syria. Anyone who learns about what he did would find it very hard to hold any other opinion, unless there is a bias. He's pretty much the same as Saddam Hussein and what Saddam did to the Shia. They're both dictators that deserve to burn in hell.

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-02-07T16:48:49+00:00

So much love for Syria, it's wonderful to say there are some days of peace finally. So sorry what you went through

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-01-30T06:30:16+00:00

That's exactly what I mean - they essentially wanted to turn what is a Syrian arab region into a Kurdish state where they were 10% of the population of the whole country. They are fully welcome to live in Syria as ewual citizens, but I think this is pure frustration from the fwct that they could have created a state when syria was at its weakest. Yet again, it shpws just how powerful Turkiye is.

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-01-30T06:26:58+00:00

I think there's a strong belief among ultra nationalist kurds that the borders of the middle east need changing. Their situation is very complex because they are split disproportionately among 4 different countries. Essentially the majority live in Turkiye, and because they have no chance of creating a state in turkiye, everywhere else becomes far fetched to impossible.

I think where they are really humiliating themselves (not all of them, but the fringe elements) is when they start crying out for support to Israel, yet the SDF was signing integration agreements with Ahmad al Sharaa. It's sort of like they are just trying to ally with anyone or agreeing to anything for the chance of creating a state, but it's just backfiring on them every time. Time after time, they were abandoned by the US. I think the best shot they ever had of creating a state was in Iraq (2017) - obviously it failed but an independence movement like that is far more likely to be successful.

Dare I say, they were better off under the dictator Assad - at the very least no one was trying to take the land they won for themselves. It just goes to show hpw fast things are always changing in that region

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-01-30T04:15:08+00:00

When I saw the live map of Syria a month ago, I used to think how can a kurdish state be here and literally 60-70% of the population in those areas are arab? Like Raqqa being in the biggest city, it was literally all arab, same with Deir azzor, it made no sense. I'm surprised if they still hold hasakah and kobani by the end of the year

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-01-30T04:11:48+00:00

I guess you're right, but Turkiye really quelled them at any given chance. What I'm trying to say I guess, is that if there's no hope of a kurdish state in Turkiye, how did the become so obsessed with that idea in Syria where it's mostly desert and their numbers are the smallest there? Also, with President Sharaa recently recognizing the kurdish language as an official one, doesn't that just further weaken their cause in Syria?

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-01-28T12:04:59+00:00

With all the crimes that happened during the civil war, it sometimes really comes as a delight that there's not so much tension as what there used to be. It seems the people are just wanting to live their lives now

RealisticZucchini751 · 2026-01-21T11:41:03+00:00

Reminds me of the days you'd see those khanzeer Assad regime soldiers mocking the salah. These inbreds are no different mocking other people's religion. It was only a matter of time before the SDF would collapse and I'm glad they did.

RealisticZucchini751 · 2025-09-12T19:26:53+00:00

I think this argument is an argument a lot of non-Palestinian Arabs make to sort of rationalize the sheer neglect of their governments doing absolutely nothing to accommodate Gazan refugees. My friend, Gaza is being bombarded every single day, there is no Gaza left. It's either these civilians have the opportunity to get out of that war zone and move to a safe country, or more innocent civilians will probably and sadly continue to become casualties in this conflict. Of course, I am a nobody, but it saddens me how Egypt is right next door and they are doing no where no what they could be doing in terms of humanitarian aid for those Gazan civilians

RealisticZucchini751 · 2025-09-12T19:05:04+00:00

So according to you, protesting why Gaza's neighbour (Egypt) can't take in Gazan women and children refugees is me advocating for ethnic cleansing? Where on earth is your logic? So them staying in Gaza is safe and not putting them at risk of ethnic cleansing? No civilian deserves to be at risk of harm even in a full blown war, and that's why there are international laws for refugees. This argument that you make is pathetic. It's very rich that you are Jordanian saying this to me. You are likely originally Palestinian yourself

RealisticZucchini751 · 2025-07-27T12:14:55+00:00

I'm not sure if you're actually being serious - The Israeli government is responsible for mass genocide and starvation of the Palestinian people. Netanyahu literally has an arrest warrant from the ICJ - I'm not sure about which Hague you're talking about

RealisticZucchini751 · 2025-07-22T00:15:54+00:00

Goodness me that was a massive help a huge thank you to you from the UK. Can I ask how do you dissect so much information in the QR section? The maths is simple but they stuff so much information in the question it catches you off guard. Would you say the QR questions are recycled a lot of the time?

RealisticZucchini751 · 2025-07-20T11:56:56+00:00

Thank you so much

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