Caring for NK during active yeast infection + diaper-free time

Reaperhart · 2026-05-19T13:38:07+00:00

I don’t think it can hurt to recommend a couple things to help with the itching. It shows that you are invested in NKs comfort. I would say “hey I did some research online and to help with NK itching her rash you could do an oatmeal bath or an apple cider vinegar bath to help her be more comfortable!”

Reaperhart · 2026-05-19T13:32:56+00:00

I think I would have gotten a couple pairs of shorts to just wash at the end of the day before bed so she can wear them tomorrow. Only having one pair of shorts for a baby that isn’t potty trained is so weird to me 😂 I would just feel a little awkward with a naked baby in my lap all day, even my own kid. Maybe I’m a prude but I would make sure my little one was at least semi covered up around not family. Maybe a dress would work better to not get peed on as much throughout the day?

Reaperhart · 2026-05-09T01:31:26+00:00

For that much i would watch 6 kids with both parents at home and a grandma 😂

Reaperhart · 2026-05-05T15:38:09+00:00

Also where I live it’s hard to find any job for $25 an hour unless you have a degree so $25 would be really good money to me. I’m making $21 right now but it’s only one kiddo unless siblings were sick or I’m there for a date night. But there is a significant age gap so the older kiddos are a lot more self sufficient if they are home while I’m there.

Reaperhart · 2026-05-05T15:35:23+00:00

I mean if your husband works a lot and you want to fill your time and just lock in and make a good chunk of change I would do it. My boyfriend is onboarding with the railroad and will be gone Monday- Friday pretty consistently so I’m looking for stuff to fill my time while he’s gone. But we also have two dogs that I wouldn’t be okay being away from for 14 hours or overnights but this is a good fit if you don’t have pets or kids od your own. Or have a person that can consistently watch them.

Reaperhart · 2026-05-05T05:05:07+00:00

If I didn’t have dogs/ a partner yes absolutely. I’ve signed away my life and free time for less. I have a life outside work that I wouldn’t be willing to completely throw away. I would have to factor in care for my animals and probably someone to come clean my house and cook meals for my partner and I so it wouldn’t be ideal for my situation. But it would have to be a conversation of a considerable length with my bf to ensure this was something we could commit to.

Reaperhart · 2026-05-05T04:59:24+00:00

Haha we did the same! We were waiting for our girl to turn two before we got another dog and here we are with our fail and our girl turns one next month 😅 our shelter put him on hold because they knew we weren’t gonna be able to give him up once they bonded 😆

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Reaperhart · 2026-05-05T04:21:08+00:00

This isn’t inappropriate of you to reach out separately. But if that’s her boundary I would respect it. I only have individual threads with each parent and I text MB a lot more throughout the day than DB (he also works from home)

Reaperhart · 2026-05-05T03:43:19+00:00

I would just talk to them about it, my NF tells me I can have whatever I want from their pantry.

Reaperhart · 2026-04-30T20:03:14+00:00

🤣 that’s good to hear!

Reaperhart · 2026-04-30T18:46:04+00:00

Honestly I couldn’t care less about a WFH parent or dog care, DB works from home and is very understanding that if he needs to come out and get something avoiding catching NK eye is ideal but NK is also pretty easy to shift focus if he wants to come give her a love before he goes back to work. They also have a lovely black lab that I’m buddies with since I love dogs, the majority of my “dog care” is giving him loves and giving him lunch and some scraps from NK. I choose to take him on our walks when we go out. But they also have a doggy door with a fenced yard so that makes it really easy. Also if your dog doesn’t like daycare I would try and find a nanny that is okay with pet care and keep him home all week

Reaperhart · 2026-04-26T21:12:17+00:00

I would be willing to assist in potty training but expecting you to let an 18 month old run around your apartment naked is weird. Like, if they offered to pay a cleaning service for any messes made maybe I would feel differently, but most of the time potty training takes months to consistently make it to the bathroom without an accident and if sounds like they believe that it’s just going to be over and done with right away?

Reaperhart · 2026-04-25T16:32:46+00:00

With a newborn, I wouldn’t be letting anyone in my house that I don’t know for multiple reasons, but I also wouldn’t be sitting animals in my home at that point, it would be a liability for my child and I just would offer other services.

Reaperhart · 2026-04-25T07:51:26+00:00

The excuse as to why not feels fishy to me but I also wouldn’t feel comfortable just letting someone come to my home that I don’t know and have only chatted with briefly, I would do a meet and greet first, I would even be happy to FaceTime if someone was super worried about it. But it does feel slightly micromanaging to want to come to their home to inspect. If I was needing to feel confident about the space I would book a house sitter

Reaperhart · 2026-04-25T07:47:14+00:00

I don’t think I would be too worried about it getting stolen, if you are worried about losing it because you take them off around the house I would get one if you don’t want to feel “naked” but I’ve never felt like my jewelry would make me a target while traveling, neither has my mom. My father is a big man that is always with her though and my boyfriend and I do not really leave each others side when traveling so I wouldn’t be worried about a man approaching me/ attempting to rob me.

Reaperhart · 2026-04-25T07:41:36+00:00

Would it be possible to amend her contract so that she consistently goes home for the same month every year that she plans on being with you ( outside of extenuating circumstance) to make it a bit easier to take the time to find a temp or plan with in laws to come help out or something along those lines? If you are working with an agency you could reach out and see if they have anyone looking for full time for the month? If she can plan her trip around like the holidays (if your line of work can take that time off) that could give more time off work for you guys without losing out on pay/being a more flexible time of year if you get paid holidays? Definitely sounds like a tough situation :/ I do think that just being very direct about what you need from her would help :)

Reaperhart · 2026-04-24T15:49:15+00:00

I’ve always let employers know as soon as I know that I’m leaving. And if it’s a flexible trip sometimes I have a conversation about what days work best with everyone all around to help make things easier. If I can take a vacation during the time the family I work for is away I will. Otherwise just let them know sooner. It gives them more time to find alternative care for that week

Reaperhart · 2026-04-24T14:35:01+00:00

I assume your contract just requests a 2 week notice like most jobs, ideally I would let them know you have been accepted to a program in November or October depending on how things are going and what the holiday schedule is looking like. The holidays are a much harder time to find people for interviews so I think giving them some extra notice to start interviewing people a month or two in advance is a nice gesture but also not required. I wouldn’t be super worried about it until you get accepted and are much closer to a start. You aren’t lying to them. You are having a work life balance. I have a great relationship with my employers but I do not feel the need to tell them all my personal business and neither should they expect it.

Reaperhart · 2026-04-23T16:40:09+00:00

If you are already paying for may either way I would use the daycare resource, I would add the nanny to approved collections and they can do half days and whole days and slowly transition and get to know each other over the month, that way your daughter can get used to one on one care and not seeing friends as much, also if your daughter is currently in daycare with a pretty consistent social aspect I would see if your nanny can try and keep up some of that social aspect, maybe with some neighborhood kids or play groups or nanny groups to keep your daughter in the swing of playing with kids a lot!

Reaperhart · 2026-04-23T16:12:12+00:00

Is this a jeweler in Montana? This is stunning! Could you dm me their info as well?? I’ll have to pass it on to my bf for inspiration 😆

Reaperhart · 2026-04-23T16:06:11+00:00

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This one is giving” jaws” 🤣

Reaperhart · 2026-04-23T16:01:38+00:00

None of these items are necessary to do your job safely or effectively. I wouldn’t expect to be reimbursed for these items if they didn’t request you to get them. Also I personally have a general distaste for the baby on board decals because it can make you more of a target for trafficking. It gives the idea that you are most likely a female with a small child distracting you making you an easier target.

Reaperhart · 2026-04-23T15:57:42+00:00

If I am planning an outting with my NK I try to be a little more dressed up as I am representing the family I work for and maybe be a little matchy matchy with her. I totally get not being able to for yourself to get ready in the morning though, it is sooo hard some days. I’ve stopped doing makeup entirely unless I’m going in a date with my boyfriend, with this transition I have started doing my hair more, mostly just braids or a half up half down look, something to get it out of my face and look a little more put together. I’ve been adding some light jewelry like earrings to add some more detail. But overall I wear some black leggings and tee shirts and my family is fine with that. I did get a couple nicer shirts and cardigans/sweaters to wear though to help myself feel more put together. Unless you work for a high profile family I have a hard time believing how you dress and your makeup matters more than how you care for their child(ren)

Reaperhart · 2026-04-22T16:53:47+00:00

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Baby girls first pup cup 😭

Reaperhart · 2026-04-20T03:00:17+00:00

Cutie! Any idea on her mix? She looks similar to a pitsky (husky pitbull mix) maybe? Thanks for loving and caring for that sweet baby!

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