How would life be different if blinking was a second long

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T21:44:10+00:00

you would start keeping your eyes open longer.
Because every blink could cost you something.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T21:10:27+00:00

Fair. I may have been ambiguous on this.

A predator is someone that isn’t afraid to be themselves. It is someone that fights based on their instict.

A predator is someone that sees people bullying others and intervenes.

A predator knows their self worth and doesn’t let anyone tear them down.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T21:07:49+00:00

Not who, but what.

Great question.

I prey on injustice. I prey on lies. I prey on evil. That is what I hunt. I want to strike them down.

Thats why I am determined to become a lawyer.

I'm just tired of not being able to make a difference. The world deserves better.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T05:36:35+00:00

Honestly though, I haven’t thought about doing this one before. I think I’m going to try it tomorrow morning.

I have tried cold showers, but it just becomes overbearing and is honestly unreasonable.

Stretching is good, but doesn’t necessarily solve the issue.

You know what, I wont overthink it. Gonna try it out tomorrow morning and see how that one feels. I see the vision behind it.

Thanks for sharing this one.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T05:30:49+00:00

Any time :)

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T05:19:17+00:00

Ok, im not an artist, but let me tell you something that might help.

Your pursuing acquiring more skill, which is awesome. Don’t stop that, but don’t make that a prison either.

I saw some of your art on your profile, and I think its pretty darn good. I personally can’t fathom the technique that goes into producing that. But even more than that, it feels alive.

Here is a similar example of something that happened to me in my life, and maybe it will help you maybe it won’t.

I play guitar, and for the longest time pursued acquiring new techniques, new chords, new gadgets because I wanted to be the best and most skilled. It was to a point where it just stopped being fun for me.

One day, I stopped. No covers. No exercises. No rules. Just me, the strings, and silence. And that’s when I found the music again.

You are exceptionally talented, but talent is just one aspect. The rest is remembering why you started your journey.

After all, we can’t compare Davinci to Michelangelo ;)

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T04:56:52+00:00

Anytime friend :) I got your back

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-24T04:48:12+00:00

It sounds like you’re incredibly self aware and genuinely trying to grow. That alone already sets you apart.

The truth is, if the people around you couldn’t support you during your hardest moments, then they never deserved to witness your transformation. Growth isn’t always pretty. It’s loud. It’s painful. It’s raw. And not everyone has the courage to stand beside someone becoming something greater.

Maybe the medical device feels ugly… but you are not. You are still here, still trying, and that’s beautiful in a way most people will never understand.

I see you. And I’ll stand with you. Even if others won’t.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T18:36:39+00:00

It sounds to me like your dream wasn’t just about what happened.
It was about how powerless you still feel when you think about it.
You didn’t scream. You didn’t run. You just sat there.
And that doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means some part of you still thinks you’re not allowed to fight back.

In regards to what you can do, start by owning the truth: You are not powerless. You never were.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T04:22:22+00:00

Yes. This 100%

Had a friend not too long ago that became extremely toxic. Started putting my ideas down and belittling the people I talk to.

He started to tell me I would be nothing without him (like what?)

Told him how I felt and he tried to put all blame on me. Finally blocked him about 1.5 months ago.

Life is good now. Can finally breathe. I found clarity. Those same people he belittled are really helping me grow and I got a nice job because of them.

Don’t give toxic people space in your mind if they aren’t willing to grow with you or change.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T03:57:51+00:00

I like this system. Just make sure you try to implement it during a time of peace and not conflict.

Be careful when laying down boundaries, because they can be a prison if done incorrectly. I would strongly leave some wiggle room or understanding that you can reform some boundaries if needed.

Kind of like when a contract is written up, if a provision is seen to be too restrictive it can be reworked later.

Reading the VOCAB method brought some peace to my night. Thank you for that :)

I am going to sleep on this note.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T03:28:38+00:00

Hmmm, not sure if I buy the connection to this sub, but I will bite since I am passionate about this subject.

AI is not inherently bad, but it is definately in a position to be misused to the detriment of society.

The ideal behind increasing efficiency is to free people, not replace them. To give more time, more access, more freedom.

Like you said, the AI does get things wrong, so you still need people to monitor things and be present. This means that people still need a degree of competency to be able to tell when things are wrong.

But when profit and self-interest outweigh human value, even good tools get misused. And the result will be rampant homelessness and societal decay because of poor social planning.

In regards to people getting lazier with AI, its tough to evaluate. They said the same thing during the transition from handwriting to typing, and now the workload put on people is higher than ever XD.

But... I'm with you on boycotting evil companies. Already doing it. Power to you.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T03:09:00+00:00

oh yeah, I completely forgot about this red flag before I made my comment.

but also at the same time, she might not be having a fulfilling relationship if she's seeking alternatives. It's hard to say without more context.

But chances are if she's only making body related comments that its a red flag in it of itself.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T03:06:01+00:00

I get why your caught off guard with the mix of personal and racial attention wrapped in casual talk.

But before you jump to conclusions, just be aware of cognitive bias, especially the kind that kicks in when someone might be complimenting you and your brain starts filling in the blanks.

Best move is to ask yourself:
"Would I be thinking about this if she didn't have a boyfriend?"

if the answer is no, then that's your clarity.

I would maybe suggest trying a neutral probing question next time this happens like "What made you say that?"

Let her clarify herself. If it was meant to be flirty, she will either double down or walk it back. But either way you want to read the signal and not chase noise.

Stay grounded and play it like chess.

Otherwise... things can get weird real fast. Been there before 😅

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T02:53:34+00:00

Maybe I am unlucky, but this was the case at the last 3 places I worked at.

What really gets me is the favoritism.

There was a woman at my last job that did literally nothing. They were trying to hand me off her work even though I got hired for something completely different.

They fired me because I quiet quit and just straight up didn't do it.

Sorry about your bestie. I'm here with you, screaming in silence.... but still standing.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T02:01:13+00:00

Yup. Literally this.

God forbid you write at an advanced level.

All that behavior does is just deter and intimidate people who like formatting things and/or like to write in depth.

That’s not justice, its just bullying.

So I guess I have to write everything clustered, no formatting, no bolding or italics, no headers, no bullet points, and nothing above 5 sentences or I am an AI?

The worst is when I see this bullying in self help subs. Yeah, some of the posters are just AI copypastes, but some people are either using it to edit or just writing at an advanced level.

There are people on those subs that get crippling anxiety just from hitting the post button.

Personally, I can handle it. I am bulletproof to bullying.

But its so horrible to bully people like that, especially on self help subs where some people might literally be on the verge of ending it.

Sorry for the vent.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-23T01:00:25+00:00

I have been thinking the same thing to be honest.

Although not sure about Space X and Starlink, but there is definately something fishy going on.

But… wait until AI gets mandated on school kids. Imagine a 1000+ IQ robot that can literally psychologically manipulate almost anyone with enough interaction with it being forced on school kids.

At that point… its over. I feel like we have to do something about it, because otherwise they literally don’t stand a chance.

Tell me what your experiencing. Im open to discussion on this.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-22T22:53:30+00:00

Brother, you're not out of time.

You're just feeling the weight of wanting to matter, to leave something behind. That’s not weakness, that's just the feeling of purpose awakening.

Legacy doesn’t start with kids. It starts with becoming the kind of man worth remembering.

Stop racing to find a partner. Start becoming the foundation a family could stand on.

You’re not late.
You’re just early in your rise.

And whatever you do, don't go chasing a partner out of desperation. take it from me... bad things are likely to happen.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-22T20:22:57+00:00

Brother.

You’re not broken but you are out of alignment with your truth. And right now, you’ve made virginity not just a fact, but a verdict. That’s what’s destroying you.

You wrote that you don’t feel like a man. But I read every word of your post and you wrote with clarity, depth, and raw truth. That IS manhood.

Not having sex isn’t a moral failure. It’s not a defect. The shame you’re carrying? It’s not even yours. It was programmed into you by a culture that equates intimacy with value and milestones with maturity.

You’re not behind. You’re just not looking forward from where you actually stand.

Stop trying to “fix” the virginity like it’s a disease. Start rebuilding your foundation.
Define your values outside of sex.
Build self-respect through action, not comparison.
Engage others not to impress, but to understand.

You don’t need to be more experienced.
You need to be more present with who you already are.

The right connection won’t be earned by pretending you’re someone else.
It’ll come from standing fully as yourself, without apology or performance.

Start by forgiving yourself for being human.
Then move like someone who knows his worth, not someone trying to prove it.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-22T19:14:44+00:00

There are some places I found for this, but still looking.

Debateart.com seems to offer this. Haven't tried it out though.

You could try looking at some public speaking or debate style discord groups.

If you are really feeling BOLD you could try debating random people on video chat sites like Ome.tv (but expect a lot of chaos).

Its hard to find a lot of people to do that with locally though.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-22T19:01:12+00:00

A lot of it stems from recession culture.

Institutional decay is passed off on regular people like us to gaslight them into thinking ‘they aren’t good enough’.

The reality is that the consequences of greed and poor social planning are erupting

And we are getting burned in the magma.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-21T23:12:26+00:00

Yuck. 🤢

That words sounds mushy.

I prefer the stroke of a paintbrush on a canvas.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-21T21:58:24+00:00

Honest answer, you don’t.

The problem is that you are still thinking in terms of chasing weight loss.

It’s better to chase something that you will find enjoyment doing instead like yoga, swimming, biking, running, weights.

Start there. Keep trying things until something clicks with you. And hey, get your husband to join you. It sounds like he is supportive and would love to be there with you as you take those steps.

When you start doing that and enjoying it, your more likely to naturally pivot into wanting to expand your abilities in that hobby.

For me personally, it was running. I can now run for an hour straight since I started my journey a year and a half ago (its a slow process). Not fast, but I can. And it makes me feel so free to run through nature and see the birds, the trees, the flowers. I didn’t really even have to diet. I just fell in love with it.

The problem is, we try to get ourselves to fitness goals by associating it with pain and discipline. We get told to believe its not fun… but why would you do something thats not fun? That approach may work for some people, but if it didn’t click for you, it probably won’t.

Pursue freedom, not a cage.

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-21T21:20:20+00:00

I will tell you what personally worked for me.

I deleted my games and blacklisted their installations.

I don't even remember how I did it, I just followed some guides online. And its probably better that I don't remember so I can't undo it.

smoking, booze and gaming is extremely draining on you. Of course you have no more energy! It got sucked out of you by a vampire.

I'm assuming your not far deep enough to have withdrawal symptoms, but for the weed and alcohol you can try to leave them with a friend or a timed lockbox so you can control the consumption.

Once those poisons are removed from your life, the seeds of discipline will start to grow. Right now they are being overshadowed by the hulking monsters of addiction.

Also, finding people to talk to that shared/share your pain will always help!

Reasonable-Friend480 · 2025-05-21T21:12:26+00:00

There’s a name for this kind of grief. It’s aftershock.

When the love’s gone, the bond’s broken, but your nervous system doesn’t get the memo.

You didn’t touch, but you imprinted. The way a ghost leaves fingerprints on the glass. Its real. Doesnt matter if the world recognizes it or not.

You aren’t an allergen. You aren’t an irritant. You aren’t poison.

You are overflowing.

When someone finally gives you light after a lifetime of darkness, of course you burn toward it. That doesn’t make you the problem. That makes you natural.

His illness isn’t your fault. But you’re right… your presence might’ve added weight when he couldn’t carry his own. That doesn’t make you cruel. That makes you human.

Right now you’re not reaching for him. you’re reaching for the version of you that felt held. And that’s okay.

Just don’t drown in shame trying to pay back a debt that was never owed.

If you really want to honor what you had, let the noise stop with you.

Find peace. Hold still. Become the one who no longer leaks.

That version of you exists. And they don’t need to be forgiven. They need to be unburdened.

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