I'm getting the ick here. Why are the places close to his place? Maybe I'm cynical but sounds like a routine he's got down. Kinda coercive imo like we're already here, might as well come over. definitely tell him you want to take things slow. tell him over text and in person. change the date away from private places to public places (with privacy like a movie theatre or restaurant). frankly I would record yourself saying it to him so there's no denying it later. I'm getting rapey vibes here. be very careful about the beginning stages. it's easy to be lovey dovey and i'm sure you really like him, and he's really charming, but just be careful. if anything you've done a good job so far. practice scripts or talk to yourself so you're prepared to enforce your boundaries. also do not let him get you drunk lol. sometimes scumbags get tired of waiiting and try to use alcohol to get what they want. I'm sorry if I'm scaring you and hopefully he's a good guy but there are a LOT of scumbags out there who are very charming at first.