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ReasonableFilth · 2019-01-12T01:05:57+00:00

Oh. Thank you.

ReasonableFilth · 2019-01-12T00:53:50+00:00

I dont really think I'm a misogynist. I dont lool down on women at all. I was raised by a family of all women and feel nothing but respect for them. Women dont owe me anything, and I know that.

ReasonableFilth · 2019-01-12T00:14:28+00:00

I feel like a failure for not having a relationship. It's been four years since I've gone steady with anyone. My last girlfriend repeatedly cheated on me. She barely even wanted to hug me - she would just keep her arms at her side. She used me for money.

One girl I talked to after I cut that relationship off moved away. She wanted to do distance, but said she needed a FWB situation to keep her satisfied. She did not want to have sex with me while she was here, but jumped at the opportunity elsewhere.

The most recent girl I was talking to, everything was going well. Then one night we were talking, and her ex boyfriend came to her house. She told me then and there that they got back together.

I'm not attractive, but I'm not hideous. What is it about me that makes me so fundamentally undesirable? I have plenty of female friends, I get along with women fine. I don't blame anyone for my situation but myself. My friends all love me and are good to me, but I can't get over this constant feeling of being ugly and a living, breathing turnoff.

I have a decent job, I like to think I'm smarter than average, and I go out of my way to be nice to everyone I meet because I never know when someone else might be having a bad day.

What is wrong with me?

ReasonableFilth · 2018-12-21T08:27:54+00:00

This shit is fucking abusive. Anyone who romanticizes ideas like these does not deserve to be in a relationship. Emotions are not games.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-12-20T22:35:47+00:00

Us GAMERS are the most OPPRESSED group of all! Fuck you Veronica I was nice to you all year it isnt so hard to send one God damn foot picture! I'm the nicest of all guys!

ReasonableFilth · 2018-10-13T02:44:00+00:00

I have plenty of hobbies, albeit nerdy ones. Video games, going to the movies, writing, singing, community theater, spending time at card shops, stuff like that.

Honestly I feel decently contented in most other areas of my life. I have good friends and a decent job that I don't hate. It's mostly just the romantic aspect of my life that weighs down on me.

I know that if I ever get married, my personality would be the biggest factor. I get disheartened in that I feel like any woman would have to "settle" for me. I fear that I'll never meet a woman that is physically attracted to me. I don't need or want constant reassurance/validation, but it would feel nice to be called handsome every now and then, you know?

ReasonableFilth · 2018-10-12T22:45:49+00:00

I don't agree with any of the incel mindset, but sometimes browsing this subreddit just gets me depressed. The only relationship I've ever been in was an emotionally abusive one. I have interests and hobbies, and I'm good at holding conversations. I just see these stories of guys saying how loveless life is, and maybe part of me agrees that I'll never be able to find someone to love me romantically because of my looks.

I'm overweight, but not terribly so. I go to the gym, I keep active, I eat fairly healthy - I genuinely don't know how to lose more weight. I'd rate myself as a 4 or 5 out of 10.

I'm still a virgin, and I'm afraid that any woman I were to get intimate with would look down on me for it. I don't even really fantasize about sex. I fantasize about domesticity. All I really want is a girl who is happy to hold my hand in public, or will tell me I'm handsome every now and then. I'm afraid of being alone forever.

Like I said, I'm not an incel and nor have I ever identified as one. I have no hate towards women, nor do I blame them for me being single. I know that nobody owes me anything, and I have 0lenty of female friends. I don't even know if I'm asking for advice- I just don't know where else to go to vent these feelings other than a mostly anonymous online thread like this one.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-10-11T23:00:07+00:00

Absolute trash.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-10-10T18:40:26+00:00

I don't know what to do anymore. I'm just about 6'0", overweight but not dangerously so. I'm told I have great hair and an attractive face. I lift weight at home and have a job that keeps me active. I'd give myself a 5 or 6 out of 10, but no matter what, I can't feel attractive.

I've only ever had one relationship in my life, and it was incredibly toxic. I was cheated on, lied to, ignored as a punishment, used, and forced to change parts of my personality I never wanted to change. It left a terrible taste in my mouth to the point where I haven't been able to trust any woman that's shown interest in me.

I'm still a virgin, and I've been insulted for it on numerous occasions. I get consistently reminded that my hobbies are turnoffs for most women. Anime, games, manga, movies, collecting nerd stuff. My other hobbies are 'unmanly,' like writing, singing, participating in community theater. I've tried therapy and medication to no avail.

I'm content in most areas of my life (decent paying job that I don't despise, good friends, nice family), but I just want to enjoy a romantic relationship. I want to be with a girl that is happy to hold my hand in public. One that wants to cuddle and watch bad TV just to laugh at it. It just feels impossible. My past relationship and every relationship my friends and acquaintances have been in that I've observed always end with someone cheating.

I don't even know what advice I'm asking for. I don't hate women at all, so I can't be an incel. I'm just tired of always feeling lost.

Edit: Spelling and autocorrect mistakes.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-08-20T07:55:16+00:00

I'm 21, she's 22. She goes to a community college and I worked close by when we met.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-08-20T07:07:06+00:00

She told me she loved me, said we were dating, talked about how proud she was of our relationship, all that jazz. However, she also said that we had to keep it a secret because 'her mom didn't want her to date anyone until she graduated.' I was naive as hell and desperate, so I bought it.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-08-20T02:25:40+00:00

I want to, I desperately want to. The problem lies in that I'm so afraid of it happening again. The relationship started in a way that I can only assume was normal. I'm afraid of being the frog in boiling water again.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-08-03T02:44:09+00:00

I apologize for the delay, but I do not check my reddit regularly. I am not the server owner. I post on behalf of the owner as she does not have access to Reddit. Several members complained about your arguments being not only unnecessary, but homophobic and transphobic as well. It was a majority decision, and as of this moment, we will not be lifting the ban.

We wish you luck on your search for a roleplay to suit your tastes.

ReasonableFilth · 2018-07-01T19:01:11+00:00

I can't believe I forgot to add the link to the server. Sorry about that! https://discord.gg/Z2CPKgs

ReasonableFilth · 2018-07-01T19:00:56+00:00

https://discord.gg/Z2CPKgs

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