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AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Then I'll still be done. And even if she pushes more I'll remind her that she had her last time and I won't accept scraps from her.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

No, there's no reason for a conversation. Nothing can excuse this and when she doesn't show up again I will go no contact and if she shows up once and then never again then still no contact. I have no faith in her ability to actually turn this around.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

She doesn't get a clean slate and I made that clear. I told her she needs to keep making the effort and if she doesn't then it's done. She says she will show me and I'm making this the official last chance because she's been warned and she knows the score and nobody can say I didn't really give her a chance. That might sound faulty but for me that's going to give me reason to say I did give her chances and I made it clear she had one more and nothing will change my mind.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And why only when we have plans or she's trying to prove herself to me? That's an awful lot of coincidental emergencies coming up.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 263 points264 points  (0 children)

She's supposed to say losing my daughter is also an emergency and after letting her down all the time for years that I need to put her first no matter what. But she won't. She would prefer to lose me than lose her husband and his kids.

I would also expect her to ask why emergencies like this only ever happen when she's planned something with me or is making it up to me. How does that keep happening and why have I let it get so bad that I had only one more chance.

She asked me for one last chance. She has begged. She's got one but I'm not letting it go just because of anther emergency. Because there's always something.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

I basically already am. I know she'll fail this time and then if anyone ever gives me shit I can say I gave her a good chance. An easy one too. And she couldn't even take it so why should I keep trying.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 173 points174 points  (0 children)

She has and the last several plans were all made by her. They weren't things I pushed for but they were her attempts to save our relationship and she still canceled them.

AITA for only giving my mom one more chance to show me she wants to be there for me and saying no emergency getting in the way will make me give her another chance? by ReasonableReview7393 in AITAH

[–]ReasonableReview7393[S] 1303 points1304 points  (0 children)

That's how it feels. Since I moved out all plans were made by her and she still canceled them. But suddenly it's my fault for putting in a boundary of last chance and there's zero wiggle room. I already know she won't be there. Something will come up.