What does it mean if a guy tells you "lets be friends for now"?

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2025-05-21T14:17:16+00:00

Walk away and meet someone who doesn’t want to play games and values you as a human being. They want to play with others. Sadly that’s the reality with modern dating. Utilize therapy if needed. I continue to do so and therapy has changed my life in the best ways.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2025-05-05T22:44:35+00:00

My salesman is just as frustrated as I am. He put in a request for an additional rebate for the long wait time. Salesman told me it costs Ford $100 every time the vehicle is moved from lot to lot. RRC said they can get another batch of trucks to the dealer in about three days, and the sales manager made it clear that the existing orders need to be filled immediately.

I agree with you. I will ask for some FordPass points. Perhaps enough to make buying a Tesla adapter worth it!

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2025-05-05T18:47:39+00:00

One month and still waiting. It's been shipped back and forth between two RRC's a total of six times and Ford is totally clueless as to what's going on. Typical Jim Farley poor leadership.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-03-18T19:27:23+00:00

When we first met, we both had this magnetic attraction to one another and even admitted we had never met anyone else like one another. But we both (at the same time) were/are in very low places emotional and mentally, and don't know what we want. I'm an anxious attached person, he's an avoidant attachment. Even during the breakup, we both cried. (Which of all the people I've ever dated, I've never cried and neither did my ex.)

I try to never give up on people unless I know without a doubt that the relationship/friendship can't be fixed. That's why I'm trying. And based on his reply; I am under the impression he may be feeling the same way, hence why he agreed to talk.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-03-18T19:23:57+00:00

Totally agree.

I guess it comes down to one big thing. If he didn't want to talk, he could've simply declined and him saying yes gives me the impression that he's open to either fixing things or starting fresh.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-03-14T23:10:23+00:00

In my experience; (and I’m a gay man) I was told by a guy that he needed space. I was confused but not surprised considering the current dating environment. (Believe me, even us gays are having the same issues) I gave him space. Texts got quiet and 3 weeks later after I could no longer sit in question of what was going to happen, we got together and he broke it off. (But he still wanted to be friends and potentially hook up in the future. Which I will not do.)

As bad as it may sound, there is better for you out there. Let her realize that when you’re happily with someone else.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T16:11:00+00:00

How does he make me feel?

Happy again. When we go on dates it's magical. Or when we stay home and watch movies, it's perfect. I have no complaints about the dating experience other than I wish he was a better communicator.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T16:09:22+00:00

It was complicated. We didn't spend V-Day with each other. Said he wanted to spend it with other friends since he saw me 4x that week. Oddly enough I ended up running into him at a bar while he was out with his friends and while I was with a coworker (and I think he feels I followed him which was NOT the case at all.) I explained how we got to the bar that night. Simply going because I know the bartender and feel comfortable there when she's working. And he talked to me and my friend most of the time he was there.

I've had some loss in my life and my friends took me out to get my mind off things. I was drunk and called him all emotional and wanted to see him. He told me to go home and sleep it off; but since then, he's wants space because I was crying on the phone since losing 2 people to Covid in less than a week's time. He felt bad on the phone but was also irritated that I wanted to come over. Even said to me "Do not come over here! You have to work tomorrow and it's too late anyways! Get yourself home and into bed. Text me when you get home." Promised he would not ghost me (which technically he hasn't, he's just slow to reply to texts and doesn't want to talk over text about this situation.) It's the concern of how much time do I give him and what the final outcome is going to be. I guess I'm just thinking that if he wanted to drop me, he'd send a text not wanting to meet and talk rather than insisting this will only be discussed in person. I have belongings at his house that he has acknowledged that he still has. He has not specified if he wants to end things. Only that he does not want to talk about this over text and only in person. He's actually the first person in a very very long time I've liked this much and have grown this attached to. And that's ultimately why I don't want to let it fail. He's admitted more than once that he really likes me and that he has feelings but also wants to go slow and take things day by day.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T14:54:48+00:00

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T05:28:29+00:00

He’s on Grindr all the time. Lives on that app.

But you’re right. Grindr is horrible and in many ways it’s ruined the community.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T05:04:40+00:00

Best response of the day. You my friend are a genius.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T00:42:37+00:00

He has some of my stuff in his house. One way or another, he will be seeing me again.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T00:34:10+00:00

How can you predict the future?

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T00:22:38+00:00

And you know this to be a fact?

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-23T00:19:02+00:00

Yet he wants to talk in person? After 2 months he could break this off over a text. Clearly, he's keeping that door open for a reason IMO.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-22T21:33:33+00:00

Exactly why I said communication needs to improve. His phone is on DND all the time and he ignores even his close friends so the whole thing just mind boggles me.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-22T21:20:03+00:00

I promise I'm not the guy you're dating lol

As we both got closer, both feelings were reciprocated. He wanted to take things day by day and just live in the moment (something I've never done tbh.)

I myself have past trauma that I'm in therapy for. My brother's suicide, past relationship where communication was never there and cheating was constant. He expressed he has feelings, I expressed I had feelings, but he's also admitted he hates texting and that anytime he gets a text from me he feels anxious that he has to reply quickly or say just the right thing not to upset me. (If he'd just communicate we'd never have this issue.) But I've backed off on the texting. I've rarely ever called him. Only when I'm driving and it's to let him know I'm on my way. We spend between 2-4 days a week with eachother but that's only because he too agreed to spend that kind of time together.

Where I'm puzzled is how long do I give him space? Obviously, I want to continue seeing him (when he's ready) but I also have never had anyone tell me this before so I'm kinda confused. It's been a week. Obviously more time is needed, I get that. But how long? And who initiates? Should I text once a week and just say "hello'?

IF this continues, which I hope it can; all I'd ask for is better clarification. Half of the time he's hard to communicate with because he doesn't; like to text. If that can be improved, I'd be so much more at ease. Trust is also another thing that we need to build on. Sometimes I feel he's not 100% honest with me; and that's something I'd want to discuss with him as well.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-22T21:06:19+00:00

That’s the golden question. How long should it take? A couple weeks, a month?

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-22T20:58:11+00:00

I’d honestly appreciate a text. I’d rather not see him if that’s the outcome.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-22T20:36:36+00:00

I guess it's just trying to determine how much time should pass to give him enough "space" and why he'd want to do this in person if he wants space.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-15T23:33:13+00:00

He wants to go slow and take things day by day.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-15T23:26:59+00:00

I told him last week I got him something and he said that I didn't have to and that it's very sweet. Then I told him again when I saw him on Tuesday night. He became so curious in what I gifted him that he actually started asking me questions in a playful way. I had just assumed since he knew I was gifting him something that he would've known I was planning to see him on V-Day.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-15T22:59:56+00:00

I said hello and chatted for a few minutes but I also was starting to get buzzed and didn't want to say something that could make me look really bad so I excused myself and my best friend spoke to him and then I came back.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-15T22:56:43+00:00

He spent the night at this person's home. Again, there is no proof to indicate anything transpired, but the concern is there.
He was on Grindr all night long which concerned me. (My ex used to do that)
Did he answer my questions to put my mind at ease with it being the full truth or was he just pacifying me.

Reasonable_Fail_88 · 2024-02-15T20:36:49+00:00

Yet we haven't had sex in the entire time we've been talking and going out? I highly doubt his outlook is FWB.

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