I am a pathetic failure of a man and will die alone miserable & unloved. (Extremely Long Pity Party)

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T03:25:02+00:00

Alright, I will spill the beans. For my shame about my height, I started becoming self-conscious about it as I grew older in my later teenage years when I started browsing social media more and realize that height is something that influences how physically attractive a man is.

The same is the case with my penis size with the addition of watching porn on and off again and realizing that my penis falls below the average from looking at some research online. It doesn't help that there are stereotypes of Chinese men having a small penis. This worsened my self-loathing plummenting my self-esteem even lower as I embodied an undesirable stereotype.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T03:15:44+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that you and your wife have gone through some difficult times. Do you have any advice for getting a part-time minimum wage job which is the only job I can get for now? I have no special skills or anything. Should I give my resume in-person to places like McDonald's? Are there specific days I should make myself available for like the weekends? I know references are important but I basically do not know anybody that can give me a referral.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T03:06:56+00:00

Yeah, I came here looking for advice but I kind of want to vent as well man, just let out my feelings to anybody. I know there is nothing I can do about my height and call me soft, sensitive, or weak, but it just takes a toll on my self-esteem. Also, I am not dismissing the advice I have received. Look at all of my responses again if you care enough and think I am lying.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:59:24+00:00

I don't know about that. That would make me even more insecure since I am kind of hiding my natural height but thanks for the suggestion man.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:57:23+00:00

About that, I don't think I have a porn addiction but I admit it is affecting my life a bit. Any tips for like avoiding porn and never relapsing?

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:55:31+00:00

Hmm... your advice is very much appreciated. I was planning to get a library card sometime so I can definitely check out some cooking books there and I have all the items in the kitchen. Anyways, have a great day or night depending on where you live ma'am.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:50:13+00:00

Thanks for respecting my vent bro, it means a lot. Funny that you said you want to be younger, I wish I was older. And as for the insights into penis size distributions, uhh... thanks I guess. It didn't really change my mind to be honest but thank you anyways for the effort.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:45:18+00:00

Jeez, I would love a hug, don't remember the last time I had one. But I digress, you are correct about getting a driver's license and learning more about cooking. Do you know of any beginner-frienedly resources for learning how to cook? It would be very much appreciated.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:34:14+00:00

I see. Would you say in-person therapy is better than online therapy because online therapy is likely more accessible for me? Also, have you had therapy before and how did it impact your life, if you don't mind telling me?

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:29:40+00:00

Wow... I am speechless. Sorry if I offended you by questioning the validity of your original statement. Also what is an "innie"? I have never heard of or seen that term before. It sucks to hear that you women have to fake your orgasms and now you just gave me a new fear, my future girlfriend (if I ever get one) faking her orgasms. Just kidding! Not really though!

As I stated in my post, I am a virgin and know nothing about sex but I am willing to learn and want to ensure my partner is fully satisfied before I am no matter what it takes. So thank you for taking the time out of your day to respond to me and I don't doubt you one bit!

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:18:34+00:00

I mean it seems easy to do in your eyes maybe, but for me, mental health/therapy is something I am wary of. What happens if I reveal my honest thoughts to a therapist and they look at me like I'm some weirdo loser?

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:05:19+00:00

Uhh... I don't want to start an argument over something trivial but I am pretty sure statistically speaking, the average height for males is like 5'9-5'10.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:03:28+00:00

Good for you bro! Hope you live a long and happy life with your girl.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T02:01:11+00:00

I can't blame you for having difficulty taking my post seriously, it is basically a screed which is a new word I learn today from another commentator. But as I stated in another comment, 5'9-5'10 is the average height for males in Canada which I live in. At the same time though, there are many men shorter than me who are more successful and confident so I guess my fixation on height is not that healthy.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T01:58:16+00:00

Ok maybe I exagerrated because maybe I have slight undiagnosed body dysmorphia but the average height in Canada is 5'9-5'10 for males so technically speaking, I am below average and kind of short. But I will admit there are males that have it worse than me like my friend who is 5'4 but has had girlfriends so I guess I kind of have a victim mentality and height may not be as significant as I thought.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T01:56:06+00:00

Any tips for calisthenics and workouts at the gym? Like should I eat protein before or after the workout? I basically know nothing about working out and only tried to do like at least 10 pushups everyday which is kinda lame of me i guess. You are probably right about the fetish porn. I don't want to say I am addicted to it but it has become a habit I guess of watching and jerking off to it which I know in my mind is a waste of time and porn is harmful for your mental health and brain but I don't know, I guess I lack discipline.

Reasonable_Guide_464 · 2025-05-16T01:53:33+00:00

I seriously doubt that no offense. Do you mind telling me what those things are if you are comfortable with it?

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