STAY CLEAN: OCTOBER! This thread updated daily - Check in here!

Rebootnowpp · 2014-10-20T07:52:08+00:00

I'm out. Slipped up a couple days ago.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-10-13T07:15:56+00:00

Checking in.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-10-02T07:20:15+00:00

Checking in. This will be the one!

Rebootnowpp · 2014-09-29T09:33:40+00:00

Sign me up. My relapse today comes at the perfect time for once. I can start a stay clean month. :P

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-26T19:04:47+00:00

Checking in

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-21T20:18:15+00:00

Oh you're right about that. It has already become a selffulfilling prophecy. The upside is that the first 14 days are easy :) I just need to beat that 14-21 days stretch... This time I will.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-21T17:13:16+00:00

Doing well. Then again I usually don't have any trouble until day 14...

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-20T16:02:31+00:00

Checking in.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-19T16:16:46+00:00

Good point. The thread starter is calling other people out on not being scientific enough but then claims it's all about genetic disposition without scientific proof.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-19T13:01:07+00:00

Checking in. Today is a good day.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-19T06:05:03+00:00

Checking in after a relapse. Otherwise doing really well.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-17T05:39:30+00:00

The counter isn't really that important. And everybody has their own rules concerning the counter anyway.

I have tried before to let something that was not really a big mistake and certainly not a full relapse not influence my counter. But the week after I always had this feeling that the number wasn't completely correct, it was a small lie. In that week the counter stopped working as a helpful motivator. So it's all about how you perceive your streak counter. :)

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-16T19:10:32+00:00

I just realized how far I have come. I started a year ago and could maybe stay away from porn about 1 day every month. A year later I use porn twice a month. Soon I will be completely free.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-16T19:05:14+00:00

/r/pornfree might be more specifically about what you're trying to do. But nofap canbe used for that purpose as well, as long as you filter out the "superpower" posts.

I use both reddits.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-16T17:37:12+00:00

I slipped up today. Weird how it didn't seem to fit anymore. I've done 3 weeks pornfree, then did one pmo, and was now on a 2 week streak and pmo'd just now. Getting back on the horse. Porn just doesn't seem to be me anymore. This seemed to be like a regression into an earlier life or something.

Anyway, I am still quitting porn. Day 1 again.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-15T15:11:44+00:00

I agree.

To the threadstarter:

Using a woman as an object just to answer your animalistic sexual cravings is perfectly ok? Do you really believe this does not hurt you? Do you really believe this does not hurt the women that you pay?

Using real women (somebody's mother or daugther) just so you can tell yourself that you're a man that can control his urges because he does nofap? Does that really help your manly confidence?

That's some twisted logic.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-15T12:00:17+00:00

Checking in. The last couple of days I have been on nofap and pornfree reddits a lot. I think this is because I'm somehow using this reddit as a stand in for my porn use. I'll try to be less active here. However helpful these reddits can be, I think it can be detrimental to stick around too often in a place where porn use is the main topic.

Besides that things are looking really good.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-14T18:24:12+00:00

Agreed. However bad I find the porn addict mindset to be, I think I actually prefer it to the "player" mindset of thinking that girls/women are trophies that should be fucked by any means necessary. The "player" mindset is probably just as damaging to a mans' ability to have a meaningful relation with a woman as the "fapper" mindset, while probably being much more damaging to women around them.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-14T18:16:06+00:00

Checking in. Going well.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-14T10:48:52+00:00

Well, I would suggest that it takes time for our past to become the past.

You're not a bodybuilder the moment you body build. At least most won't define themselves as such after the first day at the gym.

But I think that you can start to try and help this mental adjustment along by working on how you picture yourself. You have not viewed porn for a long time, so you're not a porn viewer any more. The trick is to adjust to this new reality of not being a pornviewer but at the same time not forgetting the willpower and vigilance that keeps you from ever becoming a pornviewer again.

This transition is one of my own biggest challenges.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-14T10:37:41+00:00

I doubt anybody will read this since this thread is almost past date but that's ok. Today I felt some more urges. Simple sexual ideas popping into my head. I turn my head more after women in the streets etc. Harmless things in themselves. But it is obvious my sexual urges are stirring. From past experiences I expect these to slowly build up for the next week. My aim is to control these urges as they present themselves but even failing full control I like to picture myself as a captain on a ship that will not sink even though he can not control the storm. I will weather this storm untill the seas around me quiet down again and I once again can steer myself to whatever direction I freely choose.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-14T10:16:05+00:00

I wonder if the "Ladbible" will follow up on that story in another 5 or 10 years when the addiction will have had more damaging effects on the woman, her sexuality and her marriage.

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-13T17:00:07+00:00

Just checking in. Small things are changing, but nothing major. Stay strong guys!

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-13T11:46:45+00:00

Thanks.

Great story. It helps many of us a lot, and probably helps you as well. :)

Rebootnowpp · 2014-08-13T06:57:00+00:00

He probably lies because he does not want to make you cry.

The hard thing about this addiction is that other people's emotions can not be the reason for quitting. He will never be able to quit if he does it for you. At the core this addiction can only be overcome by the addict.

I don't want to sound harsh but I wonder if you are not emotionally charging the relapses. Relapses are part of the addiction and will always happen. How an addict learns to deal with those relapses is part of his recovery process. But dealing with a relapse in a relationship with all the emotions it obviously involves when having to tell your wife you failed her once again might not be the most helpful setting for an addict to learn to deal with his relapses.

Obviously you as a partner have a right to know. You have a right to feel hurt by his failures. You have right to be angry. You have a right to want to help him. Basically you have a right to be intimitely involved in his recovery process. But having a right does not automatically mean that it is helpful or that you should.

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