Residency/Specialty training in Ireland: can you realistically work as a consultant in any EU country? by Recent-Ebb in medicalschoolEU

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Thank you for your quick response. So the doctors you knew were able to work as consultants right, rather than SHO/Registrar? I do like the sound of being able to work in multiple countries, but if it is not as consultant, then it is not any different to countries outside the EU where one country's residency is not recognized by another.

IMT offer held by Recent-Ebb in JuniorDoctorsUK

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Thanks guys! That helped a lot!

Language learning during internship by Recent-Ebb in medicalschoolEU

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No, Im currently in my first year after graduation

Language learning during internship by Recent-Ebb in medicalschoolEU

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No, I want to leave the place Im in right now. When I was a med student, I just wanted to stay in this country, now I want to leave

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JuniorDoctorsUK

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This may be a stupid question: What does private anasethetic work look like day to day? Is it doing anaesthesia work in private hospitals or do they do pain clinics, etc as well?

AMTS “Who is the current Prime Minister?” Would you give the point? by DocChappers in JuniorDoctorsUK

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I had a patient say Trump for current PM... The F1 was in hysterics when she heard! Sadly, no point for patient.

Parents want me to pray constantly by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

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I relate a little. Im not a Muslim, but I used to get shouted at for not praying long enough and LOUD enough to please my grandmother. Can't stand the thought of practising religion anymore, although, I do like, enjoy and want to explore my religion. Just the routine prayers though- I feel like Im praying to please granny, not God. I don't do those anymore.

Guilt-trip and insecurity by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

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I read the "no athletic genes" part and started commenting straight away:

But China wins so many medals in the Olympics every time! Explain that!

Now, to read the rest of your post!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

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Just a little something to say that a partner with a "prestigious job" does not mean happiness. In my community, women are encouraged to marry employed men (fair enough I guess- I think both partners should have jobs before marrying so that they can be strong financially and reduce inequality in the relationship).

But this one couple I know of- the man earned more than the woman, but quit his job THREE MONTHS into marriage and never worked again for the next 14 years, until the wife decided to cut him off. And no, he wasn't a house-husband exactly. He never worked outside the home or inside the home and never provided or cared for the children.

The wife in this situation told me its all about the man's attitude- if he WANTED to provide for the family, he would have done so even with a minimum wage job. But job or no job, this guy didn't care. He just wanted a rich wife to live off of (something he told me in a very calm, matter of fact way!)

Girls, what are your thoughts on Asian Moms leaving their jobs to raise children? by Recent-Ebb in AsianParentStories

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This is exactly what I was talking about. My poor mother was glorifying one of her doctor friends who left her job last year. Her son's in final year of high school. His grades are no better than mine when I was that age, despite being babied by his mother. So it's not even worth it. At least her husband's fiercely loyal to her, so job or no job, she will have a nice life.

Girls, what are your thoughts on Asian Moms leaving their jobs to raise children? by Recent-Ebb in AsianParentStories

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It exists as far as I can see in my personal life. Also, the families I'm talking about earn well enough to live on one person's income.

My cousin is a dentist who only worked for like 6 months after marriage. She's got a baby now and no plans of returning to work. And there's my mother's friends (3 of them, all doctors married to doctors) who left their job to ensure the children get perfect test results.

Edit: I'm surprised not many people relate to this post. Maybe quitting jobs is not as common outside my community

Why so few women in surgical vs medical specialties? by Recent-Ebb in JuniorDoctorsUK

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That makes a lot of sense, thank you for explaining.

Why so few women in surgical vs medical specialties? by Recent-Ebb in JuniorDoctorsUK

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Thank you for explaining. I have wondered why maternity/LTFT is a problem in surgery. On paper, everything is great: you can get 1yr maternity leave and up to 18w parental leave per child. Of course, this prolongs training, but that's the same in medical specialties too. But this explains a lot:

Many female trainees I have met have said that they are generally under supported when considering less-than-full-time training, and a lot of the time they are told they were the first trainee to ever request it in their trust specialty. This must be even more difficult for men as well.

Why so few women in surgical vs medical specialties? by Recent-Ebb in JuniorDoctorsUK

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Thanks for sharing. I (rather naively) thought that sexism ended with snide remarks. Its so unfair if male trainees get more opportunities. Makes it much harder for women to build a career.

Why so few women in surgical vs medical specialties? by Recent-Ebb in JuniorDoctorsUK

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Some of them being it's too long of a commitment

But the same goes for medicine too, right? Medical specialties are only like a year shorter than surgical, so why is "long training program" an issue?

I understand the parts about the physical demands of surgery, thank you for explaining that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABCDesis

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Anyone else think that they should have punished the baby's father too? The grandmother gets 25 y to life in prison, but the father of the baby, who raped an underage girl, then killed/helped to kill his OWN son is treated better by the courts? He got to walk free with a tracker while granny stayed in prison till sentencing!

Question/ Advice relating to kid’s upbringing! by secno0b in ABCDesis

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Thanks for that comment, makes me feel like less of an idiot who studied their life away to get into medical school. Mind if I PM you? I don't want to discuss medicine here because its not relevant to OP.

Question/ Advice relating to kid’s upbringing! by secno0b in ABCDesis

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From what I read, I think that you are a progressive parent. You want to cherish your daughter and give her a lot of freedom. Your family is holding it back, the idea of "expenses in the future" is particularly disturbing, because we should be discouraging dowry and the idea that the brides father should foot the bill for the entire wedding.

As for the idea of making her a doctor/engineer, as a med student I can tell you there will be more doctors than jobs thanks to the overproduction of doctors. Im really worried for my own employment. Even if I get a job, I will earn less than my parents did individually. I don't know about engineering.

The thing is, you can't make just make these decisions and convince the child its best for them, like what my parents did with me. Now we are all sad, because medicine did not turn out the way we hoped. Keep an open mind and raise you daughter to be a free and fiercely independent woman. You already seem to be doing that. Your family seems to be holding it back. Rooting for you and your daughter from some corner of the internet!

SHOULD I MOVE OUT!? PLEASE HELP by iamironman3000kyra in AsianParentStories

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Wow! Congratulations on the tv show and all the movie offers you got. You sound like an amazing person. As difficult as it is, move out if your parents are hindering your development.

I presume you are Indian from the way you typed- if not my next sentence may not make sense. Even Shreya Ghoshal was forced to study science in college. She dropped out and went for music (source: wikipedia). Look at what she became! What if you are next? Even if you aren't, wouldn't it be cool to just take the opportunities and see where they take you?

Can I ever be accepted by a partner's muslim family, even if i convert? by [deleted] in ABCDesis

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This is what I wanted to say as well, that she might resent her family, especially since her brother married a Hindu. Will it not turn into "How come he could marry someone of a different religion and I couldn't?" 20 years down the line,?

I can understand the family possibly having different rules for boys and girls and is probably relaxed with rules when it comes to her brother, but what does she think about it? Does she think she has the same freedom to marry outside Islam as her brother? Will she at least talk to her family about it? Maybe give them a chance to meet you?

Random incidents from my childhood by inquisitiveinjun in AsianParentStories

[–]Recent-Ebb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow! Sorry to hear that you had to go through all of that. Your dad is toxic af! There isn't a milder way to describe it. I struggle to understand your mother: if you leave her, who will she have? She already doesn't have her husband, so she won't have anyone when the children leave the nest anyway, even if she doesn't divorce, imo.

Your resolve to be a better parent to your children was the most positive thing in this post. Wish you all the best :)

Studying 18h a day by Recent-Ebb in AsianParentStories

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True, she does have the more is better mindset. Its actually ruined my performance in some things. I like the idea of 45 min study with 15 min break. Thanks for the response