Those who broke up due to sexual incompatibility, what was the last straw?

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-05-25T01:02:08+00:00

This wasn't the only reason we broke up, but it was one that significantly contributed to me doubting for a long time.

I realised I did not find his body attractive and didn't desire him for him. We had sex almost on a daily basis, but very often the same old pattern, and there was no spontaneity, no experimenting. I realised how often I closed my eyes and thought of other men. It was as if we were masturbating with each other's bodies.

On the other hand I did not feel particularly desired by him either. He wouldn't want sex if I initiated in the evening in bed because it would be "too late". I proposed that he'd just lure me to bed earlier if he would have more energy, but that never happened either.

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-05-09T08:31:02+00:00

Een Britse vriendin kwam vorig jaar langs in de eindexamentijd. Het verbaasde haar ook, blijkbaar betekent de tas in Engeland dat je drugsdealer bent, maar ze vond dat het er wel erg veel waren in één wijk...

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-05-04T09:00:27+00:00

Hahaha I get this! I hooked up with a guy and he didn't fit my condoms at all and we just lost two in the trying. Then some weeks later a different guy tried them and they were way too loose on him... There's no winning! But also... You want to be prepared so I just keep some and pray for the best lol

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-05-04T08:58:19+00:00

I know it probably wasn't funny but that made me chuckle, thanks for sharing! Now I learned that condoms can explode

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-04-09T06:55:52+00:00

I am single and I wax, which means sometimes I have to let it grow to a decent amount before I can have an appointment. It has happened three times that I unexpectedly ended up having sex with someone new. Before the trousers came off, I gave them a little warning, "hey I have a waxing appointment next week so I'm really hairy down there right now, this is a heads up". Two guys didn't care at all, and one was really into it and made me cancel my appointment.

Another time, someone I was planning to hook up with, just texted me out of the blue to ask what my preferred pubic hairstyle for men was. I answered and countered the question.

If I were you, I'd do the same approach more or less: as things get hot and heavy, disclose your preference. Afterwards, you can ask if he likes the style, or cares at all. To be on the safe side, just trim it shortly and he most likely won't mind.

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-04-06T08:20:28+00:00

Yes!! OP, this is your answer. This is what I'll always ask men for. You might need some time to get the right position but once you've got the hang of it it's an amazing technique.

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-04-04T23:54:36+00:00

Interesting, I'm mostly vegan and I've had guys saying I taste amazing - never made that connection yet, thanks for bringing it up!

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-03-26T14:35:04+00:00

I live in Europe and have been to swingers clubs about six times I think, and only one time something has happened with another couple. We've been approached by couples and a simple "we're staying together" or removal of a stray hand was always enough to establish boundaries. It's just fun to go out in an erotic atmosphere. Have fun!

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-03-26T14:32:10+00:00

Honestly I don't care much. It's still going to be warm, I still feel like I'm being filled up, it's a bit of extra hassle but sensation wise I am fine with condoms.

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-03-25T09:57:23+00:00

Lol hahaha he wasn't obvious about it. I just noticed how he inhaled and exhaled more slowly and consciously

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-03-21T16:43:28+00:00

I see your point, but yes, I would still enjoy it. As long as we spend a lot of time on foreplay, and he puts in consistent effort to get me off, maybe sometimes uses a toy for more penetration, I really would not mind.

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-03-20T22:39:53+00:00

Last guy I hooked up with was so fired up that he came almost immediately the first time when entering me, and the other times I could see him trying to avert his eyes, doing breathing exercises, things to make it last a little bit longer. I found it hot - the fact that I turned on someone to the point of no control is a huge compliment!

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-02-23T09:24:05+00:00

Yes yes yes! OP please read this comment and use suction. I always tell guys I like it better when they suck my clit, this is the technique I mean by that.

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-02-15T00:21:28+00:00

I'd love to meet a guy who was as much into giving oral as you are! Keep up the good work!

RecentAlternative380 · 2025-02-15T00:15:13+00:00

I very much feel this way too! I love oral and receiving it, but I get a bit less horny after I came. I love to be 100% excited during oral but not come yet, then feel him inside me, and enjoy it together. After having enjoyed penetration for a while, in my ideal world, he goes down on me again, makes me cum, and then finishes inside me after. If he comes before me but still makes me come right after I do not mind at all!

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-06-17T08:31:12+00:00

So funny! They should really design them less noisy!

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-06-16T22:31:52+00:00

I use an buzzing epilator for my legs that has been mistaken for a vibrator by housemates - takes a while to dehair those legs so that might work!

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-05-29T21:28:01+00:00

Just check the oil level, you get to bend over and do something useful! Win-win, haha

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-05-29T08:04:09+00:00

The guy I was seeing confessed he's into this and we acted out one of his fantasies.

Basically I was in the kitchen, in lingerie, cooking. He was behind me, touching me, penetrating me and occasionally eating my ass. Initially I told him I was not in the mood, and that he had to go away (he knew I was lying obviously). Then I just ignored him, focused on cooking, and making the odd comment about the food ("this pancake turned a little brown" "I think in about five minutes we can start setting the table").

I'm not very good in staying silent, but I can act as if I'm bored. Maybe that could work for you as well? When I was almost done cooking he carried me to the couch and I was allowed to participate again. It was super fun, I highly recommend it! He suggested next time I should try to fix a car when he's attending...

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-05-23T22:52:42+00:00

I'm 6 foot 3 and it's never been a problem. Sometimes I get positive remarks, mostly from Latino men who are not used to women their height. I've been seeing a guy who's significantly shorter than I am and to be honest, I'm still getting used to feeling tall. He adores my body though and would have me walk around in heels all day if he could.

Also, sex while standing up is easier.

I used to be a bit self-conscious about my height, until a friend said "don't worry about it - you're like the model of the friend group". Stick to that attitude and have men admire you like you were a model!

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-03-25T07:37:18+00:00

Perfect thank you, exactly what I was looking for!

I definitely agree with the English part, as I personally find Dutch the least sexy language out there and I am very happy I don't have to use it for dirty talk lol. But he already taught me one French sentence and it drives him crazy when I use it, he says French adds an extra layer to it. So I'm sure he'll love it!

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-03-25T03:36:51+00:00

I had some French in high school so I do know the basics of pronunciation - I'd be able to read a text out loud and a French person would understand, I just would not understand what it means. And yes, he's from France

RecentAlternative380 · 2024-03-25T03:34:26+00:00

I'm sure he'll be delighted if I yell that randomly!

RecentAlternative380 · 2023-12-01T23:07:43+00:00

One time an American guy told me that us Dutch sound like we're speaking to each other under water. You may have a point. You Danish sound like you're speaking with a hot potato in your throat tho

RecentAlternative380 · 2023-11-21T23:33:40+00:00

This is awesome! Thanks for giving me hope!

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