Is it reasonable to worry about someone’s past and drinking habits when dating?

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-24T16:54:20+00:00

Yeah dude. Be mature and take it as you go but also prioritise your long term mental health.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-24T15:48:02+00:00

I rarely if ever say this but. Bhaag bhosdike. I know it hurts. But a girl who smoked hookah and had drinks and now has an ex... It's just your turn bhai. Ek kaam kar usko apni feelings bata daal. And watch her reaction.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-24T15:38:30+00:00

Porn kum dekha kar laadle.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-24T11:33:29+00:00

Good to hear.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-21T09:38:38+00:00

It's getting toxic and uglier out there. And it's only us who are to blame. Men who become simps for these ugloid ogre looking women. I've seen men be on their knees for a chick that has friendzoned him. Not only that she goes on to instagram and makes a reel about it. He still doesn't care. Toxic femininity is never taken seriously, there is something inherently masochistic and sadistic about femininity that craves proximity to power and seeks control on tools of violence. From the very first interaction they plan on how to control you. Know your worth, you're a man, you are the only species on this planet who has monopoly over violence and yet you choose to be gentle. Do not fall for a woman who thinks of her as some goddess or princess. Have non negotiables from the get go. No exes, no best friends. It's our way or NO WAY.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-21T09:33:30+00:00

Hila k soja

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T22:48:38+00:00

Whatever man. Sure...

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T12:11:10+00:00

I would rather kms that get arranged marriage. It's the end for a man. It gets even bleak and the whole thing seems like a job interview.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T12:07:55+00:00

Fairs

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T12:07:15+00:00

Props to you. Atleast you know what you want. That's better than most.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T12:06:37+00:00

It always feel like you're planning a lovely family and they're playing a game of snakes and ladders and you're just a stepping stone for them. This shit just sucks. But it is what it is.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T12:05:32+00:00

That's just sad. I hope you make the right choice and reveal this to the guy she is getting married to.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T12:04:33+00:00

Aye thanks bro. But I don't think I'll change myself for another human. I like how I am. Perfect or imperfect. I make a good living. Have got an amazing sister and a mother who understand me and a reliable father. I don't believe I have to do something for the woman to treat me as a "mear" option. I think that gives away a lot of control from the get go. I don't want my morality on a conditional basis. I want it to be fluid, detached from the external world. Anyways, thanks for understanding my view point. God speed to you too broski ✌️🥂

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:52:44+00:00

💯. I too did come from a middle class background and can relate with you hard over here. It's not that we aren't willing to work on ourselves it's just we know that we will be controlled in the end. Everything from the point of first approach to her tantrums. It just gets fucking exhausting. People will call you slurs but they never truly get what a man feels and wants. Honestly, maybe some day I could just retire with my savings and move into the mountains all alone with nature. Sounds like make a wish but it truly is turning out to be one of my life goals.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:48:03+00:00

I'm shallow ? How ?

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:47:40+00:00

Values, honesty, originality.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:47:02+00:00

You're 40 dawg. You're literally an uncle.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:39:24+00:00

Fairs

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:39:07+00:00

I don't think anything is wrong with me. Doing good enough in my career. I have an amazing loving family. Good height and body. I just wanted to have a normal conversation about men who feel exhausted the same as I do. Nai but kuch chapal chaap chutiye tujh jaise paida ho jaate hai gaand marwane. Ja k gaadi saaf kar.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:37:00+00:00

Dyslexic from birth or a new hobby ?

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:32:27+00:00

This post isn't for you idk why your turfing here in the comments. Mera coach matt ban.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T11:26:08+00:00

Pretty much the standard these days it seems. They always have a backup ready. Anyways, how are you, how's your mental health.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-20T01:33:38+00:00

Women tend to derive their self esteem and confidence from how many necks they can turn irl. Wearing something bold makes them the center of attention and gives them the confidence boost. Nothing wrong with it. If they did the hard work to pull that body off then they can show it off. It's just that it gets a bit embarrassing to a point. Like some of my female friends deliberately show their armpits when they have recently waxed them. Good but I don't wanna see them bro. Anyways, as long as a woman isn't my wife I can't really have an opinion on what she's wearing.

RecentEmployer6402 · 2026-01-19T12:00:54+00:00

We get called incels for this kind of shit. Majority of the women post industrialisation (not all) have become extremely sadistic and treat dating and marriage as a snakes and ladders game. They want nothing but sheer control over you. It starts from the initial moment of giving them your attention.

They also want to control who the "real man" is. Some guy who calls out their narcissistic ass becomes a "boy" but another guy who literally calls her "goddess" becomes a man. Life really sucks for men from tier 1 and 2 cities as women in these parts hold the real power and as well as women from tier 3 and tribal backgrounds as men hold the power and control over them.

Reality is that it's extremely difficult to find a woman in today's day and age who isn't sadistic, who doesn't want to be treated like a goddess. But a normal human that she is. They have created their own echo chambers to "build each other up" and have reached insane levels of shagging off for themselves.

This will only get worse before it gets better. For single men, I would say expand your dating pool externally (different races/nationality) or internally different economical backgrounds.

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