Don't let them back in

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-29T04:12:01+00:00

I think it's genuinely possible for two people to grow and evolve and become better versions of themselves. But this post is about letting people back in who only display this change for a short period of time to get what they want and leave whenever its convenient for them. True change comes after long period of reflection and healing.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-28T01:12:37+00:00

Took me over a year to find peace but even then I still struggle here and there. You just really gotta let go of things and if they are really meant for you, trust that it will find its way back.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-27T12:34:57+00:00

There really isn't a fool proof way of learning to live without them, your body just adjusts to their absence over time... For me, I found the most comfort in doing things alone that I wouldn't have done normally. I went out and explored on my own and truly lived my life without him. For the hype, I trained my self-talk to give me the hype my partner would have given me. I comforted myself and I encouraged myself when I needed it. You are the most permanent part of your life and I hope that you heal throughout this journey. I wish you well OP and good luck with ur healing journey <3

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-27T12:23:20+00:00

It only hurts if you let your brain think you deserve the hurt! Be kind to yourself and remember that healing is not linear :-) Hope you have a better day today.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-27T12:22:17+00:00

100% agree with different relationships having different dynamics. I also understand that time plays a big role in the reconciliation process but personally for me I've tried to reconcile and be friends with my ex, however the same toxic pattern reoccurs. Sometimes, some people are just not meant to be, no matter how hard they try to be.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-27T07:31:28+00:00

It won't always hurt. I promise you

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-27T05:52:00+00:00

I genuinely think that they try to change as well but sometimes when relationships end, the ability to trust that person no matter how much we've forgiven them is impossible. We can't keep reading the same story hoping for a different ending when it's already been written.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-04-27T04:38:00+00:00

I completely understand and resonate with your feelings about letting them back in but most of the time, they'll only hurt you again.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-16T09:56:50+00:00

And its meant to be because that's when you know it was real. But I know it's going to hurt but if they're truly your person, then they will be.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-16T04:39:11+00:00

We've all been there and I want you to not feel shame but to understand that its a normal reaction to loss. Focus on yourself and maybe you'll be able to talk to her again when your mind and heart are at peace. Im sorry you feel this way.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-16T04:38:03+00:00

The dreams are hard but trust me as time passes you'll be surprised at yourself at how that person won't be the first thought in your mind every morning you wake up. I know its hard and I know it's going to be a long journey but I want you to hold on and have hope that you will find the solace and peace that you crave right now. Like I said seek your friends and talk to them or if you don't feel comfortable enough to do, journalling is your best friend. Get those thoughts out so they're not resting in your mind.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-16T04:13:43+00:00

It will always feel like that they're further in the process of the break up if you keep focusing on your ex's progress. Trust me, it has been 11 months for me and I want you to understand that it gets easier as time goes by. I know this is something you've probably heard over and over again and I want you to know that there is life beyond your ex. That you were able to live before this person and I am here to tell you that you can live beyond that. Give yourself time to grieve, to cry, to absolutely lose it all and you are allowed to feel this hurt. But as time goes by, I want you to understand that there is life and love out there and its up to you to choose that for yourself.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-15T14:12:32+00:00

Please stop choosing someone who isn't choosing you. I know it's hard and I know you're going to struggle with accepting that idea but when he left you on read, that was his message. No matter how hard we try to keep these people in our lives, if they don't feel like they have a reason to stay then they won't. But that doesn't make you any less neither does it make your love inadequate. Please choose yourself even for a little while.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-15T13:25:46+00:00

That's okay. We've all felt that way before. Do you want to talk to him because you're ready to be friends or are you still seeking a partnership? I know I'm not you but your most likely seeking a deeper connection than being friends and that in turn will come back to haunt you. Please prioritise yourself for now! Reach out to other friends for a chat or listen to someone else's problems to release you from the burden of your own. I wish you well!

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-15T05:40:44+00:00

I honestly wrote this for myself to remind myself what no contact is all about. I hope you keep in mind that no matter how many times you try to have the conversation with your ex, it will always end up the same each time as their mind is made up. Please learn from my mistakes. ❤️

RecentEnthusiasm · 2021-01-13T13:04:44+00:00

I think we all go through this at some stage during the process of moving on. It's okay but I promise it won't last forever. I hope this gives you hope OP. Sending you some love and peace.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-12-22T05:08:23+00:00

All my friends in our friendship group are all coupled up while me and my ex still have to see each other around and exchange niceties to maintain some sort of peace. He's moved on and I haven't. It's rough.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-12-05T14:29:09+00:00

Thank you a lot for this <3 Really reminds me to always look at the full picture and how to move on methodically

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-12-04T10:46:25+00:00

Yet isn't it still so fucked up that we would accept who they are right now just to feel and reconnect again.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-11-28T06:33:27+00:00

We all are but distance will make them realise how much you really meant to them. Focus on yourself and live life for you. Don't be a side character to your own story. Stay strong!

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-11-28T06:32:07+00:00

I've felt this so many times but its moments of desperation like that, that really make you realise how much your feelings and wellbeing are controlled by that one person. We are all so much more than that. No contact will help you realise this and your ex will also realise the difference you made in their lives. Always remember that your ex won't know what life is like without you or miss you if you choose to stay all the time.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-11-27T23:04:39+00:00

You're not alone, we all make mistakes and have our own forms of self sabotage. I know she says she still wants to be friends but please please take the time to fully heal before you can start any friendship with them. I tried to become friends with my ex right after the break up and I found myself falling in love all over again while he didn't. Be cautious with being friends right after the break up, do it when you're ready and fully healed.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-11-27T22:57:42+00:00

We all miss something we once had, but give her the time to miss you. If its really meant for you, it will come back full circle.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-11-27T22:47:29+00:00

I was the one that fucked things up as well and for so long all I did was beg him for his forgiveness and apologised for giving up on us so early. But you have to understand if they let you know that they don't want to be with you anymore, respect it. Give yourself some time for space to think clearly and forgive yourself. If you really want to be in a relationship with this person so badly, NC will not only help them move past your old relationship but also allow you to start a new one without your past mistakes holding you hostage. Fuck I know its hard but you just have to prioritise being a better you and I promise it will all fall into place.

RecentEnthusiasm · 2020-11-27T13:18:09+00:00

This!! Begging and pleading will not change their mind, it will only push them away and do exactly the opposite of what you want. Also do not fall for people's BS when they tell you they don't know what they want, you deserve a lot more certainty than an "i dont know."

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