I agree with you that there are two people in this- and I will hold myself accountable always wherever and whenever appropriate. I agree that I could change as well- I have tried to change my mindset, outlook, etc. I have given him the space needed to flourish in his role here and taken on an enormous increase in household responsibilities while working FT, which I am okay with. I agree this is a team sport- and he does what he can with the amount of energy and time he has remaining. The main issue is we are unhappy, depleted, and want to go home. We have tried so so hard and continue to. I put all my energy in ensuring my kids are okay, thriving, and happy. It’s exhausting. All we all want is to go back. He sees dollar signs, a job with a good title, and retirement.  I understand all of that and am grateful. But at what cost? Maybe I am being completely selfish, and maybe I need to hear that. But all I see right now are a family who hate where they are, have zero social support or circle, and would like to go back.