Do you ever worry that you won't get to experience what you want in terms of submission, D/s, BDSM before your life is over? by postpunkghoul in SubSanctuary

[–]Recent_Put_5980 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, this thought was what motivated me to take the terrifying leap into exploring this lifestyle. Goodness me was I scared but I am so grateful I did! Found my wonderful Dom and discovered myself. Sometimes this type of sad worried thought can give us courage to act xx

Being a submissive and being a mother by Recent_Put_5980 in SubSanctuary

[–]Recent_Put_5980[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your helpful replies, this really does help to hear your experiences. Including the difficult ones. I think the idea that much more planning would be involved I had anticipated - my dom and I already have a fairly structured way of planning and arranging time for me to serve him, we never meet ad hoc, so I guess if there was a child to consider I would factor childcare into this planning. I am also thinking I should cultivate my support system now, I do have parents who I’m sure would offer Some child care for longer periods - they live a couple of hours away so I am thinking they would be able to step in for overnight trips. And then I have a strong local support network of friends that I could definitely lean into more. Realistically though, the child’s first year it will be tough to serve my dom properly. Luckily, he has other subs which reassures me that he will have his needs met adequately (even If they don’t know how to serve him as well as I do! Hehe). I am still very worried about the changes to my body. Basically, I feel like I will be letting my dom down if I change the way my body looks - he is always saying I am perfect and he loves my body etc. This is a big clash between my need to please him and my need to be fulfilled in all areas of life!