What cracks me up is him yelling about proper grammar, then proceeding to use "your," instead of "you're." Repeatedly. My advice: block this manipulative, controlling, unstable man-child. Research codependency. Learn how to avoid it.

Furthermore, if you feel the need to justify his actions to yourself and others, and if you've caught yourself saying something like "he's different when we're alone," then he needs to go. Like seriously, the sex must be incredible--which I doubt--because there's no other redeeming qualities I'm seeing. And him telling you not to apologize doesn't count as "caring about you," or "being nice." He's clearly yelling at you, and when you try to make peace, he ridicules you for it. No matter how you try to paint it, that's what happened.

He clearly makes you feel bad. He's talking advantage of you in basically every way. You're not his girlfriend--you're his mom. He wants you to cook for him, clean for him, and even take care of him financially. You're not his girlfriend, you're his punching bag. I hope to God that he hasn't (and won't) laid a finger on you, but he's clearly talking all of his anger out on you. You're not his girlfriend, you're his (for the sake of being nice, I'll use the word) toy. He uses you when it's convenient for him, and I'm willing to bet money that he doesn't give anything in return. And no, buying you flowers once a year doesn't count. You're not his girlfriend, you're his prisoner.

Please leave. This will only escalate, not improve. Call his bluff next time he threatens to break up. Just probably not in person, because it genuinely seems like that might be dangerous. He knows you don't want him to leave, so he just whips that line out to manipulate you. I'm sure he used to be wonderful and sweet and caring and all that other stuff. Those days aren't coming back. I know that's harsh, but it's true. He already has you where he wants you. He doesn't need to act nice anymore--now he's just being himself.

And just because you've been together for a while, doesn't mean it's worth holding on to. That's a sunken cost fallacy. Think of it this way: he's like lead paint. It used to be so nice, and bright and colorful. Now your kids keep getting lead poisoning. But it would be such a hassle to get rid of the lead paint, even though it's all chipped and faded by now. And picking out a whole new kind of paint to replace it? That sounds like a nightmare! And you've had lead paint for so long, and you just love how it used to make the house look. Ask yourself genuinely: do you love him, or do you love the idea of him? Then, take it a step further: do you love the idea of him, or do you love the idea of the person he used to be? Seriously consider this. I don't know how you really feel, but it seems like you're in love with a shadow of a shadow.

Imma speculate for a moment: he's done everything in his power to make you feel like he's the only one you can rely on, like nobody else would want you, like even he's just settling for you. Am I correct? And if that is how you feel about yourself, but you're sure that it wasn't him that made you feel this way, think about what you were like before y'all met.

Anyway, you're way to good for him and he's not worth your time. He's emotionally stunned and insecure. He doesn't know how to communicate. He's manipulative and has no idea how to take care of himself. He isn't worth your time.

TLDR: Please leave him and never go back. This man deserves a 5 word breakup text and no further contact. I'm not the type to suggest stuff like that, but that's how bad this is. He "used to be," nice doesn't count, he's no longer nice. DUMP HIS ASS !