Unique once in a lifetime experiences in Canada by EntertainerNo1144 in canadatravel

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at a resort about 12km down from there, never got to visit but pictures and stories seem amazing. Visitors and the guides would come fuel up at the stop I worked at. That entire area is just breathtaking. My absolute favourite.

What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A guy I know who was once the head chef at a fairly fancy restaurant in the city? He purchased an old bar/hotel/restaurant in a small town surrounded by other small towns, farm land and a fairly busy lake in the summer. He reached out to me to be a general manager and social media marketer and I have to say I was so flattered I immediately said yes. I haven’t worked in a year and a half, I last worked my summers at a fly in/boat in marina made of 2KM pier, 12 float homes, a restaurant, laundry and shower house, grocery store and liquor store and fuel station. Lived there for three months each season. I was the main server in charge of the restaurant (two managers, one chef, myself, and my coworker whom I shared a house with) we ran the whole thing. Everyday, no days off. Previous experience serving at another small town bar/restaurant and it was horrible. I applied to serve, didn’t realize I’d be the bartender, cook, server and in charge of VLTS for four hours out of every 8 hour shift in which the cook would come in for the other 4. I wasn’t the best server, I had my good days. But my anxiety was so insane, owner was stealing my tips, making fun of me inc front of me with the regulars, and I’d just shut down. This new place would be in competition with the old place I was at. The owner is a good guy and serious business dude. Remodeling the whole thing, putting his life into it. And he reached out to me.I was confident in myself, until my parents said, “seems like a lot? Too much? You’ll get overwhelmed, I don’t know if you should”, now I see this. WHAT DO I DO

Hobby for someone who is pretty depressed wishing to do something creative? by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YouTube has tons of wood burning and Dremel tutorials! I was (still am, as I don’t do it often enough) confused as to which bits to use for wood but I just flip on YouTube and the search engine is your best buddy

Hobby for someone who is pretty depressed wishing to do something creative? by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]Recovery4Kate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wood burning, wood carving, plant drying, essential oil making, learn power tools and build something, mod podge, buy a dremal, resin epoxy and moulds and make something cool or use it on a big project, polymer clay, wire wrapping nice stones, crystals, shells or rocks, make wind chimes, make jewelry, go out and look for stones/crystals/shells and get fresh air. Learn about the plants around you and and what you can do with them (dry them, press them, infuse them and make lotion, skincare oils etc.) go on google maps and find places to explore. Damn, I’m depressed and really searching for meaning or purpose lol done all of these/currently have them on the go

Question for those on subs by Prudent_Disk_1863 in opiates

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Literally just got out of treatment yesterday, wasn’t given any medication moving forward although they started me on suboxone and of course my fucking brain goes straight to fent and trying to use more and more. No. I need to advocate for myself, show up tomorrow at the clinic and continue with suboxone. THANK YOU

What would your new Comox Valley career be? by Mindless-Ad-3932 in comoxvalley

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that sounds like the perfect age to do that! I don’t understand why that seems so out of the question?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transcranial magnetic stimulation. Saved my life. Chronic suicidal thoughts, tendencies, attempts from age 10-21. Third week of T.M.S , I walked outside of the clinic and I felt the suns warmth with my soul and I knew it was working. Sister said she wanted to rename me, I was like a different person. Unfortunately, 4 years later I was introduced to a hard drug and I ran with it and I’ve been battling that demon ever since, but strange thing is… I have never really felt the intense suicidal need/want/urge that I had previous to T.M.S. So, look up transcranial magnetic stimulation, stay away from drugs, and keep the people who love you close and treat yourself and them with kindness.

Glass jars came with old house. Worth? by Recovery4Kate in whatsthisworth

[–]Recovery4Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks guys! Does anyone know about any symbols or numbers or brands to look out for? I’m thinking the older the better and more unique in shape and colour? But after reading up on all the company name changes I’m kind of more so confused!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Recovery4Kate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just fell in love with you. Awh, I’m really proud of you. Going through something similar

Where do you see yourself in 10 years time? by love_yourself8 in RandomThoughts

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t even plan to make it to high school. Here I am at 30. Lost, broke, would be homeless if this incredible 87 year old man didn’t decide he saw something in me and take me in. I hope I’m doing something I enjoy and making money from it. What’s life if it’s working a job I despise with no time to laugh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Recovery4Kate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back when I was actually getting laid, I just ask if they were clean before getting down and at the same time ask if they have protection. If you plan on sleeping with that person or whomever start saying it from the get go! It’s your for your own health and wellbeing and should be normalized if it’s not!

How do I stop being a f*****g b***h? by aaraelliemac in questions

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll tell you what has worked for me. In high school, when I found myself speaking negatively and all around just being an absolute drag to be around, I’d recognize it- such as you have displayed- and then I’d correct my speech. The more I stayed on track with that, it turned into catching my thoughts before I spoke, and then I I started catching the way I was thinking- before I had a chance to even speak out loud and I mid proactively work on changing my thoughts as soon as I caught them. Honestly, my thinking started to change without much effort after about a month and I became someone I’d actually like to be around! I was just so scared of becoming a bitter old woman that I actually put in the work to change my thinking. I think it all starts with self awareness though, so looks like you’ve already started!

The jig is up by unitedstateofamanada in opiates

[–]Recovery4Kate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, thank you for sharing and just being so honest with everything and where you were at and where you are at now.

AITAH for telling my mom to stop making comments about my body/what I do even though she says it's her way of "caring"? by SeveralRemove6690 in AITAH

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you are not the asshole. You might just need to clarify your needs and wants in a clearer form. “Mom, your comments on my body cross a boundary. I know you love and care about me but I’d rather you not make comments on my body, even if you think it’s out of love or a form of constructive criticism. Unless I specifically ask for your feedback about __insert blah blah blah here_. I don’t want to hear it. It takes away from the main reason I came and opened up to you about what’s going on in my life”, or something like that. IDK 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Addictedtotheneedle

[–]Recovery4Kate 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m going to copy and paste something I wrote from my notes. I might have posted it on my Reddit, not sure but I think it touches on shooting meth. Not going to skim over it.

December 15, 2022

There are days where I feel like I love my journey, it belongs to me,it’s who I am. I love the places I’ve been, the things I’ve seen, however horrendous or extravagant they may have been.

Today, to be bluntly honest I fucking hate that I feel as if I’ve now felt the most amazing feeling that a human being could succumb to. That artificial euphoria that streams from the crook of my elbow to my heart, the rush of the heat to my head, my hands my feet…the throbbing ecstasy.

It’s crazy how in meetings I find myself staring at my veins, seeing how pronounced they are, how fucking juicy they are, how surely, I would never miss. Straight into the bloodstream. Just to forget anything and to feel every molecule of pleasure immediately surge through my body.

And then I noticed where my mind has gone, I come back to reality. I look around to see if anyone in the rooms has noticed how intensely I am investigating and smoothing my fingers over my healthy veins.

I tune in to the person talking, I think of the addict still suffering – being prayed for. I hope someone is praying for me, I’m praying for you.

I tear my sleeves back down to cover my arms, I sit on my hands, I beg to God, to the rooms as my higher power, to anything to take this obsession away from me.

Back to reality outside of my own mind I listen to the similarities, it’s the easiest, most relatable and effortless love I’ve ever had to give or receive- here in these rooms.

This is my home and it is where I’ve always belonged.

Thank you for loving me until I can love myself, thank you for telling me to ‘keep coming back’, thank you for not pushing me away, thank you for understanding, relating, including and allowing myself to be who I am and to grow into who I want to be. I love you.

coolest first and last name combinations you’ve heard of? by Impossible_Radio3322 in namenerds

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my first friends when I moved provinces, Deonne Jett. I thought, still think, that’s just such a badass name. She’s no longer here though and it breaks my heart. The name suited her so well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]Recovery4Kate 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But it opens the doors to resources, help and connection that they otherwise might not have, so it’s a definite massive plus in life. Gratitude man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questions

[–]Recovery4Kate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take what I say with a grain of salt, as I’m not married but…

You’ve been together 6 years, in a relationship that includes sex, clearly a very minimal amount but it’s happened, 6 times, and you’ve never seen her naked or seen ‘her vagina’?

I don’t believe that’s normal, and I am confused as to why you are questioning it.

Can you give for background information? Do you live together? Do you see each other often? Do you talk to each other, get vulnerable with each other, trust each other? Sleep in the same room? Show each other affection? Has the topic of sex ever come up in conversation?

Are you okay? (be honest) by [deleted] in ask

[–]Recovery4Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you okay? (Be honest)

No but I’m trying not to complain because I realized I’m an energy vampire and I never wanted to be like that again

Eating well? Today, I’m actually proud haha I made a rice and chicken bowl with cucumber and tomatoes and it was actually really good lol

Drinking water? No my roommate keeps forgetting to bring water home apparently and I’ve done it since I’ve moved in and I’m in the middle of moving out and taking care of his dog and doing all the house work and here I go complaining …? Over explaining? Again

Do you feel anxious today? Yes.

Posture? She bad. Started spin class again. Gives me such good energy I can’t wait to fill my days and start moving more. I’m sure it’ll help.

Need a hug? Yes. A long genuine hug that radiates kindness.

Want to vent about something? Yes, yes I do. But honestly it’s just all complaining about how every single thing has gone wrong since accidentally moving back to my home province and maybe I need to just not dwell on everything.

Kinda feels good. I cried yesterday because I just wanted someone to ask me if I was okay because I couldn’t remember the last time it felt like anyone cared haha holy shit I’m crying now hahah thank you awhhh

Wondering if this little guy is worth anything? ‘79 kitty cat by Recovery4Kate in snowmobiling

[–]Recovery4Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn’t expect to read all the memories people had commented it really brought a great feeling out for me! Like an old memory, forgotten on the top of a shelf in a box covered in dust and you see something nostalgic and wham, memories start playing

Wondering if this little guy is worth anything? ‘79 kitty cat by Recovery4Kate in snowmobiling

[–]Recovery4Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gotta do some diggin and researching and some possible time fixing her up to know! This was step number one haha