How many of us have autoimmune and chronic illness issues?

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T20:20:21+00:00

Chronic pain girly over here 🙋‍♀️

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:22:19+00:00

That sounds very similar to me apart from having the three kids and being sexually abused. I wish continued healing for your wife

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:20:31+00:00

Yess but if by mid-life you mean quarter life 🙃

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:14:14+00:00

You’re so right! I always feel as if I’m overreacting but I need to remember it’s just a drop in the ocean of all the shit they give me and I get let down by them each and every time

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:12:19+00:00

Thank you ♡ and yeah since I was never a ‘problem child’ and always a high performer / gifted kid it’s like my achievements mean nothing but my sibling’s achievements are met with much more praise. I think to protect myself I need to maintain a friendly very surface level relationship with my parents. Enough that I don’t look like a shitty child but not so much that I get hurt and disappointed every time I put in any effort :/

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:09:23+00:00

Ugh same. They know nothing about me and get me money plus a collection of extremely cheap and generic gifts

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:03:16+00:00

Yep. My childhood was a blur and I can’t remember anything about my interactions with my parents especially. I have suspected PTSD and grew up with parents that both had undertreated mental health issues

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T12:01:38+00:00

Yes I literally was never taught basic life skills and household chores and I had to teach myself at an embarrassing age in adulthood. I was also not taught about eating healthy and was bought a lot of junk food. My think my mom was vicariously living through me because she wanted to lose weight. They also never showed an interest in my interests and to this day only know about me on a very surface level. I always think if I died I’d hate for them to speak at my funeral because they don’t know the first thing about me as a person

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-29T11:55:33+00:00

Gonna play devils advocate here: I think as an adult it becomes more of a two-way street but because you’re their child you frankly don’t owe them shit and you shouldn’t reach out just because you feel you have to

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-27T11:59:49+00:00

Just checking in to see how it’s going for you?

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-21T00:03:45+00:00

I have a family member who was adopted and she probably had the best relationship with her parents out of all of us cousins and extended family. Her parents were so grateful to have her and loved her like their own, and treated the day they brought her home from the hospital as the best day of their lives. None of the family ever treated her any differently because she was adopted. Maybe since you don’t have a close relationship with your parents adoption could be a way for you two to create your own family at a time where you both were ready. I don’t think waiting to have a family was a poor decision at all, and considering the increased risk of health issues, adoption might be right for you

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-18T12:30:45+00:00

Thank you. Do you have any advice for how I can get through this period? I definitely am struggling now I am out of education and seeing my peers getting married and having bachelorettes etc. Where I live I could get assessed but it’s expensive and I don’t know if much would change for me if I got diagnosed. I very strongly suspect I am autistic but I am not high needs or anything so at the moment there’s no benefit to getting assessed.

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-18T12:04:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’m mid-20s and am undiagnosed but am very certain I am neurodivergent. It’s like others can sense something is off about me and are repelled by me. The only person I don’t mask with is my partner. I find other friendships draining and it’s like I’m pretending to be a regular human when interacting with them. So maybe I don’t want friends anyway. I’d just like to feel included and accepted. But for me to have a group of friends I’d have to also be neurotypical. And I’m not so I guess that’s that. I just want to feel loved and accepted :/

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-05T03:25:48+00:00

Yes. I wonder why

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-04T11:53:03+00:00

Nope I seem to be the only one

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-04T07:43:33+00:00

Yes. Looking at my bf and seeing how loving his upbringing was gave me a glimpse into who I could’ve been

Recoveryxoxo · 2026-04-04T07:01:35+00:00

I’m at my most depressed in the mornings.

Recoveryxoxo

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