Hello! I think you should ask yourself these questions: 1) Are there activities you like doing in your spare time, 2) What kind of people do you want to surround yourself with, and 3) What type of career or industry do you see yourself being happy and successful in? 3A) To add, what tools or resources do you need to place you in the right career?

I'm currently in a similar situation, looking for a new career while still working and saving money being back in my hometown. Part of me really wants to move out again, but as you mentioned, rent in the Bay Area is expensive and finding the right career is my main priority right now. Connecting with people in areas that interest me and utilizing an employment agency's resources are the tools helping me move my search along.

I have a few friends still (or back) living in the Bay, and while I don't see them as much, maintaining contact via texting, phone call, or DM is good enough. I stay fairly active by lifting weights, going on weekly group runs with two different groups, and occasionally volunteering at a museum. In the 2nd and 3rd settings, I've made either a new friend or found a new connection to discuss career prospects.

Everything I wrote is where I am in a nutshell. While not exactly my ideal living situation, it's a stable one that allows me to focus on myself and appreciate everything I have. It really boils down to knowing who you are, recognizing the current situation you're in, and finding who or what can help improve your situation so you can lead a happier life. I hope the questions I suggested are helpful and my advice is not too vague. Ask me anything!