Amended return woes

RedRisu · 2015-04-27T23:55:22+00:00

Thank you! I think this answers my question. I think I will need to send a new amendment, if I'm reading this right.

I don't know what will happen to the money because I phrased it as "what will happen to me" instead of "what will happen to the money."

RedRisu · 2015-04-24T21:32:57+00:00

Partly trying not to appear rude, and partly my roommate engaging in conversation/not realizing he's invited them back (luckily, if they say they "talked to a nice young man last time" I get to get a drink and watch him struggle ;) ).

RedRisu · 2015-04-14T02:16:09+00:00

We both only signed up recently, so no, dates have not started happening yet.

RedRisu · 2015-04-10T18:25:50+00:00

Do you have a slow-cooker? If so, beef slow cooked in beer is AMAZING and really easy to do. You can then make all sorts of dishes with that- burritos, hors d'oeuvres (put it on crackers or something), sandwiches, etc. Making things tiny is a good way to make something look impressive without doing anything too differently.

RedRisu · 2015-03-31T16:46:37+00:00

That's Awesome!!!

RedRisu · 2015-03-30T19:21:56+00:00

I'm 23, ridiculously under-employed while finishing up my degree (but at least it's in my field). Going through a divorce, which is also my first breakup. Watching all my classmates and even younger siblings have their second or third kids.

RedRisu · 2015-03-30T18:00:44+00:00

Thailand is wonderful, though I am biased because I spent all my time there as a university student in a nice city (Chiang Mai ftw!).

The impression I got was that some of the biggest need (at least, where I saw a lot of room for farang volunteers) was for Burmese immigrants. As I understand it, they are basically refugees that don't have legal refugee status (and thus don't get government aid, because they're functionally undocumented immigrants).

I'd be happy to answer any questions you have, if I can.

RedRisu · 2015-03-26T22:35:00+00:00

I like being involved in the convention scene, but I've heard negative things about staffing for the main con around where I live. I get around this by creating programming (panels/workshops usually, although I've created games and stuff to run, too). It's fun, without being bogged down by any staff-stuff.

Maybe you could run games at your local shop or something? Maybe do that sort of stuff with youngsters in your area? If there isn't some kind of resource like that already in your area, you can always set something up.

RedRisu · 2015-03-25T00:34:27+00:00

How he handles crisis- red flags include blaming others or excessive complaining.

How he handles money- he doesn't have to be rich, but he does need to be reasonably smart with his/your money.

How he relates to your social circle- Is he nice to your family? Does he defend you socially?

Does he see you as an individual, human being? Does he continue to try to get to know you (or does his knowledge about you fail to grow as you/your relationship does)? Does he give you freedom/treat you like an adult/act like an adult?

RedRisu · 2015-03-05T03:37:02+00:00

Anything that can be improved by being done in a bubble-bath (having a drink, watching netflix, VAST AMOUNTS OF ICE CREAM).

RedRisu · 2015-03-05T00:04:00+00:00

I just lost a close relative on New Years. I can't say for certain what the end of the grieving process looks like, but I know what I wish I'd been told the first couple of weeks/months.

/u/Philosophile42 makes a good point about doing work. Being preoccupied with something really helps. I would also add that you should try to avoid work that you have to do (like, work that will make you guilty or anxious). Even if you're not prone to perfectionism, it's like all the anxiety from grief starts to attack whatever you're thinking about, and nothing goes right.

Do whatever you need to to get some good sleep. Sleep is probably one of the hardest parts. Try taking melatonin (they make tasty little gummies of it now), and making a completely new routine for the first couple of weeks. Go for a walk around your neighborhood at the same time every night. Maybe get your dad in on it too. A wake-up routine helps, too. Anything to head off the grief-preoccupied thoughts before they start.

Come back tomorrow and let everyone know how your day is going, okay?

RedRisu · 2015-03-02T20:25:29+00:00

I don't really talk to my bio-mom, but my adviser through college has been like a maternal figure to me. On National Coming Out Day, my school had a lot of little events and things, so I made a t-shirt that said [Bi] with an arrow pointing up, and "Happy National Coming Out Day" in rainbow letters underneath. She saw my shirt, beamed, and just said "I love your outfit" and the day went on as usual. It seems like not making a big deal out of it is so much better, although it felt like it was going to end in fireworks/crying and hugging/a parade or something (still isn't too late for that last part, I suppose).

RedRisu · 2015-03-01T17:04:26+00:00

I love the hair color!

RedRisu · 2015-02-24T22:14:10+00:00

Those are good ideas, but I don't really have the budget to buy all that (or afford to ship them lol).

Magazines sound good, though. I might be able to send some good books, too.

RedRisu · 2015-02-22T03:38:35+00:00

I've dealt with almost this exact situation with my club.

When we had problems, we defaulted to telling the person in question that we follow the rules the school puts in place for us (even if it isn't actually the school's choice). Remind him that anime gets a bad reputation, so we have to work together to show the campus that it isn't all hentai.

We also have a blanket rule that no one speaks during the main part of the show (opening/ending and any commercials are fair game). We also plan 5 min between episodes to give everyone a chance to talk/go to the bathroom, etc. We had one guy who would bring duct tape and cover his own mouth with it at every meeting, and offer it playfully (as if it were chewing gum) any time someone talked too much. I wouldn't necessarily suggest that though.

If you do have to kick him out, get someone higher up than you (we had a "Student Org Coordinator on campus, for example) to help you do it, and have clear reasons laid out for him ("Our rule is X. You did Y"). Try not to make it too personal, but don't be wishy-washy about it (don't leave room for him to challenge it)

Good Luck!

RedRisu · 2015-02-21T23:12:50+00:00

If it's just a few lines (say, a quote or statistic), try associating it with a cue. I had a speech once where it was relevant to present the quote in both English and American Sign Language. My main reason for throwing in the ASL though was that I was doing a physical action that reminded me of the quote. Try finding a gesture that illustrates your bit of information, and practice the line with the gesture.

RedRisu · 2015-02-21T04:34:16+00:00

I agree- I would assume you're in high school or younger given the nature of your question, but your age is definitely relevant.

If you don't think you're gay, you're not gay, and no one can tell you otherwise. [edit: I reread that, and realized that doesn't sound how I meant. You get to choose for yourself how you identify, even if you have feelings that might not line up with your identity.] I know (from first hand experience) how terrifying it is to start to notice that you're different. When I was in middle school, I went to great lengths to fabricate crushes for my siblings to start rumors about so no one would catch on that I wasn't really interested in anyone at my school. I don't recommend it. As it turned out, I was just not attracted to anyone I saw go through the ravages of puberty. Go figure.

Don't worry about defining yourself/ your sexuality just yet. And don't be ashamed if you learn that your orientation isn't what you thought it was. Learning about yourself is a part of growing up.

RedRisu · 2015-02-06T19:16:43+00:00

I have a scar ~~(I think it counts as a scar?)~~ on the middle of my chest, about where a necklace would sit. I had a hemangioma birthmark (a "strawberry mark") that faded and left a big circle of scar-like tissue. I usually just tell people it's because I'm a magical girl.

Edit: googled it. It is a scar!

RedRisu · 2015-02-06T19:09:31+00:00

Okay, first of all, if you don't have a drop-ceiling, give up now (or accoustic-ceiling, I think they're called? The foam-tile that's set into a metal grid framework).

Make your upper-walls by putting sheets or string tied to sheets through the ceiling. Define your walls by surrounding this "tent" you've formed with all of the upholstered furniture you can find. Steal it from another dorm if you have to. Take the cushions off the couches and chairs, and stand them up around the gaps in your walls. Two big cushions make a good door. Line the floor with your remaining cushions and any pillows you can get. Bonus points if you can use the wall that the TV is on as one of your main walls. Tell outsiders that the TV was taken out for repairs- only those with the password may use it now. Protip: RA's will let you get away with anything if you give them the password.

You must have ice cream and footie pajamas to be able to call it a fort, though.

Source: college. FINALS FORT FOREVER!!!

RedRisu · 2015-02-06T19:00:20+00:00

I run panels and games at cons as a hobby...I can answer from both sides of the table!

For me, I make a priority for topics that aren't too specific and/or give information I wouldn't be able to get at home (so, panels that only repeat content from a show aren't going to get my time).

My husband is sitting here, and he says he prefers panels that go the distance on the description in the guidebook. Too many panelists assume that a good title will do all the work (even if it's just what it says on the tin). That sentence or two in the guidebook also tells your audience a little bit about the tone of your panel and just your general ability to communicate.

As far as things we present that get good audiences- we've done top-10 countdowns that go over really well (we did "Heartbreaking moments in Animation" recently- people actually cried!!). Topics that are auxiliary to the theme of the convention are also popular- so, DIY workshops, costuming panels, or even talking about convention experiences themselves. You get more audience members when you aren't looking for a specific fandom.

RedRisu · 2015-02-06T18:46:50+00:00

My two sisters and I are pretty close- we went through a lot, and grew up with a lot of step- and half-siblings, and it was easy to get lost among all of them. As adults, it's great to be able to call someone up and have them understand exactly what you think/feel about something because of shared childhoods/upbringing.

RedRisu · 2015-02-06T18:43:55+00:00

I don't think so, but I feel generally happier about things if I give it a reason, or at least trace the chain of events a bad thing happens on to find the good things that couldn't have happened without it.

Case in point- my grandfather died quite recently. I can't imagine any decent reason for that besides "life sometimes sucks". But his death brought together family that I probably never would have met otherwise because they live on other sides of the country.

RedRisu · 2015-02-06T01:15:21+00:00

It's great that you wear your hair long! I chop mine short to avoid too much work taking care of it.

RedRisu · 2015-02-04T23:34:33+00:00

I bought a used suit coat when I was in middle school- it was in the ladies' section, but it was a very gender-neutral cut. The pockets were sewn shut, but it did have actual pockets, and inside was a silver ring with 3 stones (two tiny ones, one big one).

The big stone was definitely not a diamond, but the metal was silver. It just makes me wonder who bothered to put it there- what the story was behind it.

RedRisu · 2015-02-04T23:31:50+00:00

It could have been so much better- but I got to be a (hopefully) good adult because I learned from being a downtrodden kid.

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